So, Maggie Gyllenhaal wore a bra to the Gotham Independent Film Awards, which is fine. And Kylie Jenner has green hair, which she sported at her older sisters' West Hollywood boutique, DASH. And a whole lot of other “sightings” went down in Hollywoodland. Check out the who, what and where (perhaps even why) of the past day or so. Oh yes, and that terrifying movie about the Christmas goblin premiered last night. Do yourselves a favor and behave, or Krampus will find you. 1. Kylie Jenner Leaves DASH Kylie Jenner stopped by her sisters’ store, Dash in West Hollywood, CA on November 30th, 2015. 2. Rachel McAdams: 25th Annual Gotham Independent Film Awards Rachel McAdams at the 25th Annual Gotham Independent Film Awards in New York on November 30th, 2015. 3. Scheana Shay at The Huffington Post Scheana Shay promoted ‘Vanderpump Rules’ at The Huffington Post in New York on November 30th, 2015. 4. Blake Shelton: The Ridiculous 6 Premiere Blake Shelton at the premiere Of Netflix’s ‘The Ridiculous 6’ in Universal City, CA on November 30th, 2015. 5. Helen Mirren: 25th Annual Gotham Independent Film Awards Helen Mirren posed for photos at the 25th Annual Gotham Independent Film Awards in New York on November 30th, 2015. 6. Jon Hamm Grabs A Cup of Coffee Jon Hamm grabbed a cup of coffee at Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf in Los Angeles on December 1st, 2015. View Slideshow
A few days ago, I was heading into my office early before I hit the gym so that I could put my lunch in the refrigerator. Over the course of my 20-minute drive, I started thinking about how much I was putting my life in danger . I’d be going into the office before anyone else was there. I’d be dressed in gym clothes. And if a cop were to somehow catch me leaving the office, there’d be no way he or she would believe that I actually work in the building. And when I’d try to show my key or ID, it could be mistaken for a gun. And I’d be killed. For the rest of my drive to work, I thought about all of the scenarios. I thought about calling my wife and telling her what I was about to do so she’d know in case she got a call that I’d been killed. I started to post on Twitter that I’d be heading to my office and I wasn’t trying to break into anything, so that there would be a written testimony for when the media brings up some detail on my past to justify my death. These are the things I felt I needed to do to prepare for the possibility of running into American police. Because being Black in America means I’m perpetually putting my life in danger. I ended up just going to the gym and not even trying to go to the office early. ================ I remember hearing stories of suicide bombers in places like Baghdad and thinking about how terrifying it must be to not know when the next bomb was coming. This was right after 9/11 and we were inundated with stories of how dangerous life was for a Middle Eastern kid living in Al-Qaeda territories. In America, I’d felt like disasters on a 9/11 were scary, but they’d only happen at places like the World Trade Center or the Statue of Liberty. These kids in Iraq, though, were scared of being bombed at their coffee shops or buying fabric from the market. That just seemed like an entirely different terror to deal with. It haunted me to think about living in a circumstance in which any attempt to leave my house puts my life in danger. I feel that same terror. In 2015. In America. I’ve seen actual video of Black people murdered by police while driving to work, getting gas, riding their bikes and walking down the street. In 2003, 1.5 people were killed by suicide bomb every day in Iraq. In 2015, 2.3 people are killed by police every day. I don’t say this to compare the fears or say which situation was worse, but I do feel like we are living in a war zone. A country where citizens are in fear of a government-funded regime that’s determined to murder individuals with no recourse. And this can happen on our way to the store, at the park or on our own front porches. I’ve known too many Black men whose wives won’t let them go to a CVS to pick up a carton of eggs after dark. I know too many women who have to send text messages every 15 minutes of a road trip to reassure friends and loved ones that they haven’t been stopped by a cop. This isn’t living. This is surviving in a war zone. And we all have PTSD. I’ve seen PTSD firsthand. My father was a Freedom Rider and Civil Rights activist who saw friends die. He’s had police guns pointed at his temple and he’s woken up wondering how he survived the previous day. I’ve seen kids in New Orleans who survived Katrina and wouldn’t take showers even a year after the storm passed. Some kids, whose parents abandoned them to survive the storm, can’t be left alone for fear an adult is never coming back. I know the effects of PTSD well. And we all are suffering from it. There’s only so long we can watch people who look like us get gunned down daily and witness the murderers suffer zero consequences before it starts to affect us. It’s hard to imagine sometimes that the deaths of people we’ve never met before could affect us so much. That we’d not want to go to work the next morning or hang out because we were too affected by people who look like us getting killed. There have been days when I’ve seen a hashtag and haven’t wanted to get out of bed in the morning. A few weeks ago, I took a couple of days off of Twitter and was afraid to get back on because I didn’t want to see all the new hashtags I’d missed. Last night, there was another kid murdered by police in St. Louis and the script is the same. And it’s triggering. Police feel threatened. Boy accused of having a gun. People want answers. Gas bombs. Rubber bullets. It’s a nightmare that we relive every day. And it has tangible effects. America feels like a war zone. I don’t feel safe. I don’t feel like my life matters here. I feel like I’m at war in a battle that where I don’t have any weapons. It’s hard to tell myself not to live in fear. To defy the gun barrels aimed at my Blackness and enjoy my life. To tell my son that he can enjoy his youth and feel free here. Sometimes just feeling human seems impossible in America. Happiness is survival here. Functioning is a luxury. I just want to stay Black and live. And a lot of times, that’s the best I can do.
