Dear Bossip, I am really confused. I have been married to my husband for a year and we have been together almost a three years. Five months before we got married he moved out of our home and moved back with his mother. He told me he wasn’t ready to get married. Two weeks later, I find out that he has went back to his baby’s mother. I was devastated and mad as hell. Two months later we talked and ended up getting back together. A couple months after that we got married. I thought we were doing good. We got married in August and then I found out I was pregnant. Not exactly was I was planning on since I had started school again. With my pregnancy I became super sick because of my high blood pressure. Two months later my husband loses his job and I’m dumbfounded. Our relationship went from bad, because of my pregnancy, to worst, because of his job lost. We talked many times about getting a divorce and getting on with our lives. During these last couple of months I have been in and out of the hospital with this pregnancy. Eventually, my husband got a job cutting hair. One day I went to get my tags for my car and I called him while I was in line and I didn’t get an answer, and he always answers when I call. I remember getting off the exit to go home and something told me to go check his job or his mom house to see if he was there. No he wasn’t. I went to his baby’s mother apartment and there is his car sitting there. I’m crying and calling him and got no answer. I decided to put him out. I had the spare key to his car and I took his car, brought it home and loaded it up. I talked to his baby mother and I found out that they had been sleeping with each other since he lost his job in March. I just so happen to catch him that day. I’m confused on what to do. Of course he has begged and apologized. I’m due in a few months and our lease will be up our apartment. I’m on disability because of my pregnancy and money is small compared to what I made before getting pregnant. He says that he doesn’t want a divorce and he was sorry and it won’t happen again. I’m on my last straw, the last monhts of my pregnancy and lease for our apartment. What should I do? We have already gone through counseling. – Stay Or Try Again Dear Ms. Stay Or Try Again , Let the lease run out. Move your things out. Leave him. Get a divorce and move on with your life. See how easy that is! Chile, I swear the common sense gene is rare the days. You can sit over there and fool your own damn self listening to that man as he tells you that he doesn’t want a divorce and he’s sorry and it won’t happen again, yet he keeps sleeping with his baby momma. LMBAO! Girl, hop on one leg and pat yourself on the head if you believe that. Your husband is deceitful, manipulative, trifling, and a liar. He’s cheated on you several times, even during your pregnancy, and you caught him, yet, you’re asking me what to do. Sigh! This is the classic case of, “Even though he told me he didn’t want to get married, I didn’t care what he wanted because I wanted to be married, and besides, I LOVE HIM!” Thus, when –ish hits the fan, such as when he cheats on you, then you want to get all up in a huff because, “How dare he sleep with another woman and we’re married.” Sigh! If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times in letters to women like you in this situation: When someone tells you who they are, believe them. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. If someone tells you they don’t want to be in a relationship, then guess what? They don’t want to be in a relationship with you either. And, if someone tells you they don’t want to get married, then guess what? Say it with me class: THEY DON’T WANT TO GET MARRIED, AND NOT TO YOU EITHER. Why are you holding on to someone who doesn’t want to be held? Why make someone commit to you and they are not ready to commit to themselves? If he isn’t ready to commit to marriage or a relationship, then you get exactly what you deserve. He won’t commit to you or anyone else, so he’ll keep sleeping with you and his baby momma because the both of you are silly a** broads who keep letting him lay between your legs and fill your small heads with lies. And, because he knows you’re not going to go anywhere, and neither will she, he keeps playing this game with the both of you. And, because the both of you are so desperate for a man, you’ll rather have a piece of man, who keeps showing you who he is with his trifling cheating ways, and yet you keep running behind him trying to convince him to love you, and that you need him. Sweetie, this MoFo doesn’t give a “F” about you! Stop perching your lips and drinking from his nut sac! Now, guess what’s going to happen? You’re going to be baby momma number two. He’s going to get back into a relationship with his first baby momma. You two women are going to end up arguing and fighting over this bum a** dude who cuts hair and can’t afford to pay child support. And, even though he’s the problem in this equation, and he’s cheating and sleeping with the both of you, the two of you are going to fight and brawl with each other like two chicken heads fighting for scraps of d**k meat. SMDH! Then, he’s going to tell you how much he loves you and misses you and you’re going to believe him and spread your legs wide open for him, again. Which means he’s sticking the both of you raw, i.e. Sharing community d**k. And, you two aren’t the only women he’s running up