Star of MTV’s ‘World of Jenks’ relives his political baptism as he sets out on the campaign trail with GOP hopefuls for ‘Power Of 12.’ By Andrew Jenks Andrew Jenks speaks with young voters in “Power Of 12: Our Voice” Photo: MTV News As the namesake for MTV’s doc-style series “World of Jenks” , I’ve landed in some pretty surprising places and met more than a few interesting characters . But I never thought the first time I shook hands with a presidential candidate would be while he signed copies of a children’s book. Yet there I was at a Hilton Garden in Staten Island, where a group of mostly older book-buyers fiddled with their Sharpies in anticipation of GOP hopeful Newt Gingrich. While the former House Speaker began scribbling his signature on copies of his books as well as “Sweet Land of Liberty” — written by wife Callista and featuring a cover illustration of the main character, Ellis the Elephant — I came to a sudden realization: There, at the Staten Island Tea Party Town Hall, I’d entered the world of politics. And On Tuesday, I made it official, helping MTV kick off the Power of 12 , 11 months worth of election-year coverage, with the documentary short “Our Voice.” To be fair, though, I had always been a political junkie. I turn on the TV and go straight for the cable news stations. I DVR my favorite political morning show and watch it at night before scanning the nightly news programs … it’s gross. But there I was at a Gingrich political press conference (also part of the Town Hall event) at the Hilton. CNN, ABC and other bigwig networks that I’ve watched on a daily basis were gathered to my left. I felt like too much of an outsider to be standing in the middle of the pack of aggressive-looking news types — pens out, adjusting their hair and their camera lenses. As I held onto my MTV microphone, the other reporters eyed me as if I had checked into the wrong event. My friend and producer Monty, who had been to many of these political events, turned to me and asked, ‘OK, Newt points at you — Go! What’s your question?’ Occasionally, Jonah, my lifelong friend and [director of photography], expressed concern about our audio levels. Finally Gingrich walked in, though, and you could hear a pin drop. I’ve spoken with homeless people, convicted murderers, even people on their death beds, but this was different. I’d never seen a hush come over a room like that. A potential future president had just walked into an awkwardly named first-floor conference room (the Cherry Willow Suite?). ‘SPEAKER!’ ‘MR. SPEAKER!’ they started shouting, each one louder than the next. I found myself acting out a real-life episode of “The West Wing” and soon, I was yelling just like everyone else, trying to get my question in. It didn’t take long for it to click that this was how you played the game: being aggressive, sneaking into factories for a press conference, lingering around a car you suspect might be there to pick up a candidate, waiting three hours just to catch a politician walking down the hallway to use the bathroom. … I can’t imagine it had ever been that loud in the Cherry Willow Suite. Suddenly, Monty gave me a puzzled look, “What was that?” Next Question! On the second go-around, I decided I was going for it. “Speaker! Mr. Speaker!” My voice was being drowned out, and after it happened again for the third time, I took a deep breath. Next Question! So I shouted a combination of words that probably made little sense: “Jenks! MTV News! I’m traveling! The country! Everywhere and need to know!” In what seemed like slow motion, Newt turned his head and looked right at me … suddenly, everyone was looking at me, dead silent. I’m the only guy wearing a T-shirt, but the floor is mine. For more on MTV’s election coverage, check out the Power of 12 . And make sure to catch the premiere of “Our Voice” on Tuesday at 4:54 p.m. ET/PT on MTV! Related Videos Power Of 12: Andrew Jenks Kicks Off Election 2012
Finally, a Hunger Games poster that reminds us of the carnage and calamity that made the books so addictive. Here, Katniss Everdeen (Jennifer Lawrence) stands before a packed stadium while her adversary Peeta Mellark’s (Josh Hutcherson) image flies above the crowd. Yes, this is the poster that Lionsgate asked Twitter uses to assemble from jigsaw clues — and it appears that @johnshoward is the one who pulled through. Pretty epic thunderdome. Katniss and Peeta are the new 2pac and Dre.