Elephants, Fireworks Among Surprises At Michael Jai White And Gillian Waters’ Wedding Actors Michael Jai White and Gillian Waters tied the knot in a lavish Fourth of July weekend ceremony in Thailand, BOSSIP can reveal. White and Waters wed July 3 in front of less than 40 guests at the estate of film producer and finance exec Michael Selby, and his wife, Jantana. “We decided to get married in Thailand after completing our new Sony Pictures film, ‘Never Back Down 3,’ which we are both starring in,” Waters told BOSSIP, “so it seemed like a great idea to have a Thai style wedding.” The “Spawn” star and his Tyler Perry actress bride were escorted down the aisle by a procession of elephants. The couple then greeted their guests before a Thai officiant performed a traditional Thai water blessing. Then the ceremony moved to the estate’s riverfront lotus pond, there the couple exchanged vows and platinum and diamond wedding rings. The bride wore a white and gold Thai silk number in traditional Thai design, with an asymmetrical top and mermaid bottom. “My dress is gorgeous!” Waters gushed to BOSSIP. “I feel like an exotic queen in it.” Following the ceremony, guests feasted on a wedding dinner of pad thai with prawns, crab fried rice, curried chicken satay, Thai fruits and sticky sweet rice with mango and coconut milk. The wedding cake was a three-tiered creation from Bangkok bakery Coffee Beans By Dao. The night ended with a fireworks show on the river. BOSSIP’s exclusive photo shows Michael Jai White and Gillian Waters at their wedding in Thailand Waters said she and White met in 1997 in an LA club. “We were both attracted to one another, but neither one of us is very forward or overly flirtatious, we are kind of really cool nerds, so we just started casually dancing and talking.” Waters recalled. They dated for a while and then broke it off as their careers took over. “We remained friends for 18 years,” Waters said. “In 2013, we reconnected romantically. Michael was sick in the hospital and called me and told me he had always loved me, I was the one that got away and wanted to try our love again…I most definitely said yes!” Now that the wedding is done, the couple is taking some time off for their honeymoon. “We plan on taking a relaxing vacation on the beautiful beaches of southern Thailand and then heading back home to the states,” Waters said. “Michael had to start editing the movie we just finished and we both have projects lined up.”
Elephants, Fireworks Among Surprises At Michael Jai White And Gillian Waters’ Wedding Actors Michael Jai White and Gillian Waters tied the knot in a lavish Fourth of July weekend ceremony in Thailand, BOSSIP can reveal. White and Waters wed July 3 in front of less than 40 guests at the estate of film producer and finance exec Michael Selby, and his wife, Jantana. “We decided to get married in Thailand after completing our new Sony Pictures film, ‘Never Back Down 3,’ which we are both starring in,” Waters told BOSSIP, “so it seemed like a great idea to have a Thai style wedding.” The “Spawn” star and his Tyler Perry actress bride were escorted down the aisle by a procession of elephants. The couple then greeted their guests before a Thai officiant performed a traditional Thai water blessing. Then the ceremony moved to the estate’s riverfront lotus pond, there the couple exchanged vows and platinum and diamond wedding rings. The bride wore a white and gold Thai silk number in traditional Thai design, with an asymmetrical top and mermaid bottom. “My dress is gorgeous!” Waters gushed to BOSSIP. “I feel like an exotic queen in it.” Following the ceremony, guests feasted on a wedding dinner of pad thai with prawns, crab fried rice, curried chicken satay, Thai fruits and sticky sweet rice with mango and coconut milk. The wedding cake was a three-tiered creation from Bangkok bakery Coffee Beans By Dao. The night ended with a fireworks show on the river. BOSSIP’s exclusive photo shows Michael Jai White and Gillian Waters at their wedding in Thailand Waters said she and White met in 1997 in an LA club. “We were both attracted to one another, but neither one of us is very forward or overly flirtatious, we are kind of really cool nerds, so we just started casually dancing and talking.” Waters recalled. They dated for a while and then broke it off as their careers took over. “We remained friends for 18 years,” Waters said. “In 2013, we reconnected romantically. Michael was sick in the hospital and called me and told me he had always loved me, I was the one that got away and wanted to try our love again…I most definitely said yes!” Now that the wedding is done, the couple is taking some time off for their honeymoon. “We plan on taking a relaxing vacation on the beautiful beaches of southern Thailand and then heading back home to the states,” Waters said. “Michael had to start editing the movie we just finished and we both have projects lined up.”
