10 years of unpaid child support can really add up! Just ask DMX’s “alleged” baby mama. His reason for not paying? He doesn’t believe the baby is his! X’s ex, Patricia Trejo, was in L.A. Superior Court Thursday morning, arguing against a motion DMX filed in their ongoing paternity case — in which the rapper asked the court for permission to perform in Europe. But Patricia put her foot down in court Thursday — claiming DMX owed $1 million in unpaid child support, going back to her daughter’s birth over ten years ago … and she was tired of waiting around. Read More at TMZ
Dear Bossip , I have been divorced for the past four and a half years. I really hate my ex-husband, but have been using poor judgment and still sleeping with him since I lost my job. I have no income besides the child support he pays for our three children. But, he says I sex him so good that he will give me extra money if I have sex with him, which I foolishly have done. One of my New Year resolutions was to stop having sex with him, money or no money. Now I had a suspicion that I was pregnant, and I took the test and it came back positive. I tried telling him but he is being rude and nasty because I reject his many requests and propositions for sex. I would not have a problem keeping this child but I am currently not in an ideal situation for another one. I have no job, no car, I recently lost my home, and my family and I had to move in with family. And before you go there, yes, protection was used. If it broke he lied or didn’t let me know. What do you think I should do? – Feeling Foolish And Lost Dear Ms. Feeling Foolish And Lost , Sigh! I can’t this morning. Where do they breed you women? Someone please show me the farm or cave where these women are being manufactured. I know you’re out there chewing crud and grazing in the fields. You really hate your ex-husband, but yet you continue to sleep with him? Hmmmm. Then, because you lost your job and have no income, your husband proposes that he will give you extra money for child support if you have sex with him, and your dumbass agrees?!?! SMDH! I’m sorry but the only women I know who have sex for money are prostitutes, tricks, and hoes. Is that you? Now, your trick ass is pregnant. You have no job, no income, no car, and you live with your family. And, your ex-husband treats you rude and nasty because you won’t continue having sex with him? Girl, I really am done this morning. You have got to be the most asinine stupidest person walking on two legs. Wait, do you walk on two legs or four? LMBAO! Then, you have the audacity and nerve to sit up here and type that you have no problem keeping the child, but your situation is not ideal. Do you have any brain cells in your head? Do you have any ounce of intelligence or common sense? Why am I even asking you these questions, of course you don’t have any brain cells or common sense. You’re a donkey. I don’t want to tell you what to do with the child you’re carrying because when someone like you knowingly and willingly sleep with someone and know the repercussions and possibilities of getting pregnant, and you know your ass is broke and disgusted, then you tell me what you should do? You’re the one who CHOSE to lay in the bed. You’re the one who CHOSE to spread your legs from east to west. You’re the one who CHOSE to sell your body as the hoe you are. And, now you want to know what to do? Girl, please step away from me and the computer screen before I reach through the screen and punch you in the face. But, here is the thing: You’ve been divorced for the past four and a half years. Sooooo, you’ve been having sex with him all this time? Girl, you’re giving me a headache. I don’t even want to answer your damn letter. How can you possibly hate someone so much, yet you lay down, spread your legs, and let them climb on top of you and do their business? Do you value yourself? Do you have any morals or values? Do you have any self-worth or self-esteem? You see, you’re the type of person that makes people want to smack the –ish out of you. I would reach all the way back and do a roundhouse jump and slap you in your MoFo mouth. How dare you ask me what you should do when you put yourself in this damn predicament? How dare you try to play victim and feel betrayed and misused due to the decisions that you made to keep sleeping with your ex-husband? There is a reason he is your ex! There is a reason you’re divorced! There is a reason he treats you the way he does! Please wake up and stop allowing yourself to be used and manipulated. Know your worth and value. Become a woman with a backbone and a stance. Oh, my bad, that requires you knowing that you are a woman with some worth and value. Think about this, and then I’m going to be done with you because it is taking everything out of me to know find out where you live and beat your ass with a belt and bust you upside your head to the white meat with the brass buckle. Your ex-husband does nothing to help you in your situation. You’re broke, homeless, no car, no job, and no money. At no point has your ex-husband made any effort to help you, yet he wants you to lay down with him and bang his lights out? I am truly led to believe that you want to get back with your ex-husband. You have a secret desire that the two of you will work things out and live happily ever after. You’re hoping that