Hello Bossip! I promise I’m going to keep this short and to the point. My husband and I just celebrated out second year of marriage and I’m so proud to be his wife and to say that he is my husband. I have been blessed with such a wonderful man and father and I couldn’t have picture a better partner for my life. We have our issues but our communication is solid enough to work through the kinks. What I’m really trying to say is that I love him and our life together. The problem that I’m having is in the bedroom. We make love all the time and we share an intimacy that I’ve never had before but everything is so gentle and slow moving in a sense. I’m a little wild and he’s more laid back which I don’t have a problem with but I want to be manhandled every once in a while. I think every woman wants her man to just take it and have his way her. I don’t see anything wrong with talking dirty and showing a little aggression! I won’t break and he can be a little rough with me! I don’t know if talking about this will offend him and I’d really prefer to just show him or drop enough hints so he gets the picture. Do you have any suggestions on how I do this? I’m at a loss and any advice would be nice! Thank you!
Put down your doobies for one second and behold another reason to celebrate April 20th: it’s the anniversary of the day that Carmen Electra’s fine cakes were born. The former Prince back-up dancer and super-sexy legend is a national treasure. Let’s look back at the cakes that will live in infamy.
Sexting. When this phenomenon first stepped on the scene, it was for the teeny boppers. Parents were running around in a tizzy and news outlets had a field day trying to “uncover” this new fad. Well now that all the dust has settled, women, emphasis on women, are starting to realize that sexting can be yet another tool in the “keep-him-interested” arsenal. It’s taken off; yet, even some of us grown folks could stand a lesson or two in sexting etiquette. Class and sexting may seem like two conflicting worlds, but there’s always a way to be a lady about yours…until you get home. ( Continue reading… )
Bossip what the hell is wrong with my man? I’ve been seeing a man for about a year now and we are a really great match. We have similar goals and aspirations and are working towards building a life together. He never made it a secret that he likes women’s feet and always tells the story of how out of all his brothers he really took care of his mother (she was single) when he was a child. He said he would cook and make a plate for her, rub her back and that she would always fall asleep when he rubbed her feet when she got off work. I’m a nurse and work 12 hour shifts at the hospital and he definitely does make sure to rub my back and feet after a long week at work. A couple months ago he started getting into this thing where he would suck my toes and I was really not feeling it and pulled my feet away when he started to kiss up my ankles. I could tell that he was a little touched by the fact that I didn’t want him sucking on my toes but it’s not my thing and it doesn’t turn me on in form or fashion. Lately as soon as I get home or after we go out he’ll want to suck them after I’ve been in my socks and shoes all day! My feet don’t stink luckily but he says he likes the smell. WHAT??? I’m totally comfortable in my skin and love to turn things up in the bedroom but I can’t get with the foot fetish! I keep my feet pedicured and I’m a very clean person but I can’t kiss him after he’s been munching my toe jam and it makes me wonder who else’s feet he’s been kissing on! Is this something men like to do that I don’t know about or are most folks like me and think it’s gross? Any and all feedback would be most appreciated! Happy Friday, sis! Thank you for writing in and sharing your story! Well, here we are with another example of how different things are arousing to different people! It’s a matter of individual preference when it all boils down to it. However, you are completely entitled to reject his loving gestures toward your toes if it grosses you out and makes you uncomfortable! And, surely, your man wouldn’t want to force his fetish on you if it doesn’t excite you in any way. So, the question is: have you been firm and direct in communicating to him that you don’t like your toes sucked? It is completely understood that you would be apprehensive about kissing the mouth that’s been “munching” on your “toe jam,” as you put it. And it’s further understood that you would be concerned behind his indulging in his foot fetish on the women who came before you! However, assuming that you’ve both been tested for all transmittable diseases and are faithful to each other, you should find comfort in the notion that all acts of love (scents and all) are being shared between the two of you only! But, as with any relationship, you set the boundaries and they should be respected! So, Ma, we asked around and here’s what a few of our readers had to say!