My name is Nicole and I have met Justin Bieber twice. The first time was on November 26th 2010.I heard about Justin’s book signing for First Step to Forever in NYC and I wanted to go but I had to convince my dad to take my friend and I. This would mean getting no sleep after Thanksgiving and driving me to the city at like 3:30am. After a lot of convincing, I finally got a “Well I guess so.” (I secretly think hes in love with Justin too) We got to the city at about 4am and the line was up the block twice and around the corner. I thought to myself, we were never going to meet him. After about 5 hours of waiting they finally started moving the line into barricades and we were one of the last to get let in! We waited about another 9 hours and was finally let inside Barnes and Noble to buy our books. When we got upstairs, we waited a little and finally got to meet Justin. We went up to Justin said hi and took our picture. I’m on the end to the right of Justin. We then asked if we could have hugs but he said he couldn’t because he was sick. We said goodbye and walked out side the area where I saw Kenny! . Even though it was so short, it was one of the best days of my life. The second time I met Justin was on November 17th 2011. My dad called me into the garage and said, “Your uncle has to ask you something but you’re not aloud to say anything to anyone.” I said okay and he put my uncle on the phone. He than asked if I wanted to meet Justin Bieber on Thursday at his job and of course I freaked out and said YES! I never thought I would have the chance to meet him by luck after I waited 15 hours the first time! He than said he was going to be at Hot97 in his building but no one knew he was going to be there and if I said anything, it wouldn’t happen. I then found out they needed to sneak him into the building and my uncle would only help them if Justin would meet my cousin and I. That day I got up early and went to work with my uncle. We waited in his office until we were told we could go wait upstairs. We saw Justin, Kenny, Alfredo and Scooter all come in and go into the studio . My cousin and I were the only 2 fans and then there were also a few workers from the station. We waited for Justin to do his interview and the lady told me to come stand by the door and I got to watch Justin do his freestyle rap! I saw Scooter go back into the room and said hi but i don’t think he heard me. A little while after, Justin came out and we were able to take a picture with him. We said hi to each other and he gave me a hug and he noticed my cousin standing on the side of me and said, “Come here honey come stand on this side” as she just stared at him, all starstruck he then guided her to the other side. Justin took a picture with a few other people and was rushed out. My uncle, cousin and I followed him out to the elevator but he was too fast. I got to said Hi to Alfredo and he said it was nice meeting me! We went where his car was and got to see him leave and get him to sign our ‘Under the Mistletoe’ CD! This was the best experience ever and it would be possible without my uncle! I was truly lucky to be one of the only people to meet him there. Thank you so much Justin for taking the time to meet me that day, it was such an amazing experience! I love you so much and are proud to say I will always be a Belieber! -@mjc_143 More: My name is Nicole and I have met Justin Bieber twice. The first…
On the books, Pacman got himself another W in Vegas last night against Juan Manuel Marquez. But everyone didn’t necessarily agree with the judges on this one. In fact, most in the sold-out crowd of 16,368, as well as quite a few on press row, thought he had lost. Pacquiao took a majority decision, but seldom in boxing history has a fight this big ended with this much doubt and controversy. The gutsy, effective opponent, Juan Manuel Marquez of Mexico, who was given little chance and was sent off as anywhere from a 7-1 to 9-1 underdog, left the ring to raucous cheers, as he waved a huge sombrero. It was a good 15 minutes after the fight ended before the crowd stopped booing and hissing. To many, the pound-for-pound best boxer in the world was outboxed by Marquez, at 38 his senior by six years. Marquez not only stayed with Pacquiao in a heated pace for all 12 rounds, but he seemed to get the best of whatever flurries the two managed in their nonstop jiggling and dancing and feinting. Seldom before in boxing has there been a scene where a highly popular champion gets booed loudly and raucously during his post-match interview. Nobody could hear a word of what he said, and nobody seemed to care. They had seen what they had seen. Nacho Beristain, Marquez’s manager, called