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Source: Dann Tardif / Getty I make my living talking to women. Black Women particularly. And in our colorful   conversations filled with numerous topics ranging from eyebrows to periods to the latest Game of Thrones episode, we talk about sex.   And no I’m not talking about “oh and then we made love on a bed of roses” romanticised lady-like sex, we talk about how you lifted it up and pounded it out and left me on a bed of my juices dead.   Sorry, it’s the truth.   And head is never something I’ve heard omitted from the sexual conversation. I can’t ignore the history of Black women’s relationship with fellatio. I can tell you in middle school and up until college people would talk about it with a scrunched up “oooo that’s nasty” stank face.   But then we grew up.   Foreplay is an essential part of sex and any sexually active adult should know that by now. While I can’t deny that I’ve heard women talk about feeling insecure about their skills or maybe not porn star Angel grapefruit  confident about it, I haven’t heard a grown Black woman say “oh I would never do that.” Sunday night’s episode of I nsecure and it’s subsequent head discussion came off rather, immature. It reminds me of those 90 rap lyrics when men were really talking about going down on women like it was a thing for the simps and “nice guys” But every grown ass man knows successfully going down on a woman is a grown ass man’s sport. And I feel that modern day Black woman takes the same pride in her head game. Now, the final load shot in Issa’s eye could teeter the line of disrespect depending on who you ask. My camp, I say sex is messy and shit happens and he gave her a warning. Other women could say “well that ain’t her man and he should’ve known better.” I can’t judge either perspective. But I will say among my cohort of bad ass, brilliant sexually liberated friends, head is not taboo. It is celebrated and when done well, a bragging right.   The Insecure narrative around head was just a little too 1989 in my opinion. Head is not reserved for White girls and hoes and freaks and ‘get on your knees man pleasers.’ It’s an important part of sex. Let’s grow up. Take the poll: Take Our Poll Editors note (since y’all be trippin) my opinions are isolated to my experiences with the Black girl friends I’ve acquired from LA to NY. This is NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN.   RELATED LINKS Why Black Men Can’t Forgive Issa But They Can Forgive Themselves For Cheating Safe Sex: Issa Rae Promises To Show More Condoms On ‘Insecure’ Season 3 Why Every Woman Should Be Repurposing Her Nudes  

Black Women Do Be Sucking D Y’all

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Source: Dann Tardif / Getty I make my living talking to women. Black Women particularly. And in our colorful   conversations filled with numerous topics ranging from eyebrows to periods to the latest Game of Thrones episode, we talk about sex.   And no I’m not talking about “oh and then we made love on a bed of roses” romanticised lady-like sex, we talk about how you lifted it up and pounded it out and left me on a bed of my juices dead.   Sorry, it’s the truth.   And head is never something I’ve heard omitted from the sexual conversation. I can’t ignore the history of Black women’s relationship with fellatio. I can tell you in middle school and up until college people would talk about it with a scrunched up “oooo that’s nasty” stank face.   But then we grew up.   Foreplay is an essential part of sex and any sexually active adult should know that by now. While I can’t deny that I’ve heard women talk about feeling insecure about their skills or maybe not porn star Angel grapefruit  confident about it, I haven’t heard a grown Black woman say “oh I would never do that.” Sunday night’s episode of I nsecure and it’s subsequent head discussion came off rather, immature. It reminds me of those 90 rap lyrics when men were really talking about going down on women like it was a thing for the simps and “nice guys” But every grown ass man knows successfully going down on a woman is a grown ass man’s sport. And I feel that modern day Black woman takes the same pride in her head game. Now, the final load shot in Issa’s eye could teeter the line of disrespect depending on who you ask. My camp, I say sex is messy and shit happens and he gave her a warning. Other women could say “well that ain’t her man and he should’ve known better.” I can’t judge either perspective. But I will say among my cohort of bad ass, brilliant sexually liberated friends, head is not taboo. It is celebrated and when done well, a bragging right.   The Insecure narrative around head was just a little too 1989 in my opinion. Head is not reserved for White girls and hoes and freaks and ‘get on your knees man pleasers.’ It’s an important part of sex. Let’s grow up. Take the poll: Take Our Poll Editors note (since y’all be trippin) my opinions are isolated to my experiences with the Black girl friends I’ve acquired from LA to NY. This is NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN.   RELATED LINKS Why Black Men Can’t Forgive Issa But They Can Forgive Themselves For Cheating Safe Sex: Issa Rae Promises To Show More Condoms On ‘Insecure’ Season 3 Why Every Woman Should Be Repurposing Her Nudes  

Black Women Do Be Sucking D Y’all