by continuing to sleep with him that your snatch will make him realize the error of his ways and come running back to you. Well, look here Ms. Hee-Haw, he hasn’t, he isn’t, and he won’t. You’re just someplace to dump his seeds and use as his personal nut rag. I am begging you and urging you to please think about your unborn child, and your other three children. Think about the situation you will bring this child into and how you’re emotionally, and mentally inept to care for this child. Think about your family you’re living with and how they may not be so receptive and welcoming of having you bring another child into their home. And, think about the mouths you have to feed right now, and how it is a struggle to feed and clothe your current three children. As matter of fact, why am I even asking you to think, that requires using your brain and we all know that you don’t have one. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? 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Dear Bossip , I dated a man off and on for almost 10 years. Our relationship was long distance and it was more off than on. In February, he moved to my city for our relationship and a month later I discovered I was pregnant. He freaked out and told me I had to choose between him and the baby I was carrying. I chose the baby. It wasn’t a hard choice. He began to tell me all the lies and things he had done in the past to get me to see that I did not want to raise a child with him. For example, he was 19 years old when we met, not 21 like he told me. And, he had even married someone during one of the times when we were not together. When I still refused to have an abortion he said he would not be a part of the child’s life and would only do what child support made him. When my daughter was born I didn’t invite him to the hospital. I let him know later and he demanded a blood test. After she was proven his, he wanted to work out child support payments between us, but did not want to see his daughter. I had already started the process of child support when we went to court. The judge ripped him a new on and thoroughly embarrassed him. He left in tears, but I think that it had more to do with the amount that he is required to pay. The judge gave me full custody of our daughter and gave him one supervised visitation day per week. The judge encouraged me to be open to supervised visits if he wanted them. I was given full custody because he sent me several emails begging me to, “kill ‘it’ so we could be together.” And, “This ‘thing’ was ruining our plans.” And, even after she was born he still referred to her as ‘it’ and ‘thing,’ and nothing more than a financial obligation, and the sooner he starts paying the sooner he’ll get done. So, the judge said, “Okay, you just want to pay and have no say, so be it.” That was 3 weeks ago and yesterday he called for his first visit. This visit is in my orders, and it says as long as it does not inconvenience me. So, I am not breaking the law if I don’t allow him a supervised visit. I can supervise him myself or allow him to use a court appointed supervision service. I am completely revolted by this person and I don’t trust him around me or our daughter. I feel like I’d need to be strapped, but I don’t want to have that on around my daughter. The judge only urged me to allow visitation, but said she understood if I had concerns and stopped just short of taking away his rights. I love our daughter so much words can’t describe it, and the selfish part of me is happy that she is legally all mine and that I have complete say so over her life, but I also know that children need both parents. Do you think it is possible that he could change enough to where I could allow him to visit our daughter or be around her alone? Concerned Mommie Dear Ms. Concerned Mommie , This is what I want you to do: I want you to start waking up extra early and watch the morning news shows like the Today Show , and Good Morning America . I want you to notice the current news stories about little children who are with one parent while on visitation and then all of a sudden, in the middle of the night, someone comes into the home and takes the child from their crib. Then, the next day the police are searching high and low looking for a mysterious child abductor who came into the home while everyone was sleeping and took the child, with no visible signs of forced entry, and the police, the community, and the parent who had the child are stumped of why and who would come into the home and take the child. And, you know what happens next? Fingers and evidence start pointing toward the parent who the child was left with, who is crying and acting all hysterical on the news talking about, “Please bring my baby back home. I love my child.” And, the child is found buried or in some lake or river not too far from the house. Then, we learn that the couple was in a bitter custody battle and case, and the only way to get rid of their financial problem, or to hurt and make the other parent angry they harm the child. Now, I ask you, he told you when you were pregnant that you had to choose between him and the baby, and when you chose the baby he told you that he wants no part of the child’s life, and that he would only do what child support made him. Then when the child was born he wanted a blood test, and when she