‘There have been malicious rumors started at this elementary school that my beautiful fiancé is a hobbit,’ ‘Ye tells the kids of South Park Elementary. By Gil Kaufman
Dear Bossip , I need some advice. I am a 25-year old woman and I’ve been in a relationship with a 38-year old man for a year and a half. We currently live together, and are very much in love and plan on getting married. We have both been married and divorced once before. His union produced a 15-year old boy and a 10-year old girl. I have no children and found out two years ago that due to complications from an abortion I had in my teens, I am unable to get pregnant. I was heartbroken when I found this out. I had always wanted to be a mother and to find out that I aborted my only child devastated me. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t regret my decision. It literally haunts me. When I met my boyfriend, he expressed to me that he is done having children and is positive he doesn’t want anymore. I was okay with that at the time because I thought I had come to terms with not being able to have kids and figured him not wanting any would make it easier for me to deal with. Fast forward to the present, I have since met his two kids and get along with them well. I thought that meeting his kids and forming a relationship with them would help fill the void of not having my own child, but I was wrong. There are days I fantasize about finding a man with no kids or one who wants more and trying to have a child (because I truly believe that medicine only goes so far and then there’s God), or possibly adopting. But, I am torn because the man I’m with is wonderful. He is loving, supportive, hard-working, a great dad and an awesome provider. He is truly one of the “good black men.” He treats me like a queen. But, he is not budging on the kid thing and I can’t blame him. My mother tells me that if he truly loves me, he will allow me the chance to be a mom, but I don’t agree. Thirty-eight is, in my opinion, a little old to be starting over with a newborn and he’s “been there done that,” so I don’t think his level of love for me has anything to do with it. So, my struggle is: Do I leave my awesome man and wonderful relationship to search for a man interested in having kids or perhaps be single and adopt on my own? I love this man with all my heart, but this void that I feel and this urge to be a mother is almost overwhelming at times. But, then there is the fear that even if I do meet a man willing to have children or adopt, he won’t measure up to what I have with my current man and then that will be a new regret. I am truly torn! – Between A Child or My Man Dear Ms. Between A Child or My Man , I’m truly sorry to hear about your early life choice in which it prevents you from having children. I’m sure that is devastating to experience, and especially since you’re now having the urge and desire to have your own child. And, I’m not a woman, so I don’t even purport to know what it’s like to desire and want a child, and have that biological clock ticking. But, from what I hear and experience in knowing many women and their conversations around children, then I would strongly suspect that having a child is more important than having a man. Again, that’s been my experience. So, what I recommend is that you have a sit down with your man. You two should have a long and serious conversation about children, your desire to adopt or at least try to have a child, and if he is willing to at least consider the idea. However, considering that he has made it clear that he is not interested in anymore children, I’m betting that he is not interested in having any more children, especially at 38-years of age. Like you mentioned, he’s been there and done that. I know of many married men, and men in relationships who have had children in their thirties and have said that they regret it. I’ve heard them complain about how they wished they would have done it sooner rather than later. Many of them already had teenage children, so having a baby was something they did not want or plan on doing. And, don’t get me wrong, they did love their newborn babies, but they had a lot of resentment and regret. But, on the other hand, there are some men who didn’t mind, and they were completely happy. The point I’m making is, if you want your relationship to grow, to build, and to sustain itself after the newborn comes along, then you need to build a solid foundation from the beginning. You both need to be on the same page, and have the same dreams, desires, and wants. If this is something that he is completely against, and he is not budging, then you may want to consider leaving the relationship, and finding a man who desires and wants to have children. And, there are plenty of men out there who would love to have a house full of children, and relish in the idea of being a father and dad. Now, it’s great that your man is a loving caretaker and provider, and he treats you like a queen. He loves his children, and is hard-working, and one of the “good black men.” But, let’s talk about the “supportive” aspect that you mentioned. You stated that he is supportive, but supportive of what? His dreams and desires? His wants and needs? A man who is supportive will listen to your plans, ideas, hopes, and dreams and will support them. Especially if they are in the best interest of you, and how it builds you, inspires you, and empowers you. So, if you desire to have a child, then he should be open to listening, be willing to consider the options, and how this makes you happy, and fills a desire and need for you. He will let go of his ego and his wants and needs in order that he may support you because he knows that you are unable to have children. So, why deny you of that opportunity or prevent you in having that bond and connection with a child that most women yearn and desire for? If he is not willing to listen, consider, and let go of his ego, then you should consider your relationship, and the future you have with him. You’re a young woman, and it would behoove me to tell you not