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Are You Serious?: White Christians Make “Jesus Is My N**ga” Music Video [Video]
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Dear Bossip , I am a single mother to a one year old boy. Promising myself that I won’t have to sing the “single black mama” song for the rest of my life, I continued with med school and recently graduated. During this time, I met the man of my dreams. He’s open, generous, kind, understanding and forgiving. Besides the fact that I love him, I have never met another human being like him in my life. He is truly the type of person that no one can speak ill of. When we met, I had vowed celibacy, maybe that it why things were different this time around. I got to know him in every single way without being intimate with him. He accepts me, faults and all and the reason I am writing you is because I whole heartedly want to be able to do the same for him. About a month after we began dating, we were having a conversation about sexual transmitted diseases. He randomly adds to the conversation that gay men are not allowed to give blood being of the risks of HIV. At first I thought, “How horrible, gay men are people too and not all gays should be assumed to have HIV.” However, my second thought was, “Why would you be concerned about gay men being able to give blood unless you were gay?” Without even knowing I blurted out, “Are you gay?” He answered no. I then asked, “Are you bisexual?” He again answered no. I left his apartment that night feeling very uneasy. The next day he said he wanted to talk. While we were in school, I’d asked him if he ever slept with anyone in the school and he told me he didn’t want to talk about it. I pressed him and he said he was involved in a horrible love triangle that would’ve ruined his career but he refused to tell me anymore. Well, today he was ready to tell me the whole story. He was sleeping with a girl who wanted to be his girlfriend. They were good friends with another couple in the school. My boyfriend began “hooking up” with his friend’s boyfriend. He had a sexual relationship with him, but he says he has never had sex with a man. Long story short, all parties are made aware of the undercover relationship. Both females involved are scorned (understandably) and tell everyone in the school, essentially outing both men who no one knew were gay before. When I found out I was heartbroken, angry and embarrassed, I felt as if I had been dating a gay man and no one felt the need to tap me on the shoulder and say, “Hey, you know he’s gay right?” He says that he is bisexual but prefers women. He tried to explain that his attraction to men differs from that of his attraction to women. I don’t know how I managed to get over it, but I did. It took time, and a lot of Googling, but I eventually accepted it, or so I thought. I recently met his parents and we are supposed to be taking our first vacation together later this summer. He has yet to meet my family and son. I don’t know if I mentioned that I am African and he is Jewish. At first I thought this was the reason I have been hesitant to bring him home, and also the fact that my family is crazy, old school and will ruin a relationship they don’t approve of. But, lately I have been thinking maybe it’s because I have a bisexual boyfriend. Am I afraid he will be improper with my son? Am I afraid that his openness about his sexuality will cause my family to disown me? Can we get married if I’m Christian? How will that work? I have all of these questions. I feel like I am at a point in the relationship where if I cannot see myself spending my life with him I should not drag it out. BUT I sincerely care for him, and minus his bisexuality, he would be perfect. I don’t know what to do. – Sexuality Obsolete Dear Ms. Sexuality Obsolete , So, let me get this straight (no pun intended) LOL! Your man is bisexual, but he did not come out forthright to disclose this information to you until you pressed him about it? And, when you did question him, he lied, then eventually told you the truth? And, though you say you’ve gotten over his sexual preference, you’re considering marriage with a man who is bisexual, and you’re wondering if your religion will impact your lives? Girl, you obviously missed the short yellow bus this morning. I’m going to call them and have them swing back through and wait for you. I swear these letters get better and better every day. Well, let me ask you this – What do you stand to gain in marrying a man who is bisexual? He has revealed to you, that though he prefers women, he has an attraction for men. So, are you going to throw on a strap-on and bang him out? What happens when he feels the need to satisfy his attraction for men, and need some stiff loving? What happens when he’s out and about, or gone for long extended periods