Hello Bossip fam, lol. I have a problem with a man that I’m dating and I know I’m probably making it a bigger issue than it is. I was married through out my 20′s and been divorced for four years now. Anywho I’ve been dating this guy for about 6 or 7 months now and he’s 3 years younger than me which isn’t a huge difference but it’s enough to make me wonder. Of course he knows why me and me ex-husband divorced and it was because I found evidence of his cheating in his cell phone and it was all I needed to confirm that I wasn’t crazy and that a divorce was in order. The guy I’m seeing now obviously took that and ran with it and now he hordes his phone and granted I told him that if it’s near me I will snoop through it. I believe I meant it as a joke but the more he hides it, it makes me want to go through it! We’re just dating without a real exclusive commitment so it’ snot like I would be justified in being mad at what I find but it really makes me wonder. He won’t even bring the phone in the same room when he stays over or he’ll leave it in the car when we go out. At first I thought it was endearing but now I’m getting suspicious. Should I find a way to get to it or should I leave well enough alone? Good day, sis, thank you for writing in and sharing your story! So, you’re paranoid by the absence of a cellular device when you’re with the man you’re currently dating? Why? If there is no real exclusivity clause in your relationship thus far, then why are you sweating his phone? If he’s not worried about his phone ringing when he’s with you, why are you concerned? He could very well be making a conscious effort to remain courteous, so don’t make a stink about it! And the fact that you’ve already disclosed to him why your marriage ended and that you will not hesitate to go through one’s phone, can you blame him? He’s still entitled to his privacy, Ma! It’s too early in the game for you to be going through the man’s phone! If he’s given you no reason to be concerned with his movements, then don’t sweat it! If he leaves his phone in the car or in another room, who cares? If his attention is devoted to you when you all are together, soak it up! If the communication between the two of you is on point, who cares about a cell phone? He might just want to get to know you without the drama of the “who, what, where when,why and how” line of questioning. A man who’s up to speed on technology knows, through experience or otherwise, that a cell phone can cause a major headache and disturb an otherwise good flow between two people, so they do their best to avoid it. On the other hand, trust your instincts! A woman’s intuition seldom fails her and if you have a gut feeling he’s playing games, you might be right! So do all you need to do to protect yourself emotionally, mentally and physically. If it takes you falling back and taking some space, do it. If you need to initiate an open and honest conversation between the two of you and gauge your movements based upon the results of said conversation, do it … without apology! Here’s the deal, Ma! We all have baggage but what you can’t do is make the mistake of taking all anger and mistrust from your marriage into a new relationship. It’s just unfair and, in the grand scheme of the things, unattractive. So, you should definitely decide whether it’s his actions that have you suspicious or if it’s your past coming back to haunt you. If you need to take time, take it, sis! But by all means, don’t push a potentially promising man away from your life because you can’t let go of the past! Be smart and make smart moves too, sis! Good luck to you! What are your thoughtsm Bossip Fam? Please share them below! Remember to e-mail all topic suggestions, questions and feedback to loveandrelationships@bossip.com !
Men like sex; and actually many women do too. It’s safe to assume that both men and women enjoy the act of reaching a sexual climax (aka gettin’ it in) and therefore make conscious efforts to engage in sexual activity; but is it all for the same reason? Although a general statement, it can be assumed why most men have sex, and we know it doesn’t always involve love or even like; but studies show that for women it may be a bit more complex. For some women, the choice of having sex isn’t just to act out new sexual techniques they’ve acquired while reading a juicy Zane novel or even to fulfill strong sexual desires. So why do some women really choose to have sex? A study conducted by the Queensland Institute of Technology recently surfaced throughout the web. The study found that one in three women have gotten the blues after sex at least once in their lives; and 10 percent reported frequently or almost always feeling sad after sex. According to the study, the symptoms include melancholy, tearfulness, anxiety, irritability or feeling of restlessness. So while some women roll over after sex feeling calmed, relaxed and ready for a cigarette, others are one step away from depression. ( Continue reading… )
Most people, men and women, do want love- and that’s a great goal to have. But are you in a relationship where you continually find yourself going the distance because you think you’re in “love.” Have you ever done unhealthy things or made unhealthy sacrifices for someone you thought you loved? Sometimes we women will stretch ourselves to the limit- all in the name of “love.” And it can to turn out to be quite unhealthy and unhappy for us because sometimes what we think is love really isn’t. And sometimes the one we love doesn’t truly deserve the love we have to give. Remember this: There is always an emotional and even physical cost to being in love. But there are also wonderful benefits if you’ve found real love. Real love is something that involves work and sacrifice, but it also something that enriches and elevates you to an even better place. It isn’t something where you have to do unhealthy and compromising things to obtain or maintain it. So before you make any decision for love, think about the cost and benefit. Why? Because your love is too precious to give to just anyone. Check out 5 unhealthy things women often do for love at MadameNoire.com
You like the dude, he’s definitely not your man (yet), but you want to get there. Problem is, you’re getting a little static from his end. Is he feeling you or what? If your guy exhibits three or more of the following behaviors, it’s time to hang it up. Check out the “Feelin’ You” Quiz at MadameNoire.com