it “a robbery of the utmost.” It was a night in which the last thing you wanted to be was a judge. The three who will take tons of heat on this one were Robert Hoyle, Dave Moretti and Glenn Trowbridge. Hoyle had it 114-114, Moretti 115-113 and Trowbridge 116-112, both for Pacquiao. And so ended the controversial trilogy between the two. In 2004, Pacquiao knocked Marquez down three times in the first round and Marquez came firing back to get a draw. That’s the last semi-blemish on Pacquiao’s record. In that one, a much-forgotten element was that one of the judges scored the three-knockdown round 10-7 for Pacquiao, rather than the almost automatic 10-6. That one point would have erased much of the talk about this matchup. In the next fight, in 2008, Pacquiao won a split decision by one point. That was controversial too, but nothing near what this one may turn out to be. Did y’all watch the fight? Who did you took it? Source
Dear Bossip , All I want to say is that I made a lot of mistakes in my life far as men. I’m 27 and have a bright future. I work part-time and go to school part-time. I want to be an officer of the law and then a DEA Agent. Far as them goals go I’m doing just fine and I’m about to graduate next year. My love life is going so wrong and what I’m doing is wrong. I love older guys and is married to one who is 59 years old, but we are separated, but I left him to be with a married man who is 51 years old and has been married for at least 31 years. Hell, he left his wife to be with me. We now live in apartment together after we both left our houses to be with each other. It’s been ups and downs because of how our spouses feel about us leaving. To make a long story short. His wife didn’t know that that we was living together at first because he lied and told her he wanted to be by himself. I lied and told my husband that I was living alone. What happened was that I went through his phone and found out that he was going to church with his wife (which we go to the same church that I’m a member of and I haven’t been in awhile because my ex goes there), texting her that he loves her and misses his family. So, I text her after saying that that he lives with me and we just got done having sex, which was true. We kind of been caught before with each other numerous of times mostly by her and once by my husband and he still wanted to see me. So, I told him what I did and he was livid about me texting her from his phone and we ended up back together. Even though he don’t go to church with his wife now. We went through each other phones and I seen a text saying, “I hope God put us back together.” Now, his excuses for telling his wife this and the first text is because he wanted to be politically correct (Which he trying to go for chairman at his job). Then it was that he was trying to see if it was worth leaving his marriage for. Now he trying to be-friend her so she won’t tell nobody at his job because they work together because he want the chairman’s position. I told him if he wants to go back to his wife then go back with her but he says he wants to be with me. He been away for about 3 months now and says if I wanted to be with her I would’ve been with her. I asked him to stop texting his wife that and if he want be friends with her then do that without the extra. He say he was doing that because he do misses his family (his kids are grown now) and he feels guilty about leaving her like that because now she has the house and she act like she don’t know what to do because he usually pays all the bill and the landscaping and blah! blah! blah! Throughout the years he been married he cheated on her since day one. I’ve only cheated once since I’ve been married, which is not good on both our behalf. I married for a different reason and he has his own which don’t make it right. I’m ready for a divorce and to start over right without drama (not to say with him) and lies and deceit, but with someone in the future who gone love me right and I love them the same way. Don’t get me wrong, I do love the man I’m with and he says he love me but I know just because you love someone you don’t got to be with each other. Especially when you both played the game and I feel like he still playing. I don’t know what he still telling his wife because I don’t go through his phone no more. He say he wouldn’t tell her that no more and he wants me to be his wife. That’s not the reason why I don’t go though his phone no more. I just feel like whatever he do that’s on him. I turned my focus on school and graduating and getting my life together. I want to be with him, but he has not talk to no divorce lawyer yet even though he said he was about a