of time, or you’re gone for long extended periods of time, and he wants to get his man meat satisfaction? How is he supposed to shut off the part of him that has an attraction for men just because he marries you? No matter what you think, hope, or want to love him enough to be with just you, he has a desire to be with men. There is nothing you can do to make him only want and desire just you. He’s going to fulfill his desires for men, regardless of what he tells you. Unfortunately, you don’t have the necessary equipment to satisfy his long dong desires. Now, being the educated, smart, intelligent woman that you say that you are, I’m concerned that you would put yourself in this situation knowing all this information about his bisexuality and, yet, you will continue the relationship. Obviously, there is something missing within you that you feel he is the only man that can bring you love, happiness, joy, and monogamy. So, ask yourself, “What am I missing within myself? Why do I feel the need to be with a man who is bisexual and needs the comfort, and pleasure from another man? While I’m giving him 100% of me, I will only be getting 50% of him. Is that enough for me? And, when he comes to me and tells me that he is desiring a man and needs to satisfy his desires am I strong enough to let him get his back blown out and come back home to me?” But, this is a sidebar question: You say that you completed medical school and your boyfriend randomly adds to the conversation that gay men are not allowed to give blood being of the risks of HIV. And, at first you thought, “How horrible, gay men are people too and not all gays should be assumed to have HIV.” Uhm, hmmm, if you just finished medical school wouldn’t that be something you learn in school? How could you not know that bit of information? I’m just asking because that seems so odd that you, someone who has finished medical school, would not know. (Giving you the side eye) What medical school did you attend? (Lips pursed rolling eyes) Anyway, there is nothing that can come of your relationship with this man. He is bisexual. He will never be completely yours. He has a desire and attraction for men. He will step out and get his fill regardless of how strong he tells you that he is or wants to deny himself. He’s lying. Just like he lied to you when you asked him about his sexuality. He has no problem lying, and if he did it once he’ll do it again. You say that you’re wondering and are afraid that he will be improper with your son. Then, you need not be with this man. Besides, him being bisexual has nothing to do with pedophilia. He has an attraction for men, not little boys. Therefore, please educate yourself. And, again, if you’re thinking he’s going to do something with your son, and this will always be on your mind, then why even entertain continuing the relationship, let alone marriage? SMDH! Chile, I swear you’re not as educated as you think you are. Did that short yellow bus arrive yet? Next, you’re afraid that his openness about his sexuality will cause your family to disown you. Uhm, you think! Of course they will disown you. They will be giving you the side eye, and probably will knock some damn sense into your head. They will never accept him. That’s the truth of the matter. Can you get married if you’re Christian? How will that work? It won’t. Ma’am, he’s Jewish. If he’s traditional Jewish, you will have to convert. Otherwise, this will not work. But, let me wrap this up. You say that you care for him, minus his bisexuality. Well, boo boo, that is a part of him. You can’t ignore it and hope it goes away. It’s not. Therefore, by my deductions and calculations this relationship is not going to work, last, or endure. Why drag this out? Honey, get out and move on. Otherwise, you’re going to find yourself like his ex-girlfriend and discover your man is sleeping with your best friend’s boyfriend. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: I’m Christian, He’s Jewish & I Want To Marry Him, But He’s Bisexual
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Dear Bossip , I live in Nashville TN and I have a question for you. The answer may be what I already know but I need some help. I met a man on a dating website. He pursued me pretty hard and then eventually we started texting off the site, DAY and NIGHT. He was very receptive to me, asking me what I was looking for (we agreed we wanted to find a companion not necessarily marriage overnight or anything, but a commitment) and he was very talkative and sweet and funny. He even said he thought he was having some feelings for me even though we hadn’t yet met. We had exchanged pictures over the course of the 2 weeks. Well, after 2 weeks of this texting and calling each other we met. He revealed to me that he has only been in town for 5 months and he is working on securing a good job