was proven to be his he still didn’t want to see her, and he only refers to your child as ‘it,’ ‘thing,’ and nothing more than a financial obligation; now, I want to know if you think it’s okay to leave your daughter alone with this man? (I’m perched in front of the computer screen in my chair with my hand under my chin waiting for you to respond) You see, this is exactly why I don’t believe in long distance relationships. Especially being with someone for 10 years, and you don’t live in the same state, and he doesn’t put a ring on your finger or ask you to marry him in all that time. You don’t know what MoFo’s are doing while you’re not there. They can tell you anything at night when they do their routine check-in call. Girl, puhlease. Y’all better get out of these long distance relationships in 2012. Besides, who sits around and waits for someone for 10 years, and you live in two different states!?! Where they do that at???? You got to be a ditzy broad to sit and believe that your man was faithful and monogamous all that time while you were in another state. And, then this fool moves to where you are because all-of-a-sudden he decides that he wants to be in a fully committed relationship with you, but soon after you become pregnant and this knee-grow shows his ass. But, hold up, it gets better. He then proceeds to become Mr. Confessional and shares all the lies he’s told you over the past 10 years. My gosh, that must have taken a few days. And, then this fool tells you that he married someone else when you two were supposedly not together at one point. Uhm, ma’am, this was your “Player Free” card to get Angela Bassett on his ass and do a Waiting To Exhale on him. I don’t believe that you can be that oblivious and naïve and be with someone for 10 years, and then they all of a sudden they show you their ass for you to kiss, and you happily oblige. There had to been some clues, signs, hand signals, gestures, smoke signals, Morse Code, Braille inscriptions, or something. But, Ms. Honey, I’m sorry and I have to stress this over again, he revealed to you all of the lies he ever told you over the course of your relationship, and he admitted to being married while you two were on the outs at one point. SMDH! I can’t! I can’t! I can’t! That’s some MF’ing –ish right there! Does he still have two balls? You should have grabbed them and snatched them off!!! And, let me be clear, you are writing me and asking if you can leave your child with him for his visitations? The same man who refers to your child as “it” and “thing” and a “financial obligation.” The same man who asked you to choose between him and your child? The same man who has told you that he wants nothing to do with the child? Again, you’re asking me if you can leave your child with him for his visitations? (Does anyone know how to do a brain cleanse of nut juice?) You see ladies, this is what happens to your brain on d**k. You live in a fog of contentment and so-called love. You’re disillusioned about your relationship, and you’ll keep holding out faith and hope that the man you spent time and energy on will one day, some day, be the man you want him to be. You’ll even consider leaving your child alone with him even after he’s told you that he doesn’t want any parts of her life, or to be acknowledged as the father. You will push and push and push him to be in the child’s life, and then I’ll be watching the morning shows with you on the screen falling out and screaming because someone took your child in the middle of the night while they were at their father’s house. Ms. Lady, don’t you leave your child alone with that man. Don’t force him to be in the child’s life if he doesn’t want to. And, if you need to carry your .45; Magnum; or pistol while you’re supervising the visit with him, then so be it. And, for extra precautionary measure you should have someone from the courts to accompany you. Therefore, both of you can put caps in his ass if he should decide to do something stupid or reckless. I would be watching him like a hawk. He better not make any sudden moves or slight gestures. POW! A bullet in his ass! – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
Last night was a BONUS episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta” and in case you missed it, you missed Sheree and Phaedra get served by Sheree’s ex-husband, Bob, in court. Unfortunately, Sheree and her ex-husband are still battling each other over child support, and when Bob beats Sheree to the punch by filing a petition to reduce his child support, Sheree hires her friend and lawyer, Phaedra to help her out with the case. Phaedra reminds Sheree that she still has the option to throw Bob in jail for failing to pay child support for the past four years, but who wants to see their child’s father sitting in a jail cell? Sheree decides to go ahead and take Bob back to court in attempts to get a substantial amount of child support for their children. Kim’s Baby Shower Turns Into A Complete Disaster! “RHOA” [RECAP] According to the housewives, the court system in Atlanta usually favors men especially high profile men like athletes which put Sheree in a tight situation. Although Sheree was nervous about the upcoming court date, Phaedra reassured her that everything would be okay, and to let her do all the talking. The day finally came for Sheree to face