in. Trust me there is a third and fourth chick out there somewhere. Probably in the same apartment complex as you, and his baby momma. And, guess what’s going to happen? All of y’all are going to end up pregnant at the same time. Chile, I should put my psychic abilities to better use. LMBAO! Look, Ms. Honey, chalk this up as a lesson learned. I need for you take a good look at yourself and become conscious of how you played a part in all of this, and how you should start listening to what someone says to you, as well as what they are doing. Pay attention. If someone tells you they don’t want to be married, then listen to them. Stop trying to make someone be with you for the sake of what you want. You can’t make someone love you, be with you, or marry you if they don’t want to be. He’s shown you time and time again who he is. He doesn’t want to be faithful or monogamous. He wants to have it all. Leave his nasty narrow a**. Stop fighting for his love when he is not willing to fight for your marriage, or his commitment to you. He’s a child, a boy, and you can’t teach him or make him be a grown man. Walking away from this madness, and being about your business and empowering you will make him look like the fool in the end. He is not worth it. Get the divorce. Get the alimony, and take his barber tip money. And, then you march to the court house and put his a** on child support. Stop letting him belittle and demean you. Ugh! Now, get your life together and stop stressing because the innocent child you’re carrying doesn’t deserve all this madness coming into the world. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! 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Omaha Cursing “Toddler Thug” Taken Into Protective Custody The “Thug Cycle” has been halted for this little cussin up a storm toddler … According to Raw Story: A diapered toddler seen repeating profanities in an online video has been taken into protective custody by authorities in Nebraska, police said. The video was posted by the Omaha Police Officers Association under a title, “The Thug Cycle,” that some found offensive. “We here at OmahaPOA.com viewed the video and we knew that despite the fact that it is sickening, heartbreaking footage, we have an obligation to share it to continue to educate the law abiding public about the terrible cycle of violence and thuggery that some young innocent children find themselves helplessly trapped in,” the police union said in its post, adding that the video came from “a local thug’s public Facebook page.” Investigators said they found nothing criminal in the video, which shows the child making obscene gestures to adults who hurl racist and obscene comments at the boy and prompt him to repeat crude phrases. “Now while we didn’t see anything in this video that is blatantly ‘illegal,’ we sure did see a lot that is flat out immoral and completely unhealthy for this little child from a healthy upbringing standpoint,” the police union said in its post with the video. The union’s president, Sgt. Jeff Wells, also said one of the adults mentions a local street gang in the video. The child was taken into custody Wednesday along with three other children by Omaha police’s Child Victim Unit and the Nebraska Child Protective Services. Police did not release the names of any of the children or families or disclose their relationship to one another. “That is why when we talk about the culture, the criminal culture, that this is to try to break the cycle and deal with the culture of violence and the culture of gang activity,” Wells said. But local civil rights activists said the police union’s post “crossed a line” in a city where officers’ treatment of minorities, who make up about a quarter of Omaha’s population, has led to lawsuits and criminal charges against a pair of cops and firings and reassignments of others in the past year. “For them to take a video out of context — a 2-year-old who doesn’t have the brain capacity to know what’s going on — and to say that this child, because two adults acted inappropriately, is going to end up in a life of crime is totally inappropriate,” said Willie Hamilton, president of Black Men United. Discuss… Omaha PD Continue reading →
Jennifer Hudson pulled a diva move at the “People’s Choice Awards” Wednesday — threatening to leave the show if producers didn’t remove a former friend form his front row seat. According to RadarOnline reports : Jennifer Hudson’s triumphant night at the People’s Choice Awards was perfect on screen, but RadarOnline.com has exclusively learned that she created a spectacle backstage and had security throw an ex-friend out of his seat on the front row. The Oscar winner was honored with the Favorite Humanitarian Award on Wednesday night, but an eyewitness said she had rapper Lord Kraven tossed from his spot by security. “Jennifer loudly threatened ‘Either he leaves or I leave,’ and was waving her finger in the face of a security guard” the source said. Kraven was promptly tossed out of his seat and “the situation continued to escalate outside the main auditorium and required the assistance of LAPD.” According to the source, an LAPD officer determined that the Nokia Theatre security had acted in haste and offered to escort the pop recording artist back inside. The source said the bad blood from the two stems from an appearance Lord Kraven made on HLN’s Showbiz Tonight in April 2012 during the trial for the murder of her family members. “Before then Jennifer and Lord Kraven were close, but ever since then she has declared war against him.” Well damn, we were just about to call her out but she might just have a point. If he wasn’t being a good friend to her during that time in her life and was famesloring to be on TV then we can see why she’d want him booted. What do you think? Was Jennifer perfectly within her rights? Twitter/ReverbNation Continue reading →