and a secure living situation. None of which I care about. I am not a gold digger at all. I care more that he is a good person. During the date he was GREAT, talkative, affectionate, polite, but after a good night we went back to my place, grabbed some beer and made a night of it (probably my 1st mistake). Well, we ended up being intimate and I feel like that was mistake # 2. We went to sleep around 4 am and woke up around 11 am, and I took him home. Now my question is: Are my chances of making this serious, DOOMED? I made it clear that I wasn’t going to be intimate, but I gave in after his very tempting advances. We have a lot in common and the conversation is great, but now that we met he isn’t sending any texts messages like he did up until we met. We had such a good time! This was Saturday and now its Monday, no word yet from him. Should I chuck it up as a loss and move on or am I judging it and him too soon? Will he call me on day 3? If not, what do I do: send him a text asking if he is done? I am lost. I need some help on what I need to do now. – Confused in Nashville Dear Ms. Confused in Nashville , Chile, I can’t believe we are starting the New Year off with this mess. SMDH! The hell! You folks and this online dating will learn one way or the other. Meeting folks online, then texting, calling, and sexting, which leads to sexing on the first night. Then, he disappears and you’re upset and wondering what happened and why he disappeared. Why is he not texting and calling like he used to. What happened to all the promises he made, and all the gooshy talk we did about being in a relationship and finding that special someone. It’s all a damn lie! Here’s the problem: You take a huge risk and chance when you meet an unknown person online. The chances are 1.) They are liar. 2.) They are not who they say they are. 3.) They lack social graces and are not good in public spaces. 4.) They are just out for a quick “hit it and quit it.” Ma’am, it’s only been two days since you haven’t heard from him. Slow your damn roll and pump your brakes. But, I get it. You’re having buyer’s remorse. You regret sleeping with him, and now that he hasn’t hit you up in two days you’re getting the suspicion that he is not going to call. LMBAO! Well, you’ll learn the next time won’t you. If you say you’re not going to be intimate, then don’t be intimate. If you want a man to call you the next day, then don’t sleep with him on the first night. When he revealed to you on your first date that he had just moved to your city within the past 5 months and had no job, and was trying to secure a living situation, then your red flags should have gone up. I don’t care if you’re not a gold digger. But, a man with no job and no permanent resident does not deserve any permanent p***y. The hell you giving up the goods to a bum for? That’s what he is. Would you go out in the streets and pick up a homeless man and take him home? Would you go on a date with a man you met on the street and he had no job or residence? Hell no! You would walk right past him. So, I don’t understand why you would lay down with a man you met on the internet, revealed to you that he has no job or permanent residence, then bought you a beer and you took him to your house and had sex with him, and then had to drop him off the next morning! You tricks have got the game all the way f****d up! Yes, you do deserve a no return call. You don’t deserve to be in a relationship with any real man who has his own –ish, and is about his business. You belong with the bums and tricks who ain’t about nothing because you ain’t about nothing. If your minimum requirement is that a man is good to you, yet, he doesn’t have a job or residence, then find yourself a trailer and park your car and live your life, boo! Next, you said to him that you would not be intimate on your first date, yet, you spread your legs wide and let him climb on top of you. And, you over there talkin’ ‘bout, “I gave in to his very tempting advances.” Girl, what advances? A can of beer and him saying, “You look pretty gal! Come over here and give me some sugar!” LMBAO! Then, you say that you have a lot in common and great conversation. What do you have in common? He doesn’t have a permanent home. He doesn’t have a job. Do you have a permanent residence? Do you have a job? He’s broke. You have money. You have car. He doesn’t. Again, what do you have in common? And, what great conversation? What did he say to blow your mind? Was he talking about politics, spirituality, philosophy, the state of world, bringing world peace, discussing poverty and hunger? Chile, that man was telling you what you wanted to hear. He knew you are weak, vulnerable, and desperate. He knew he could play on your low self-esteem, and that you hadn’t had any good d**k in a while, and he knew the right words to say to get what he