Don’t get mad over the lack of nudity in Mad Max: Fury Road, see Charlize Theron’s furry road in 1997’s Devil’s Advocate ! Plus, Charlotte Hope bared all 3 Bs on this week’s Game of Thrones , and Laura Donnelly puts the cream in our coffee with a breast milk scene on Outlander !
Here’s the second installment of our brand new ongoing series Slaying Goliath With David D . This time, he tackles the way the media has portrayed the protesters in Baltimore. You ever notice how prominent Black figures don’t get called “intelligent” enough? You ever wonder why the CNNs and Fox News outlets are treating protests like they are? Well David D. has some insight. Comment, share and subscribe.
Dear Bossip , I’ve been cheating on my boyfriend for the last 6 years with a man who’s 20 years older than me, and he’s my sugar daddy. I’m 27 years old and my boyfriend is 31 years old. We have 4 kids together – 12, 9, 8 and 6 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 13 years. We met when I was 14 years old and he was 18 years old. I lied about my age and he ended up getting in trouble because my mom called the cops once she found out I was pregnant. He ended up getting probation and now has to be on the sex offender registry for 20 years. He moved across country with his dad and I ended up dropping out of high school and running away a couple years after that to be with him. Our life has been nothing but hell. He beats me, spits on me, threw my down the stairs while I was pregnant with our 3 rd child, and he blames me for his life’s failures. It got worse when he lost his job 8 years ago. He began to drink. He’s nothing but a lazy bum who sits on his ass all day and smokes weed and sells dope. Sometimes I hate him, but then I realize I love him. I had to pick up the slack and start stripping to keep food on the table. He got arrested and sentenced to 3 years when my youngest child was 2 months old. My girl at the club told me how she has sex with older men for money and since I was struggling she hooked me up with “Mark.” Mark has been married for 20 years and has 6 grown kids. He told me he wanted sex in exchange for cash and gifts, but I had to be discreet. I told him, “Hell, yes,” and that began our affair. During the first 3 years I got pregnant 4 times. He doesn’t like using condoms. So, I had 4 abortions upon his request and he paid me $5,000 all 4 times for my troubles. I didn’t mind because I didn’t want any more kids anyways. Besides, how the hell was I going to explain 4 kids to my boyfriend? LOL! I also got 2 STDs, but to be honest I don’t know if he gave it to me or not because I also was messing around with 3 other guys for money. But, he paid me $1,000 both times for my “troubles.” He’s bought me a car and a 4 bedroom house and told me to stop stripping. My boyfriend ended up getting out of prison after 3 years, but I continued my affair with Mark. Things started to get crazy and Mark started confessing his love for me. He would show up at my house uninvited when my boyfriend was home. Mark threatened to tell him the truth. I told him I would tell his wife, but he said he didn’t care because he loved me and he was leaving her for me. He said now that my boyfriend is out of jail then me and him “only” could leave and get away and start a life in NOLA. I felt that I loved him and I agreed. He didn’t want me to take my kids because he didn’t want to deal with the burden. I told my boyfriend that I couldn’t take the stress anymore, so I left to New Orleans with Mark. I didn’t 3 months until I returned home. I felt guilty and I realized I loved my boyfriend and kids more than Mark and his money. I think my mind was twisted with all the drugs I was using during that time. I don’t know, but I was petty to do that to my kids. My boyfriend ended up taking me back with open arms, probably because raising 4 kids is hard. LOL! I also found out that my boyfriend got a job, so I know that I wanted to be with him and things are looking up. Plus, he finally stopped hitting me. So, right there proves he’s changed and he loves me again. I cut Mark off, but he wasn’t happy and began to stalk me. He would wait in front of my house, at my kid’s school, and at grocery stores. One time he ran up to me and punched me in my eye. I told my boyfriend I ran into a door. He would call and hang up. Like, I don’t understand this man. He’s absolutely loony. He’s not acting like a 47 year old CEO. He texted me one day saying that he would leave me alone if I did a porn tape with him and his 4 friends for $15,000. I reluctantly agreed because I just wanted this fool out of my life. When I got to his hotel he pulled a gun out on me and threatened to kill me. Then, for 6 hours he tormented and beat me. I went to a friend’s house for 5 days because how was I supposed to explain the bruises to my boyfriend or cops. He still won’t leave me alone after a year. I’m scared he could kill me or my family. Why doesn’t he understand I don’t love him and all I loved was his