to have a child, and to get over this idea, especially to have and keep a man. Your instincts to have a child, and to care and nurture another human being of your own is your right. No one can deny you of that opportunity. And, no man is worth it. Besides, who knows what the future holds for you. You could leave the relationship, adopt a beautiful child, and you meet another wonderful, caring, loving, supportive, and hard-working “good black man.” And, he may want to have a house full of children. You never know. So, don’t get stuck in the familiar, and get tunnel-vision. Besides, I’m sure you’ve done a lot of bending and sacrificing, and being supportive of him and his ideas. Why can’t he bend and sacrifice for you? Sometimes many women get into relationships and give up themselves and lose themselves for a man and what he wants. You go with the flow, and then you regret that when it’s time for you to voice your opinion, and ask for support that your man chucks it up, and dismisses you and your dreams, ideas, and hopes. You stay in the relationship because it’s good, he’s good, and it’s just this one thing he won’t budge on. Well, good is great, but how about better? How about great? Ma’am, you don’t want to stay in a relationship and have regrets for the rest of your life wondering what you should of, could of, would of done if you had adopted a child, and left the relationship. Sometimes you have to step out on faith and trust God. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! 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Kaili Thorne is some no name actress who is in movies that are worst that d-list…and she has a shit stain on her thigh… You may know her because her older sisters are named Dani Thorne and Bella Thorne…they are some Disney trash with red hair…which I guess means she has parents who prostitute their kids out to the entertainment industry because it is good money and the American fucking dream…meaning they were raised with perfect questionable morals and values. Well unlike her boring sisters, she’s getting naked, in artistic nudes so it’s still acceptable… and I appreciate how she rebels and differentiates herself…and I fucking love it cuz her 21 year old body is banging… I want to marry her tits….even though I fear her weirdo redheaded family… I like her strategy.
Kaili Thorne is some no name actress who is in movies that are worst that d-list…and she has a shit stain on her thigh… You may know her because her older sisters are named Dani Thorne and Bella Thorne…they are some Disney trash with red hair…which I guess means she has parents who prostitute their kids out to the entertainment industry because it is good money and the American fucking dream…meaning they were raised with perfect questionable morals and values. Well unlike her boring sisters, she’s getting naked, in artistic nudes so it’s still acceptable… and I appreciate how she rebels and differentiates herself…and I fucking love it cuz her 21 year old body is banging… I want to marry her tits….even though I fear her weirdo redheaded family… I like her strategy.
This wife was fed up. Woman Breaks Into Home Through Doggy Door You know you’ve had it when you break into the house through the doggy door. According to KHOU: Prosecutors believe a love triangle between three doctors turned into what sounds like a script from a movie of the week. One doctor is now facing criminal charges after police say she broke into the home of her romantic rival last weekend. Doctor Angela Siler-Fisher is the medical director at Ben Taub Hospital’s Emergency Center and is also a professor at Baylor College of Medicine. Siler-Fisher now stands accused of a bizarre crime in an upscale West University area neighborhood. According to documents, Siler-Fisher broke into a home there by kicking in a doggy door. Once inside, she allegedly used lipstick to write ‘whore’ and ‘homewrecker’ on the woman’s mirror. Prosecutors say Siler-Fisher’s husband, Brandon Fisher, called the other woman to let her know that his wife was on the way. The woman reportedly left the home with her kids before Siler-Fisher got there. Law enforcement sources told KHOU Siler-Fisher also left a trail of unused condoms up the woman’s staircase. Siler-Fisher was arrested on charges of criminal trespass and harassment. She has since posted bond. According to documents, a surveillance camera captured Siler-Fisher coming and going from the other woman’s home. “She’s probably the most sane person in this neighborhood that I know. She’s an extraordinary doctor from what I know, great wife and mother,” explained Pancheri. “She’s a great woman.” Siler-Fisher could not be reached for comment Wednesday night. Love makes you do some crazy things. Facebook
Justin Bieber and his entourage were detained at the Brisbane, Australia airport by agents who found weed on one of his pals, according to reports. A security check by customs agents turned up an unknown amount of pot on a 23-year-old in Justin’s entourage. The suspect was fined and released. The incident took place late last month, according to TMZ. Interestingly, Australian Federal Police say that a 19-year-old was detained and released after getting a stern warning for using “inappropriate language.” The young man reportedly swore at the officers. Hmm. Sources close to the incident claim that the troubled pop superstar, lover of Brazilian porn stars and ex-boyfriend of Selena Gomez was in fact that man. As for the stoner, sources close to Justin say he also had a disposable vaporizer – an electronic device to smoke marijuana – with residue in it. An attorney for the suspect appeared in court to pay the fine on his behalf in what was yet another incident in a tour full of notable run-ins and altercations. His bodyguard was arrested last month in Hawaii after allegedly attacking a photographer on the beach, and caught attacking a shutterbug in Sydney. Bieber also boned Tati Neves and possibly other hookers / strippers during his whirlwind tour of Brazil, and was famously filmed sleeping it all off. Rock n’ roll.