wanted from you in two weeks. So, let’s wrap this up so others can get 2013 right and proper. He is not going to call or text, expect when he wants to hook up again. It will be in a few weeks. He’s going to have an excuse that he was busy looking for a job, or he was in the process of moving. Some lame excuse, but he will get horny again and hit you. Trust me. By the way, he is not into you. He is not feeling you, or being in a relationship. Especially not with a chick he met online, and he smashed on the first night. He thinks that’s how you get down. Even if you don’t, the fact that he smashed on the first night, he thinks you’re easy. He doesn’t want you for long-term relationship. You’re a jump-off. With that, I want you to stop meeting men off dating websites, chat lines, Facebook, Twitter, or any other social media outlet. It will not end well. If you do, then SKYPE with these men. It’s free. It’s doesn’t cost a thing. SKYPE with someone and you get to see them in real time before you meet. And, have some real and serious conversations. Ask about his employment. Ask for pay stubs from a job. Ask about his residence. Ask for a copy of his lease. Ask if he has a car. Ask to see the registration for the car in his name. Ask if he’s married. Does he have any children. How many. Is in presently in a relationship. Does he have many girlfriends. What is his take on monogamy. Hell, when was the last time he was checked for STDs, or had an HIV test. And, you want to see the results. In 2013 it’s time to do this right and do it your way. Don’t let anyone dictate to you how the relationship is going to go. You have a say in it. You’re just as much a part of what is going to happen as the other person. Have some standards and dignity about yourself. Have some respect. Have some integrity. And, please up your standards beyond those basic minimums. You looking real cheap and easy right about now. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: He Is New In Town, No Job, No Home & We Slept Together But I Haven’t Heard From Him
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Dear Bossip , I am happily married to my husband for 6 years. We have an open understanding relationship, i.e. open on his end and understanding on my end. He is allowed to pleasure other women while I listen, watch or on rare occasions join in. We are not swingers or belong to any other lifestyle groups. We are an attractive young couple that enjoy each other sexually, mentally and spiritually where he is an exhibitionist and I am a voyeur. It mostly starts off he meets someone at a club, lounge, bar etc. if he is interested he would text me the situation, including a picture of her or sometimes he would call me and speak with her to let her know that is ok, go ahead and have fun. He does disclose that he is happily married. For me to be understanding my husband and I communicate with each other openly and express our feelings or concerns freely with each other. We do have three HARD rules that should not be broken such as complete honesty, safe sex, and it ends before there is an emotional attachment to the other woman. I have enlightened a few of my girl friends to my sex life and have received major backlash from my girlfriends. They say to me that he does not love me if he has sex with these other women, I don’t love myself enough to say to him that this is crazy, or simply put they just don’t understand why it is ok for him to sleep with other women and for me not to go out and sleep with other men…I have no desire to be with another man. For you see, my husband, he is 6’3” built like a god, smooth caramel goodness all over, with a devilishly charming smile that easily disarms women and he is well endowed. I don’t want to lose my friends. How do I let them know, convince them to accept that I am truly happy and comfortable with my marriage and sex life…they are constantly asking me to go out with them to meet other men…constantly saying negative things about my relationship with my husband. – Exotic Relationship Dear Ms. Exotic Relationship , Uhm, okay, if you like it, I love it. Can’t knock what you and your husband have obviously discussed and agreed upon. And, if your friends don’t understand you and your husband’s arrangement, then guess what? It’s not their business, nor is it their relationship. Why are you concerned or allow yourself to be badgered by your friends? If you don’t care what or how they feel then stop telling them your business, and before they can bring up your husband and your relationship you have the power to shut them and the conversation down. Here’s what you say to them: “Look here boo boo, I don’t tell you how to run your marriage, so I certainly don’t want to hear your comments, thoughts, or concerns about my marriage. And, as a matter of fact, the last time I checked I’m a grown