month ago. My thing is if he did it to his wife he would do it to me and which he did technically. Also what he told me about him and his wife must not of been truthful. What should a girl to do? – Love Older Men Dear Ms. Love Older Men , Why after reading your letter I felt like I was reading the script for some 1900 period piece in the south? My lawd, the language and texture of your sentences. WHEW! And, girl, what school do you attend? I had to re-read your letter just so I could understand it. Therefore, I’ve deduced (look it up I don’t’ have time to explain it) and I’m certain that you attend a technical school. How in the hell can you say you want to be a DEA Agent and you can’t even properly form a sentence with proper English skills? Ba-by, you better leave those old men you’re frolicking with alone and get you some education. And, I mean a real four-year institution that is accredited and has some real professors with real college students. And, after reading your letter and the mess and drama you’ve created with your life, and the lives of others, uhm, sweetie, I don’t think a career in law enforcement will suit you. It’s obvious you can’t make sound judgments. Have you thought about a career in maintenance or perhaps hotel hospitality? Now, let’s get down to business. You are a hotmess.org. What the hell are you doing married to a 59 year old man and you’re 27 years old, yet you’re already separated and you’re laying up with a 51 year old man? Chile, you women with this, “Looking For Daddy” complex and you’re collecting his social security check. I can’t! But, I want you to recognize something and I hope a light bulb flickers inside that dark dome of yours. Both of you left your homes (“houses” as you say) and live in an apartment. (* – *) Blank stare at you. Then you say he left his wife to be with you, yet his wife didn’t even know he was living with you until you texted her. (Girl, you truly are showing your age. You’re not 27, you’re 15. You texted his wife instead of calling her. LMBAO!) So, explain to me how did he leave his wife to be with you and yet he’s still married, and he told his wife that he wanted to be alone. So, therefore, he didn’t leave his wife for you because if he did, then he would have told his wife he was leaving her for another woman. (* – *) Blank stare at you. Then, you discover that he and his wife attend church services together every week, and you attend the same church, but haven’t been in a while. (* – *) Blank stare at you. Excuse me, ma’am, but what small ass backwoods town do you all live in? Are you sure that you all are not related? I can’t today. Really, I can’t! I’m really curious to know how can you work part-time, attend school part-time, and keep up bull-ish full-time? LMBAO! I see I’m going to have to open up a few satellite all-women’s academies in small backwoods towns: The Academy For Dumbass Women Who Are Looking For Daddy And Sleeping With Other Women’s Husbands . I’m going to offer you my advice and stop letting you have it because I know the readers are going to have a field day with you and your letter. I suggest you leave the married man you are sleeping with alone. It’s obvious he is not leaving his wife for you. They are still married. He’s told you, and her, that he misses his wife and he hopes God puts them back together again. (* – *) Blank stare at him. Girl, let that man go and return to his wife because whatever problems and issues they have they are not your concern. Let him go work out his mess with his wife, and he needs to leave you out of it. But, I gather in about a few more weeks, or the next two months, he’ll be back with his wife. Trust me. I see all and know all. I then suggest you speak with your husband and figure out the next few steps for you two. It’s obvious you two should get a divorce. So, start the paperwork. Move on with your life and stop f***king up other people’s lives. You are truly abackwoods-ishstarter.com. I’m going to need you to focus on you! Focus on school! Focus at your job! It’s obvious you need a lot of therapy and counseling. Yes, ma’am. You need some intense therapy on self-worth and self-esteem. You have no regard for anyone other than yourself. It’s sad and pathetic. I see why no young dude, or anyone your age will be bothered with you, and you have to seek out older men because someone your age would have gone upside your head by now. Nobody has time for all this bull-ish! Now ask yourself these questions: Why do you find older men appealing? What are you looking for in older men? Is it comfort, stability, or responsibility? Do you value others? Do you care that when you sleep with another’s woman’s husband that you