This year’s Kardashian Christmas card , arguably the family’s most bizarre and definitely their most expensive yet, is telling for a number of reasons. Yes, Kim Kardashian is front and center and Kendall Jenner appears to be in the process of being groomed to take Kim’s place under Kris’ emperorship. But the most notable image of all? Bruce Jenner actually showup up for the shoot, but being shoved in the corner, locked in a glass tube and fighting to escape. Some photos really are worth a thousand words. It’s been an embarrassing year for the long-suffering patriarch, now a shell of his former self. And the humiliation he’s endured could cost Kris. “If Bruce Jenner opens up about all of the dirt he has on Kris, he could easily get a book advance of $15 million,” a publishing insider tells In Touch. Adds a Kardashian family friend, apparently worried: “All of her secrets would come out and she’d be completely destroyed. Bruce knows everything.” Yes … but what? And would he really tell all? Given that this is Bruce Jenner, probably not. He just likes to race cars, play golf, hang with his kids, and not be nagged. All in all, a super dude. You can criticize him for a lot of things, but being vindictive or vengeful is just not in his nature. That’s why he took Kris’ crap for so many years. Also, what would he possibly say that we don’t know, or that would damage her? That she staged / hawked the Kim Kardashian sex tape herself? Even that wouldn’t surprise anyone, or damage the brand. It’s like the Empire at this point, just without the obvious weakness in the Death Star. Or someone willing / interested in taking it on. Bruce is not going to use the Force for anything more than shaving a few strokes off his golf handicap. We’d pay to read his nonexistent tell-all, though. That’s for sure. If he even loses $15 million from his vast fortune, maybe he’ll consider it then …
Remember how your mom used to say “never stick anything in your ear that’s smaller than your elbow” and you would try, and fail, to get your elbow up to your ear? Probably fail? Because unless you’re a freak of nature how do you get your elbow to your ear? (I totally just tried it just now. You’re welcome.) There’s good reason for your mother’s warnings. Doctors in China recently performed surgery on a toddler, Ranran, after it was discovered that a dandelion was growing in her ear. Toddler Undergoes Surgery to Remove Dandelion From Ear Ranran’s parents took the young girl to the doctor when they noticed she was complaining of her ear itching . The same ear into which they say a dandelion seed fell four months prior. Four months. A dandelion was growing in her ear for FOUR MONTHS. The dandelion removal went pretty quickly and stunned the doctors who performed the surgery. The dandelion was about 2 cm and fully formed. They believe it was able to grow inside the toddler’s head because of the warmth and humidity of the ear canal.
The first trailer for the upcoming ninth season of Keeping Up with the Kardashians premiered last night on E! and teased emotional family moments galore. The Kardashian krew aired their big Christmas special Sunday, but it’s the family Christmas kard and the Season 9 KUWTK trailer that have people buzzing. This is likely because unlike past seasons, there’s almost no need to manufacture drama for ratings. For the Kardashians, this is as real as it gets. Take a look at the official preview below and see … Keeping Up With the Kardashians Season 9 Trailer Because this is Kim Kardashian , Kris Jenner and kompany, we’ve seen a lot of these events play out in the tabloids already. Now, they get the TV treatment. Among the notable, dramatic Kardashian-tastic storylines to kome when the hit “reality” show returns for its ninth (!) season sometime in 2014? Kris telling her kids that she and Bruce are separating. Khloe Kardashian dealing with major anxiety issues as she deals with marital problems and paparazzi hounding her about Lamar Odom’s crack addiction . Lamar talking to Kourtney Kardashian on the phone, promising that he will do anything to be accepted by his estranged spouse and her family again. Kourt looking pretty darn sexy on vacation. Yowza! Kanye West’s proposal to Kim Kardashian. Should be an eventful season, to say the least.
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