If it wasn’t official before, it is now: Nicole Meyer belongs in lingerie. I know the South African hottie started out doing bikini modeling for the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue, but after this latest lingerie set (and these previous ones ), the debate should be over. And in my professional opinion, Nicole shouldn’t be allowed to wear anything else. I know that’s pretty unenforceable, but I’m hoping I can work out some kind of deal with her house cleaner to “accidentally” ruin the rest of Nicole’s clothes. Wish me luck. » view all 14 photos
Woman Sues Developer For Failing To Inform Her Of Racist Neighbor A New Jersey woman was who was livid after learning that she’d purchased a home next to an openly racist man is now suing the home developer for failing to warn her. via News One Cyndee Phoenix (pictured) thought she had found the perfect home in a Hamilton County, N. J., residential community to live in with her elderly parents and sister. But what Phoenix did not know and now claims was not revealed to her by the developer, Lennar Homes Corp, who promoted promises of a “wonderful lifestyle,” was that she and her family would be tormented by a neighbor who would threaten, intimidate and make racist remarks. She is suing the developer for “knowingly concealing” that her future neighbor was a “dangerous individual,” according to Courthouse News. Phoenix closed on her home last October and moved in a month later. Lennar Homes reportedly warned the neighbor in question, Kevin Elville Potter, about his alleged harassing behavior, requesting that he cease his hostile conduct. According to documents filed in Atlantic County Court, Potter began his harassing ways soon after Phoenix moved in. Potter allegedly made “death threats to plaintiff’s sister, spit in the direction of Phoenix’s family members, made snide and racist comments about plaintiff, has taken pictures of plaintiff’s guests and stared them down in attempts to intimidate them and continued blocking plaintiff’s driveway with his parked cars.” The complaint also describes how Phoenix is so “afraid to leave her home” and “is constantly living in fear” that she was forced to hire a security guard because the family was also allegedly stalked by Potter. Phoenix claims that her security guard was even harassed by Potter, who once reportedly followed the employee for 15 miles on the freeway. There’s no arguing that this man’s actions are blatantly prejudice and uncalled for from the sounds of things but, it’ll be hard to prove that the home developer had knowledge of his racist ways before hand. Do you think this case will hold up in court?
It was a night of tattoos and awkward dinners, dog returns and cat fights. On the latest episode of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills , Carlton admitted she can be trampy and the awkward dinner at SUR concluded. Kyle and Joyce took a golf lesson. Brandi kept saying stupid things. And Joyce couldn’t stop complaining about how she’s being treated. Is it possible she had never seen an installment of the series prior to signing up? What else went down? Who is driving us the most crazy this week? Watch The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills online now for the answer: Watch The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 4 Episode 10 Online
He couldn’t get any kitty kat so he got him some dog. Pizza Man Caught Having Sex With Dog This doesn’t make any sense. Surely if he was THIS sexually frustated he could have gotten some box. Poor dog. According to Mass Live: A Florida man is in trouble with the law after alleged sexual encounters with his roommate’s dog were caught on camera. According to the Tampa Bay CBS affiliate, WTSP-TV, 22-year-old Joshua Lee Werbicki, was arrested and charged with felony cruelty to animals and misdemeanor criminal sex act with an animal, after a hidden camera allegedly revealed he had sex with the dog. Published reports indicate Werbicki’s roommate became suspicious when the dog, a German Shepard mix, was limping around the house and became skittish when approached by humans. The roommate reportedly set up a hidden camera in the apartment he shared with Werbicki, which allegedly revealed the inter-species sex act. Brevard County Animal Services Sgt. Michael Healy told the news website FloridaToday.com that Florida law allows the possibility of a court-ordered injunction barring Werbicki from having future unsupervised contact with other animals, depending on the outcome of his court case. Werbicki was arrested at the Papa John’s on Minton Road in West Melbourne, Fla. where he worked. Further information on whether Werbicki was held or released on bail wasn’t immediately available Saturday afternoon. Disgusting. Brevard County Sheriff/Facebook
After a stellar showing in 2013, Mac Miller kicks off the new year with more music. The track is called “Erica’s House,” and it features Treejay…. Continue
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