are not only interrupting her life, but other’s in his family? I don’t care if he’s been cheating on her since day one, what does that have to do with you? But, you’re young and silly because your letter reads like that of a chicken-head girl in high school, and yes I said chicken-head girl. You know what, I can’t do you right now because I feel like momma Braxton from the Braxton Family Values when she was scolding Tamar, and I want to slap the piss out of you right now. It’s hurtful to know that you didn’t have a father figure in your life to treat you with love, respect, and dignity. So, therefore you will know how to have love, respect, and have dignity for yourself, and to help you recognize true authentic love from a man. It’s also hurtful to know that your mother didn’t share with you about the sanctity of marriage, and that when you make that commitment you are in it for the long haul and not for the moment and thrill of it. And, that you don’t sleep with another woman’s husband. Girl, not only are you violating your marriage, but someone else’s. Do you see the damage you’re doing? Do you recognize the hurt and pain you’re causing? Please wake up and stop eating possum and drinking that cedar wood liquor. It’s not good for you. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook, click HERE! Make sure to get your copy of my new book , Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15). It is available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
‘I had never read a character that was more like who I am as a person,’ he tells MTV News of playing Peeta. By Kara Warner Josh Hutcherson in “The Hunger Games” Photo: Lionsgate All right, “Hunger Games” fans, are you ready for a little exclusive interview with soon-to-be superstar Josh Hutcherson? We’ve been hinting about it ever since we named Hutcherson “Most Likely to Play a Superhero” as part of our New Class , and the time has finally come to unveil this nifty bit of footage that will have you convinced (if you weren’t already) he’s one to watch in 2012. For those unfamiliar with the talented 18-year-old, he made a splash in Hollywood last year with his buzzed-about performance in the award-season darling “The Kids Are All Right,” and now he’s embodying the pivotal and beloved role of Peeta Mellark in the highly anticipated big-screen adaptation of Suzanne Collins’ dystopian best-seller “The Hunger Games.” MTV News was very lucky to catch up with Hutcherson recently, when he discussed the importance of landing the role, what Peeta means to him and his favorite scene to film. MTV News : Talk to us about what the role of Peeta means to you and why you love him. Josh Hutcherson : It’s so crazy. When I read the books, I had never read a character that was more like who I am as a person and had kind of my core values and what I believe in. So it kind of drove me crazy in a way, because I felt like I was so right for it, then I had to go through this crazy audition process. So to finally be making the movie and now we’re finished, it’s like, somebody please pinch me, because I still don’t believe this is actually happening. For me, it’s just an honor to be a part of such a great story. Gary Ross is such an amazing director, and Jennifer Lawrence is perfect, and everyone else we cast was really great. MTV : What was the audition process like? Did you do specific scene work? Hutcherson : For the audition process, I came in the first time and read a few scenes for Gary Ross and [author] Suzanne Collins and some of the other producers involved. Then maybe about a week or so, maybe two weeks later, I came in and did a screen test with Jennifer, where I actually read the scenes with her so they could see how the chemistry worked. Both of them felt really great, but as an actor, you just pick apart every single thing that you do, so for me, I was on pins and needles waiting to find out. And then when I finally found out, my jaw hit the floor. I was so excited. MTV : What were your favorite scenes to film? Hutcherson : It’s very similar to the book. Probably my favorite scenes are all the scenes with myself and Katniss in the cave, because they’re really emotional and you get to see a lot of their relationship develop there, so for me as an actor, I liked that a lot. And then of course all the physical running through the forest — that was really fun as well. MTV : Did you guys get a lot of bumps and bruises from all that stunt work? Hutcherson : There were tons of bumps and bruises, yeah. It was pretty intense. Check out everything we’ve got on “The Hunger Games.” For young Hollywood news, fashion and “Twilight” updates around the clock, visit HollywoodCrush.MTV.com .