a** woman married to a grown a** man. We are two consenting adults, and I don’t have to explain my situation to you or anyone else. Now, go get you some business and stay the “F” out of mine.” See how easy that was? See how it just flowed off the lips. LOL! And, no matter what, your friends are not going to stop their negative comments, so you may have to find some new friends. Look, our friends want the best for us. They don’t want to see us get hurt, or be misused or abused because they love us. However, you have to learn how to separate your marriage from your friendship, and if you don’t want to lose them, then set some boundaries. Let them know that the discussion about your marriage is off-limits. It’s not an open discussion, forum, or town hall meeting. But, I do want to know how and why you got married if your husband has the ability to sleep with any woman he wants? Why get married? You could have just remained in a relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend and kept it open. What happens when you have children? How do you explain the situation to them? What if another woman happens to get pregnant? Condoms do break. And, one last question. What is your mental/emotional state of mind? (I’ll wait why you answer those questions. I know they are thought-provoking, and I also know you will have a justifiable answer to each of them. Weak women generally do.) I hope you didn’t think I was going to let you off easy. What the “F” are you thinking!?!? What the hell type of “arrangement” is this bull-ish!?!? And, you talking about you’re not swingers. (* *) Blank stare at you! You know what, you’re right. You’re not swingers. Swingers mean that both partners are engaged in partner swapping. Your common a** is sitting at home while your husband is out screwing other women, or on rare occasions you watch or join in. Your husband is just an outright hoe with privileges. What color was the Kool-Aid he had you drink before he brought this asinine proposition to you? SMDH! Girl, don’t drink anymore of it. Ole’ Jim Jones smooth-talking pimping a**! Your marriage is supposed to be sanctified and an institution between two people. Explain the other random women he lays with? Explain the interchanging of spirits that occur when your husband lays with other women as he lays with his wife? There is a spiritual bond that occurs during sex. Every time he is with another woman he collects her spiritual energy, and she collects his, and then he comes home to you and dumps her spiritual energy into you. Chile, they may as well call you the Spirit Collector. And, what about bodily fluids that are exchanged?!?! Oh, Ms. Honey, the more I think of this, the more I’m getting sick. Girl, you know what why am I explaining this to your dumbass. Keep doing you. One day you’re going to wake up and find yourself acting like Sybil with eight different personalities. Hell, it was the second personality that wrote me this damn letter. Get off my page before someone else comes through. “Stay away from the light Carol-Anne!” – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: I Allow My Husband To Sleep With Other Women, But How Do I Explain It To My Friends
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A judge shut Pilar down in court on Wednesday after she’d been fighting her prenup for months! Pilar’s been trying to get her agreement with ex-hubby Deion Sanders tossed out since they divorced after 13 years of marriage. Even though she lost this round, the ‘actress and model’ is still getting more than 10k a month in child support?!?! According to WFAA: Former Dallas Cowboys star Deion Sanders’ estranged wife, Pilar Sanders, came to court Wednesday hoping to prove the pre-marital agreement she signed was partially forged and pages were added. She wanted the agreement thrown out. However, the judge ruled there was no fraud, saying Mrs. Sanders willingly signed the agreement. Pilar Sanders’ attorney said not only was the agreement a fraud, the whole marriage was a sham. “She was tricked and defrauded at the time she signed agreement,” said attorney Larry Friedman. “Deion never intended this to be a lifetime commitment.” Mrs. Sanders’ original attorney, who worked on the pre-nuptial agreement, said Pilar got a $100,000 signing bonus to sign the document. Deion’s attorney Rick Robertson said, “If the marriage was a fraud, then annul it and give back the money. Give back the $100,000 signing bonus.” Deion Sanders said his wife knew what she was doing, and is trying to squeeze more money out of him. “Greed, greed!” Mr. Sanders said. “You signed it and now it’s over and your lifestyle is over, so you want to fight it. Greed.” The judge, who has heard similar arguments twice before, said Pilar Sanders willingly signed agreement, there was no fraud and told her attorneys not to bring the issues to his court again. Deion flashed a victory sign when he walked out of court and posted up on Twitter right after: Is Pilar a gold-digger or do you think she has a right to keep going after more money? Imagea via twitter/WENN