her ex in court, and although she was teary eyed, she put her big girl panties on, a pair of low pumps and slacks that hid her “big ol donky booty” and held her head high. Should Sheree Hound Her Ex Husband For Child Support? “RHOA” [RECAP] Less than five minutes into the case, Sheree’s ex hands the judge a Petition Contempt against Sheree, claiming that she took furniture from him during their divorce. Sheree wasn’t sweating, yet, as she stated, “Oh no, no, no, my attorney Phaedra Parks got something better for you boo!” But, Phaedra Parks had nothing. She was just as stunned as we were by Bob’s cleverness and ability to represent himself in court. I guess Sheree should have warned Phaedra ahead of time that Bob was a smart man, and had a degree from Stanford. They agreed to meet in court at a later date, so Phaedra could have time to review Bob’s petition. Later that afternoon, Sheree, Phaedra and Kandi meet for a quick lunch. Their conversation turns emotional with Sheree and Kandi begin talking about Sheree’s experience in court and Kandi’s experience with trying to get child support from her ex husband for her daughter Riley. It’s an emotional moment for the housewives, and it’s hard to watch these strong women broken down by their ex-men who aren’t active in their children’s lives. On a lighter note, Kim and Kroy finally bring baby KJ home and he’s as cute as a button! At least one housewife seemed to have a happy episode! What did you think about last night’s episode? Tweet me! @xoxoSHAR Nene Leakes: “I Don’t Like Sheree That Much” “RHOA’s” Peter Thomas On Sheree: “I Don’t Think She’s Cute” Was “Ridickulous” Too Ridiculous For Kandi’s Party? “RHOA” [RECAP]
It’s Tuesday and we’re watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta? Is anyone else confused? Due to the special night, we thought perhaps this would be a very merry holiday episode, Atlanta style. Instead things got downright down and dirty. Let’s break it down in THG’s +/- review! Bob’s dragging Sheree back to court to reduce his child support payments. Reduce it to what, you might ask, since he hasn’t paid a nickel in four years. Minus 15 . You can’t reduce nothing from nothing. So Sheree hires Phaedra to represent her and the legal diva gives Sheree some advice. First is to have Bob hauled off to jail for failing to make his support payments for four years. Plus 10 . Despite the current court case Sheree still has the right to hold his feet to the fire on that one but she backs down. She doesn’t want to do that to the father of her children. Minus 12 , honey. He’s got no problem bailing on his kids and he’d probably step over Sheree if she fell down in front of him. Isn’t it past time to kick a little Bob butt? Phaedra’s second piece of advice is that Sheree not drive up in her brand new Porsche or wear her most expensive outfit. Sheree is aghast. What she has shouldn’t matter and ideally she’s right but it’s not smart to ask for money when you’re holding a $16,000 purse. As Sheree is freaking out before court, Phaedra overcompensates, telling her how easy this case is going to be. Minus 8 . Never promise anything when you head to court. Anything can happen. In the end Bob used a stall tactic. He filed a contempt charge against his ex saying she took furniture that he should have gotten in the divorce. It’s completely lame but it did the trick. They’ll all have to go back to court once again. Sheree blames Phaedra because she promised her so much and delivered nothing. Honestly I don’t think there’s much Ms. Parks could have done here … other than not raise Sheree’s hopes. And if Sheree had taken Phaedra’s advice in the first place the deadbeat dad would be filing motions from a jail cell. Kandi decides to update her sets for her web based sex show Kandi Koated Nights. The sets don’t help much when your guests are sitting there texting while the show’s in progress. Tonight’s topic: How can women snare a pro-athlete? Her guest host Charles Grant basically says women shouldn’t act like hookers if they want to be treated like ladies. I’ll give him a Plus 5 for his directness. Then Kandi wants to know how he want from NeNe to girlfriend Marlo who happens to be sitting next to him. Minus 8 to Kandi. I know she’s looking to be salacious but it comes across low class. Charles says he’s never been with NeNe. Then Kandi starts prying into where Marlo got her money. I bet the couple was wondering why the hell they agreed to come on this tacky little show.  Oh, but Kandi did share her favorite sex positions with her audience. Isn’t that something we all need to know. I’m guessing Kandi will be using her show to pimp her new line of musical sex toys. Sounds like a perfect fit. After giving birth on Sunday’s episode , Kim and Kroy take KJ home. I wish it all surrounded the cute baby. Instead we had to endure more talk about Kim’s boobs, her father’s breastfeeding jokes, why Kim’s scared of her son’s penis, her awe over baby poop and then we got to watch the dog pee on the floor. Minus 10 . Good times. Unfortunately for Kroy, Kim has yet to change a diaper and Brielle is more interested in being a teenager than helping out. Does this guy have any clue what he’s gotten himself into. Somehow, after all that, we’re still stuck on the fact that it’s Tuesday. Just doesn’t seem right. EPISODE TOTAL: -38! SEASON TOTAL: -133!