‘It’s almost impossible to describe, it’s so unusual,’ he tells MTV News. By Kara Warner with reporting by Josh Horowitz Woody Harrelson Photo: MTV News For all our fellow “Hunger Games” fans out there, the wait for the film’s March 23 release date is both highly anticipated and a bit painful. Lucky for us, MTV News has encountered a few of the film’s principal players over the course of the past few months, like Jennifer Lawrence and director Gary Ross , who have helped tease a few key details to make the wait for the film seem slightly shorter. Now, we are very happy to share another special cast encounter: our recent chat with Woody Harrelson , a.k.a. Haymitch Abernathy, who revealed the secrets of his character’s ‘do and a few teases about the look of the film, as well as how much fun he had with Lawrence, Josh Hutcherson and his other co-stars. “The hair, when I was thinking about what to do for the character, I hung out with my brother Brett, and that is exactly the way his hair is,” Harrelson explained of how the long, slightly shaggy hairdo came to be. “I was like, ‘OK, let’s get a wig. Let’s do the Brett Harrelson hair.’ It’s kind of cool. I really liked the look. It’s a fun character, and I think it’s going to be a good movie.” We asked Harrelson how closely he resembles the alcoholic, unkempt, out-of-shape former champion, as described by author Suzanne Collins in the books — like, for example, if he wore a fat suit or gained a bit of weight. “No, I didn’t want to do the paunch,” Harrelson revealed. “In many ways, I tried to go against this rough, old, typical concept of what he would be like. I don’t know yet that I succeeded, but I think it turned out good,” he said. “I loved working with Gary Ross. I think he is just a great director, an amazing guy.” With regard to the look and feel of the big-screen adaptation, Harrelson called the visuals “staggering.” “It’s almost impossible to describe, it’s so unusual. Even ice in the glass, even the glasses are not normal glasses. There’s nothing that you’ve seen before. It’s real original artistic vision,” he said. “I think people are going to like it.” One of the things Harrelson liked — in addition to Haymitch, of course — was working with his young co-stars, particularly Lawrence and Hutcherson. “I think they’re just marvelous actors. I think they just knocked it out of the park,” he gushed. “Just as people, [they are] about as fun as it gets. They really are fun folks. It’s cool, because I’ve never even done a sequel, and I just signed on to four movies, so we’re going to be spending a lot of time together between doing the movies and press and everything, so it’s great to love these guys. “Having done this first one, I can say I do look forward to doing the next one,” he added. “It wasn’t a chore. It was actually the opposite; it was a lot of fun. They managed to mix business and pleasure really well, that whole group. I’d say we get after it again next year.” Check out everything we’ve got on “The Hunger Games.” For young Hollywood news, fashion and “Twilight” updates around the clock, visit HollywoodCrush.MTV.com . Related Videos Exclusive ‘Hunger Games’ Sneak Peek Related Photos ‘Hunger Games’ Character Posters ‘Hunger Games’ District Seals The Hunger Games
Dear Bossip , I am seeking impartial advice because I have been wrecking my mind for the past few months contemplating what to do about my situation. I started dating this guy back in 2008 after we met at a wedding and were introduced by my cousin who happened to be his good friend. (It was a long distance relationship by the way). At the time we were both 18. I fell in love so soon and while he reciprocated most of my feelings for him, he was still coming to terms of getting into a serious relationship at his age. I was advised by another cousin not to date him because she knew him quite well and she even told me he was a big flirt. He pursued me and came across as a really charming guy who could do no wrong. I agreed to be his girlfriend and we set it off. After a few months of dating, he cheated on me with a girl I knew and although he claims he never slept with her, he says they just used their hands to pleasure each other. I went ‘”mad black woman”’ on him and dumped him, but he begged me and promised he would never do it again and cut off all ties with that other girl immediately. I really loved this guy with all of my heart and I guess that was my main problem in the relationship, I was more in love than he was at the time. I became really vulnerable and my trust for him was shaken and he became emotionally & verbally abusive. Over the months we argued and bickered non-stop, and constantly hanging up the phone on each other. I then broke it off. He called me after a week and kept begging me to take him back and that he would change, etc. However, I had begun to move on before things got too worse. He traveled to where I lived to see me so we could talk properly and because he had shown some effort I agreed to meet him. The meeting didn’t go as he had planned and he lashed out and left. After a few weeks we agreed to meet up again and we reconnected and I forgave him. I moved further away after that so I decided to break it off for good but he kept coming back