money? I want my family and I’m happy. I just found out that me and my boyfriend are expecting out 5 th child. So, he needs to butt out and go back to his wife or find somebody else. I even told him I would help him find another girl, but he said no. What did I do to deserve this? I made mistakes in life but damn. What should I do? – Ms. Crazy Life Dear Ms. Crazy Life , Chile, this story got me pouring vodka in my coffee! If my nerves are bad, then I know your nerves are shook! Who lives this type of life? Who goes through all of this and feels this is what life is about? The amount of damage and harm you’ve done to your mind and body is beyond comprehending. Ma’am, you’ve had four abortions, and two STDs. That is a huge toll on your body, and I haven’t included the mental and emotional stress you are adding to your body. Then, you are in an abusive relationship with your boyfriend. You have four children you have to take care of and provide for. Thus, you started stripping to feed your family because your boyfriend didn’t have a job. And, then you engage in a sexual relationship with one of the customers in order to make more easy money, but your relationship with him turned volatile. I need more vodka. Your life is a big huge mess. It is one drama after another. You ran away from home after you got pregnant at 14 years old by your 18 year old boyfriend. Your mother did the right thing in telling the authorities. Thus, he was put on a sex offender registry, but because you were too fast and too damn grown, you felt you knew better than your mother, and you left home to be with him. Now, after 13 years you reflect back over your life. I bet hindsight is your friend now. All of your actions, and all of your decisions are based on your inept ability to make rationale choices for the betterment of your life, or your children’s lives. Notice this is a pattern which began at 14 years of age. You lied to your 18 year old boyfriend, and as a result it sent your life into a tailspin. You made the choice of an immature teenager, and you still continue to make immature teenage choices. It’s obvious you have poor decision-making skills, and you clearly do not know how to effectively think things through before acting on them. Thus, it explains your choice to run away from home at 14, and then produce several children out of wedlock. It explains your hasty decision to become a stripper to make fast money instead of getting a job, and going back to school to better yourself. Then, to make even more fast money you feel it is okay to prostitute yourself to a man 20 years your senior. The relationship with Mark, like the relationship with your boyfriend, has proven to be toxic, dangerous, and volatile. Mark will not leave you alone because you and he had an arrangement. You had an agreement of services to provide, and you continued to do so at the cost of the damage to your body. He didn’t care about you, nor did he or does he love you. He wants to control you, and he is doing it with money and other material things. You are the lost 14 year little girl still trying to find her way, and you have predator men who see the damaged little girl trapped in a grown woman’s body. The fact that you were able to up and leave your children for 3 months and go to another state proves you are mentally and emotionally underdeveloped. You left your children because money was more important to you. You left your children because you felt you would have a better life with a man who cared nothing about you, but to control you. Notice that you did the very same thing you did when you were 14 years old, you ran away. You haven’t changed. You are still that little girl. Running and trying to find herself, and running to men to be saved. You need intense counseling and psychological care. You do not need to be in a relationship, but, instead you need to be working on yourself and working to save your children from the potential mental and emotional damage you have passed on to them. The cycle will repeat with your children if you do not begin the process of healing, and working on your own potential psychological issues. Your boyfriend is an abuser. Though, he may have a job now, and things may seem to be okay in the home, it does not exclude him from the abuse he’s done to you. He’s still an abuser. Things are good now. But, not for long. He will return to the same behavior because he still blames you for his life’s failures, and everything else that has prevented him from the life he feels he deserve. You are the catalyst and blame for it, and he will continue to beat you, and mistreat you. Get out of this relationship. It’s not healthy, and it’s toxic. You are both co-dependent on each other, and because he’s all you know, and you’re all that he knows you remain because you’re both hurt and damaged and feel no one else will want you. In regards to Mark, you have to tell someone. I recommend telling the police. You have to get this man out of your life, or else he