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Chad Johnson Facing Up To A Year In Jail For Headbutting Evelyn Lozada SMH…and this ninja ain’t got no job , neither! Chad Johnson’s NFL career is all but over. His wife, Evelyn Lozada, has filed for divorce. His sponsors have dropped him. His reality TV series is canceled. The troubles keep coming, and now comes a report that Johnson could face up to a year in prison for assaulting his wife earlier this month. Johnson was originally charged with a misdemeanor domestic violence charge for the August 11 incident in which he allegedly head butted his wife after she found a receipt for a box of condoms in his car. While Johnson has often bragged about never getting arrested while in the NFL, an older charge for slapping an ex-girlfriend came to light. Back in 2000 he was charged with slapping a woman. He plead no contest, and reported to Oregon State weeks later to play football. He was punished with community service time. Now Gossip Extra reports that because of the prior arrest, Johnson’s latest charge could be bumped up to a felony. That’s up to the discretion of the Broward County State Attorney, and there’s no word on whether they plan to up the charges. Though, if the charges are upped Johnson could face mandatory prison time of up to 12 months. Damn, and it was all good just a few months ago. Source
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Domestic Violence Rears Its Ugly Head: Chad Johnson Facing Up To A Year In Jail For Headbutting Evelyn Lozada
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Dear Bossip, My husband cheated on me a couple of years ago and as a result he had a daughter with this woman who claims to be our friend. And, she was our Boss at one point. I found out when she served him papers for child support. I was devastated after six years of marriage. I wanted to call it off, but he convinced me that he did not want anything to do with them, and didn’t want to have a life with her only with me, and have a family of our own one day. Since he knew I didn’t want him to have any contact with the woman, but in order to know about his daughter, which looks a lot like him, he stared calling behind my back. I found out after I saw a text from her. We argued and he told me that he wanted to know his daughter and it was killing him inside missing time with her. Finally, I made a decision. I went to talk to this lady in person and told her what my husband wanted and that I was 100% supportive as long as we stay clear of what the purpose is – which is the girl to know and build a relationship with her dad. She said yes to me. We meet and spend time with them. Everything was looking way to good to be true. My husband and I agreed he would only speak to her in front of me, and only about the girl. Unfortunately, things were too good to be true. It turns out this woman requested time alone with my husband, and for him to tell her if he really doesn’t want anything with her. And, if I’m around they were to get a code word so she knows when they are on the phone. He told me he called her from a friend’s cell so I wouldn’t see the numbers if I checked our lines. He claims this is the only way to end whatever doubts this woman has. I’m so frustrated and disappointed at myself and don’t know what to say anymore. I want him to have a nice relationship with his daughter. She is only three and a half now, and I want to be strong to deal with this woman, but not like this again. How can I convince him to see that giving her that time alone or not having calls around me will make her think he still doesn’t respect me or give me my place? How can I put it in words that he can understand last? Note: They don’t have custody together yet – He Needs To Understand Dear. Ms. He Needs To Understand , Uhm, sweetie, you sound like a correctional officer and parole officer. You want to monitor his every move with this woman, who was both your boss at one point, and whom he cheated on you with, and then she bore a child. Girl, I can’t today. But, I’m going to let that marinate in your thick a** skull for a minute. Chile, how the hell are you going to monitor and control their relationship? You are going to sit by the phone as they speak each time she calls? You’re going to ride shotgun in the car when he goes to see his daughter? Girl, please stop. Stop this silly –ish. They are grown a** adults. You want to tell him when he call her, spend time with his daughter, get your permission to do this, and how he can only do all of this in your presence. LMBAO! You sound really silly. Since today is Basic Wednesday, I’m