We’re sure someone can help her. What about her friends??? According to TMZ reports : T-Boz ain’t too proud to beg — just like TLC sang back in the 90s — because she’s filed for bankruptcy. According to docs filed last month in U.S. Bankruptcy Court, T-Boz (real name Tionne Watkins) found herself owing creditors $768,642.99 — mostly from mortgages on her $1.2 million house. The docs don’t paint a picture of exorbitant spending — she takes in $11,700/month in income, with monthly expenses totaling $8,821. TLC had ten top ten singles, four number one singles, four multi-platinum albums, and four Grammy Awards … but according to the docs, T-Boz only pulls in $1,200/month in royalties. T-Boz might have dodged the bankruptcy bullet if she’d been able to collect the child support she claims she’s owed — which according to the docs is $250,000. Calls to her attorney were not returned. All jokes aside, we hope that T-Boz is able to get her money situation under control. It’s always sad to see someone who had so much success be under financial duress. More On Bossip! Galleries: Weezy’s Lil Girl Reginae Carter’s Cinderella Themed 13th Birthday Bash Boxing’s Baddest Bangers: The Most Beautiful Breezys Getting That Golden Glove Lovin’ Eff A Stylist: The Most Attention Sloriest Red Carpet Looks Of All Time One-Time For Yo’ Mind: A Gallery Of The Best Cop Television Shows Of All Time!!
Terrell Owens has asked a judge to lower his child support payments to baby mama Monique Reynolds because he can’t afford it. According to TMZ , the former NFL player wants a judge reduce the payments he’s making, and for them to “mirror his income today and not be based on income from over four years ago.” T.O. was due in court in Northern California for a child support hearing on October 24, but he did not show up. Lawyers for Reynolds wouldn’t reschedule. The former wide receiver’s audition for a new gig was scheduled the next day, but no one showed up! If you have kids you have to take care of them. Here’s hoping the courts will find a fair middle ground. T.O. also has a son that he’s never even bothered to meet. Terrell Owens Breaks Down In Tears Over Son He Never Met (VIDEO) Angry Fan Says Terrell Owens Is Down With The Illuminati [VIDEO] “I Don’t Do Water. I’m A Black Girl, I Don’t Swim!”, “The TO Show” [RECAP]
Our favorite housewives, the gang from “RHOA” is baaaack! Bravo has announced that the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” season 4 will premiere November 6! In the new trailer, the ATL ladies are back with even more drama than last season! We get to see Kim Zolciak dealing with her pregnancy and the arrival of her first son, Phaedra Parks working on opening up a funeral home, while her ex-con hubby Apollo and Cynthia Bailey’s hubby Peter get into it. And yes, Cynthia’s family still hates her husband! Sheree is taking her ex, Bob Whitfield, to court for child support, represented by none other than Phaedra. Kandi is working on a line of sex toys and writing country music songs, and NeNe Leakes does what she does best, getting into it with everyone, including the new housewife Marlo Hampton, who is the fiance of Charles Grant. But the drama isn’t limited to the ATL. The housewives get to visit South Africa! We can’t wait! Will you be watching? Take a look: Which Real Housewife Of Atlanta Is Leaving The Show? Guess Which “Atlanta Housewife” Is Pregnant? Kandi To Launch Sex Toy Line “Real Housewives Of Atlanta’s” Lisa Wu-Hartwell Splits From Hubby! Alleged New “RHOA”Cast Member Marlo Hampton Has A Criminal Past! ATL Housewives NeNe & Phaedra Face Off On Rickey Smiley! [EXCLUSIVE] Charles Grant Responds To NeNe Leakes Pregnancy Rumors [EXCLUSIVE]
Legendary rapper Scarface has been released from prison. The rap star was incarcerated since October 2010, for non-payment of child support to several women. He was accused of failing to pay child support on four cases, three in Texas and one in Missouri. Scarface is already in the studio working on his next album with all new material. Source: AllHipHop Recent Post: BLACK MUSIC MOMENT #23: Geto Boys First Album Released Scarface In Jail For Unpaid Child Support
Legendary rapper Scarface has been released from prison. The rap star was incarcerated since October 2010, for non-payment of child support to several women. He was accused of failing to pay child support on four cases, three in Texas and one in Missouri. Scarface is already in the studio working on his next album with all new material. Source: AllHipHop Recent Post: BLACK MUSIC MOMENT #23: Geto Boys First Album Released Scarface In Jail For Unpaid Child Support