will kill you. You need to get a restraining order, and you need to call the police every time this man shows up at your home, or wherever you are. He is doing this because he knows you’re afraid, and he is intimidating you. Though, you have been in a 6 year consensual relationship, and you have benefitted from it financially, it will be hard to prove in court or with the police. Therefore, you have to keep a record, and journal of his stalking, texts, emails, or other forms of communication. Document all his threats. I’m sure you have photos of yourself on your cell phone when he beat you. Save them and use them. You have to tell your boyfriend what is going on, and you have to also tell a good friend. The more people you tell, and you let them know how afraid you are, the more witnesses you have created to help your story. So, this means you have to start being honest. You have to be honest with yourself, and your boyfriend. You’ve been lying to him, and part of your toxic relationship is due to your behavior and what you’ve done in this relationship. You are partially to blame, and you have to own up to your part of this. You’re pregnant with your fifth child, and at some point you’re going to have to start living a life of an adult and not some little girl. It’s time to grow up, be honest, and start telling the truth. You have to build strong support systems and surround yourself with positive people. And, you have to be willing to want to change. Know it’s going to take some time, and it will not happen overnight. You’ve been doing what you’ve been doing for 13 years, so it is a hard habit to break. But, you have to or else you will continue to repeat these patterns in your life. Your children will grow up and repeat these patterns as well. If you don’t make any significant changes in your life, and get out of these toxic relationship, even the toxic relationship you have with yourself, then you will destroy yourself, and your children. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! 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Bill Rancic thinks everyone has to calm the eff down. In a manner of speaking, that is. Rancic appeared on The Today Show this morning and stood staunchly up for Giuliana Rancic, who got into boiling hot water a couple months ago after making a joke about Zenday’s outfit at the Academy Awards. Bill Rancic Stands up for Giuliana Rancic Rancic criticized the young star’s look at the event by saying it appeared as if the 18-year old “smells like patchouli oil… or maybe weed.” The backlash came quickly and strongly against Giuliana, who apologized on multiple occasions for what many deemed to be a racist remark. Bill Rancic, however, doesn’t think his wife owes anyone any kind of mea culpa. “Her intent was to make a hippie joke,” he said today. “We knew that she didn’t do anything wrong.” In Giuliana’s defense, he’s most likely right. Moreover, Giuliana said it on E!’s Fashion Police, which is a program that encourages panelists to say mean things about celebrities. Bill said during Monday’s interview that had Joan Rivers still been hosting/alive, the reaction would have been different. “If Joan was around, God, she never would have allowed that to happen,” he said, adding that the criticism was a challenge for the couple to take. “It was hard, because as a husband we are the defender, we want to protect our family, and I just kind of had to be muzzled…I wanted to get out there, and I wanted to defend my wife.” It’s hard to blame the guy for doing so, wouldn’t you say? The future of Fashion Police is in doubt, meanwhile, but Rancic says she’ll remain a part of it . View Slideshow: 2015 Oscars Fashion: Who Looked Best?
Actress Grace Lee Whitney has passed away at the age of 85. Whitney was best known for her portrayal of Yeoman Janice Rand on the original Star Trek TV series. Despite being dropped from the show after just eight episodes, Whitney reprised her role in five Star Trek theatrical films and even had a cameo appearance on the Star Trek: Voyager spinoff series in 1996. In addition to her acting work, Whitney was an accomplished singer, dancer and author. She released a popular memoir entitled The Longest Trek: My Tour of the Galaxy in 1998. Though she sang with some of the world’s most famous orchestras, and her film credits include such classics as Some Like It Hot, Whitney maintained that her greatest triumph was conquering addiction. A recovering alcoholic who spent the last 35 years of her life helping others who struggled with substance abuse, Whitney stated in several interviews that she would rather be known as a survivor of addiction than as an actress on Star Trek. Earlier this year, Whitney spoke publicly about the death of Leonard Nimoy , calling her famous co-star “a great friend” whom she credited with helping her to overcome her alcoholism. Click through the gallery below for a full list of the celebrities we’ve lost in 2015 . View Slideshow: Celebrities We Lost in 2015