going to give you a Basic Answer. NEWS FLASH: SHE IS GOING TO BE IN YOUR LIFE FOREVER! HE HAS A CHILD WITH THE WOMAN . If you can’t handle this bit of important information and their relationship, then you need to get a divorce ASAP! The child is three and half years old. You do realize she is still a child. Therefore you’ve got the pre-teen years, teenage years, and her becoming a young woman. Which means that this road is going to get worse and bumpier as you travel on it. If you can’t deal with it now, then get out NOW! But, let’s get something abundantly clear – Your husband cheated on you. Your husband has been deceitful and manipulative and he continues to be deceitful and manipulative. You only found out about the whole hotmess.com after he was served with papers for child support from the woman, your former boss (Let’s make sure you understand that point), and it’s been over three years. Otherwise, he would have never told you. So, his behavior and what he continues to do and show you are a result of who he is. GIRL, WHEN SOMEONE SHOWS YOU WHO THEY ARE BELIEVE THEM!!! All of his actions point in one direction: He’s a liar. He can’t be trusted. And, then he goes behind your back and conspire with the woman, your former boss, whom he cheated with and bore a child, (I’m going to drive that point home), and they create a code word so they can have secret conversations. And, on top of that he went out of his way to use a friend’s cell phone to call her. Hmmmm, what does that tell you about your husband? Again, I’ll let that marinate in your thick a** skull. You’re so busy trying to be superwoman, correctional officer, and parole officer trying to prove you’re understanding, and willing to get along with all of this drama and ignorant bull-ish that you are failing to miss the entire big picture: HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU OR YOUR MARRIAGE. It’s time to get yourself some self-esteem. Some respect. Some self-worth. Some backbone. You don’t deserve this from him. You deserve so much more, and until you realize it he is going to keep doing what he is doing and that is playing you and mistreating you. You can be understanding and supportive, but it doesn’t take you being married to him to do this. He violated your marriage, and didn’t even bother to tell you about his love child until only after he was caught. Otherwise, you would have been completely in the dark. And, who’s to say that she is the only woman he’s cheated with. Did you ask him if there were others? And, how long did the affair with your former boss last? That’s some ole trifling and shady a** -ish for this woman to be your friend, and boss, yet, she was sleeping with your man and smiling in your face. SMDH! Girl, please pull your big girl panties up and bounce up out. They deserve to be together. He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t respect your marriage. He doesn’t care what you think or say. He is going to do what he wants to do. So, let that MF run amuck. He’ll learn his lesson, and trust and believe he’ll come running back to you on his hands and knees begging you to take him back. But, hopefully you will have moved on, and found a new man one who respects loves and cherishes you. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! 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Dear Bossip: I Learned My Husband Had A Baby With Our Former Boss & She’s Three And Half Years Old
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Evelyn’s bouncin’ back on TV after VH1 dropped her show . The “Basketball Wives” star and Oprah Guru worked together for an upcoming episode of “Iyanla: Fix My Life”; a new show premiering on OWN this fall. Following a tumultuous season of “Basketball Wives,” the release of her first book, and tying the knot with Chad (formerly Ochocinco) Johnson, Evelyn met Vanzant for a little workout and maybe some self evaluation. “Hey everyone! I’m with Iyanla and can’t wait for you guys to see me on her show “Iyanla Fix My Life” on OWN in September,” Lozada confirmed with pictures from the taping. “Right now, I’m in my ZEN moment with Iyanla.” As widely reported, Evelyn vowed to make some changes in her life following the fourth season of “Basketball Wives” where she was seen throwing a wine bottle at a cast member (among other things). Maybe this will be a great public way she can share her journey and growth with viewers. The new series will show Iyanla working with women and their families, revealing secrets, truths, and emotions as she shows us all how to “pull back the curtain on what is broken in our lives”. The first episode debuts September 15th on OWN. We hope this positive step for Evelyn will help her move forward and put this Godawful month behind her. Source Images via Twitter/Facebook
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