incessantly. He would blow up my phone constantly and I agreed to his request just to stop him being so passive aggressive, although deep down I obviously still loved him a lot. A month later, I went to my friend’s house and she knew how abusive he had been to me and resented him for it. Every time he would call my phone, she would answer it for me and say I was busy or sleeping. I regret letting that happen but at the time I felt he deserved it for the way he had treated me. He called me up one day while I was still at my friend’s and said he had moved on and found a new girl and I just acted like didn’t care to save face. He went for a really young girl (statutory rape young) and I let him go. Although he was with her he still kept thinking of me and he kept calling and texting etc. I ended up moving on too, a few months after he had, with a really nice guy too. He came back again and promised he would never cheat on or lie to me and after a month of resisting I took him back for the simple fact that I loved him. Things were cool between us and I began to regain my trust for him as well as my love. We were good up until he suggested we take a break because we were headed towards the argue/bicker phase again however during that “break” he slept with 3 girls including that young girl. He confessed so I went back to my ex too. All the while he let that young girl disrespect me and all claiming he is hers, and I told her simply the facts. Then I also told her to go ahead and have his trifling ass but he kept coming back to me. I hate the fact that each time me and him argue he goes and starts flirting on his phone with other girls but because we live far apart how do I know he’s not actually physically being with other girls even though he claims it ends on the phone? He also never had a job. Every time I went to visit him I paid for dates, food, and cleaned his place up for him, he was lazy and spent all his free time playing games and getting sidetracked by friends. He never listened to my advice but when it came from other people it made sense. He let other people disrespect me (i.e. his ex and friends) never stood up for me, and sometimes acted as though he didn’t want to show me affection or be seen with me in public. He changed completely and all those words he said about wanting me and making it work faded into thin air. Like I said before my story is long but just a month ago, he got back in touch, claims he has changed and that he was just a teenage boy and immature and now he is grown and he understands, misses and cherishes what we had (2 years) and he knows I’m the girl for him and he really wants to make it work and even marry me and move in together and start our life together. But, I refused over and over because I feel like we will go on another rollercoaster again. How do I get over him and have I made the right decision? Your advice will be much appreciated. – Leave Him Or Keep Him Dear Ms. Leave Him Or Keep Him , Sigh! Young minds convoluted with pure stupidity. I tell you I don’t know who is raising the youth of today, but something’s got to be done. Young girls are running and getting into relationships with young boys who don’t have a job, a life, or anything other than some sex. These young girls allow themselves to be abused emotionally, mentally, and physically because they are ‘Looking for daddy,’ and ‘somebody to love them.’ And as soon as someone tells them they love them they are jumping on their backs and spreading their legs for every John, Dick, and Gary. SMDH! Why are you not talking about being in someone’s school or pursuing something positive in your life? How about you put all that energy you are wasting on some cornball who ain’t got –ish, and won’t be –ish and invest that energy into yourself and get some self-esteem. Go get a library card and go learn something. Check out the museums and other cultural institutions in your city. Here’s a novel idea; how about you and your girlfriends start a book club and read some empowering and inspiring books that encourage and uplift you, and stop running after these little boys whose minds are not fully developed. Chile, you kids today are truly the reason we won’t have a future intelligent and economically empowered society or community. You’re stuck on stupid and stuck on d**k. I wish I could just shake the –ish out of you and wake up those dead brain cells lying dormant in your head. Girl, the boy lives in whole other state and you’re worried about what he’s doing and who he’s doing. HERE’S A NEWS FLASH: The boy has shown you time and time again who he is. He is a cheater, liar, abuser, and worthless piece of –ish. He’s no more interested in a relationship with you than you are an education for yourself. The doors are wide and open of the ALL GIRL ACADEMY FOR WOMEN WHO THINK HAVING A MAN WILL MAKE THEM HAPPY, BECAUSE THEY DON’T KNOW HOW TO LOVE THEMSELVES. Tell me this: What has he brought to the table to empower you? What has he brought to the table to uplift or motivate you? And, don’t tell me, “I don’t know but I just love him. We connect on a whole other level. And, the sex is the bomb.” Sweetie, getting d**k is not a reason to be in love with someone. Stop equating sex with love. They are not equally mutually the same. Sex is sex. Love is love. By the way, do you know how many smart, intelligent, working, loving, powerful, and spiritual real men are out there who can bring good conversation, a wealth of experience, infinite knowledge, maturity, monogamy, and good d**k to the table? Let me ask you this: Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone who you constantly bicker and fight with? Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone who allows their friends and exes to disrespect you? Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone who cheats, disrespects, lies, and abuses you? I’ll wait while you think of answers to those questions. I know it will take you some time since you’re working with limited intelligence. And, for the record, yes, I’m mad at you because you have allowed yourself to become this revolving door by allowing this low-class low-life bum to enter and re-enter any and every damn time he pleases. Stop the damn repetitive cycle and keep the damn door closed. HE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE. HE’S WORTHLESS. And, if someone is worthless then they will treat you just as worthless. A piece of sh*t attracts a piece of sh*t. Are you a piece of sh*t? You know how you said you went Mad Black Woman on him. Well, how about you become Smart Black Woman from now on! Respect yourself. Respect your body: It’s your temple, your power, your source of love. Don’t let someone who has no self-regard disrespect and destroy you. Build a solid foundation of happiness, self-love, joy, peace, and dignity. If he is not adding to you, then he is destroying you. And, you, my dear, clearly sound wounded and destroyed. Your spirit is weak. Rebuild yourself. Become proud and defiant. Demand the best for yourself and of yourself. Now, get off your exes DUMB-BUM rollercoaster. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter: @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook, click HERE! Make sure to get your copy of my new book , Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15). It is available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
We’re still waiting for the unveiling of her sunglasses line, new film and reality show but Amber Rose is making big plans for her latest career path… as an AUTHOR! The bald-headed beauty took to her blog to tell fans what she’s up to now: September 23, 2011 I have decided that I will write books. Something u may not know about me is that I’ve been writing stories for a long time it was always something personal for me but now I’m ready to share my stories with the world. My books are about being in Love, Heartbreak, Sex, betrayal and all of the things that I’ve been thru in my life. Stories that will make u feel many emotions based on true events of my past and present. I hope u are as excited to read my books as I am to write them for u -Amb We’d love to get excited about this but it seems like Amber manages to never go into detail about anything controversial in her past — not her lesbian relationships and definitely not her breakup with Yeezy. Do you think the books will be any different???
Policy requiring gay and lesbian service members to keep their orientation secret was officially repealed Tuesday. By Gil Kaufman Photo: Sandy Huffaker/Getty Images It took a little longer than planned, but Tuesday (September 20) marks the official end of the U.S. military’s controversial “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. The 1993 law that allowed gays and lesbians to serve in the armed forces as long as they kept their orientation secret officially went off the books as of 12:01 a.m. EDT, putting an end to a rule that drew fire from scores of gay activists and supporters over the years, including Lady Gaga and Katy Perry . While some in Congress have said they oppose the ruling, CBS News reported that top leaders in the Pentagon have expressed confidence that the change will not undermine the military’s ability to recruit or fight wars and will not have a negative impact on troop morale. “The law is repealed,” the Army announced plainly in a statement, which included a reminder to soldiers to treat each other fairly and with respect. The White House sent out an official tweet with the news as well, which read, “As of 12:01 a.m., the repeal of the discriminatory law known as ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ finally & formally takes effect.” As of last week, the Pentagon said 97 percent of the military had already undergone training under the new law and the armed services have been accepting applications from openly gay recruits for weeks. Celebrity blogger Perez Hilton celebrated with a tweet early Tuesday morning, writing, “R.I.P. #DADT. And good riddance!” Gaga, who arrived at the 2010 MTV VMAs with openly gay service members who had been discharged or left the military due to the policy, made viral videos and spoke at a September 2010 rally calling for the end of DADT, tweeted her emotional reaction to the repeal last year. “Can’t hold back the tears+pride. We did it! Our voice was heard + today the Senate REPEALED DADT. A triumph for equality after 17 YEARS,” she wrote back on December 18 when the Senate voted to officially repeal the measure.
