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Evening Eye Candy: Reader-Submitted Model And Cutie, Skyler Scott
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People always talk about dumping bad friends, but are you sure you haven’t been a crappy BFF?
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It’s Not Them, It’s You: Signs You’re Not As Good Of A Friend As You Thought
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Dear Bossip , I’m 26-years old, and the mother of two beautiful daughters ages 6 and 3 years old. My story, to keep it brief, is I met my kid’s father almost 7 years ago. Our relationship, you can say, went from zero to one hundred real quick. Within three months we were living together, and I was pregnant with our first child. I was completely in love with life. Everything was going great, so I thought. As years went on I started to notice he was verbally abusive. That later became physical, not just on his end but mine as well. I’m bipolar and I never told him. Once my anger reaches a point I go into a state where it becomes sometimes uncontrollably. I later left once I become more emotionally stable. Now, two years later we are still together, but still no ring. I’m ready for the next chapter in life. We both have changed, but he is still hesitant about the thought of marriage. So, now we are in year 7 and he always says, “Yeah, baby, we gonna get married it just takes time.” Or, he says, “Baby, we gonna get married. We working on it, just take it one day at a time.” Which I understand, but at what point do I say no. No more waiting. We aren’t currently living together and I was recently offered a job out of state. I’m torn because I do love him and I do want us to be a family. But, I’m conflicted should I stay and wait? Leave and begin my new book as a single mother? – She Just Doesn’t Know Dear Ms. She Just Doesn’t Know , Accept the job offer and leave. Start over, begin a new life, and the new chapter in your life. You’ve been down this road of waiting on him. And, I’m sorry, but there are no pit stops along the way where you have to wait on a man, especially one who doesn’t think of you seriously, or your relationship. Ma’am, you’ve endured the abuse, on both of your ends, and, even though you mentioned things are better now, there is still no ring. So, why wait? Seven years later, and he still can’t make up his mind on whether or not he wants to get married? Uhm, no! This is not how this works. Why keep you on hold saying it takes time? You’ve given him 7 years and a child. You’ve invested in him, and you’ve been through hell and back. But, you’re not worth it to get married despite everything you’ve gone through with him? Get the freak out of here! If it hasn’t gotten better now, it won’t. If he is waiting on some miraculous sign to give him the “a-okay” to get married, it’s not going to happen. And, what are you working on before you get married? Are you in pre-marital counseling? Is he getting help for his anger, and abusive behavior? Are you therapy for your bipolar, and have you told him since you’ve kept it from him? If you haven’t done any of the above that I just mentioned, then why get married? Seriously!?! There is no need to marry this man if neither of you are working on yourselves, in therapy, and getting the necessary treatment you both clearly need. Therefore, you’ll just be spinning your wheels if you stay there and continue waiting on him. MOVE! LEAVE! Here is the opportunity, a blessing in disguise, to move on, start a new chapter in your life, and begin anew. A window of opportunity has opened, hell, a door is being propped open, so why not take it? You won’t know until you do it! Simply do it and watch other miraculous blessings open up, and new things begin to appear. Take the chance. Go and do you and for the first time really, and I mean really get to know what happiness, self-love, love, joy, happiness, and peace will be like without him. This is the time to invest in you and your child. Make the investment. You can sit there and wait on him all you want. You can ask until you’re blue in the face. If he isn’t ready, then nothing will make him do what he doesn’t want to do. And, simply, he doesn’t want to get married. He’s shown you, told you, and continues to be about him. Sure, he may love you, but marrying you is not what he wants. So, love you and your child enough to walk away, chuck up the deuces and give this new life a try. You have nothing to lose. And, I’m sure he will want to come back and want to be all up in your face talking about marriage once you start talking about moving. Well, too late. He had his chance. Now, it’s time to do you. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean: loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter: @ terrancedean and “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook, click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15); Hiding In Hip Hop (Atria Books – June 2008); and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: I’m Considering Waiting On Him To Get Married, Or Accepting A Job Offer Out Of State
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Corbis From being called crazy or people assuming we’re too independent, these misconceptions are quite tired.
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“It’s Because You’re Too Independent!”: Annoying Misconceptions People Have About Single Women
Dear Bossip , I need some advice, as I am quite perplexed, due to my recent unfortunate discovery of my recently married wife who has been sending semi-nude photos to men online, and started to contact two of her ex-boyfriends. Quick chronological order to simplify things: 2013 September: We did a registered marriage in front of just our immediate families, as we decided to apply for benefits together, do taxes jointly, etc. We live together in Los Angeles, and we are originally from Canada. All our friends and family are there, it’s just us both living in L.A. 2014 February: We start planning a wedding (in Toronto) – to have the religious and reception party. Things were getting hectic, as we had a big wedding inviting 350 people. March-May: Lots of wedding planning, lots of stress in both our lives, with parents involved, and many differing opinions. Lots of little disputes. Wife makes up her mind that I am against her no matter what I input. Overall, things seemed fairly happy. We were a getting a bit emotionally disconnected due to our family differences (her parents are divorced. I come from a small knit close family upbringing). Her school/work stress added, and, my own work and career stress was also increasing. June: Wedding planning almost done, lots of disputes between my wife and my parents. I am caught in between, and she is extremely demanding and feels I need to support her 100% of the time regardless of the situation. But, day to day, things seem fine. We get along fine, only wedding and family talk was the heated topic. She then makes an account and starts to send extremely provocative pictures of herself to this FB guy she met online. She has a certain look that she loves. All her ex-boyfriends have fit this look and celebrities as well, the Chris Brown/ Swiss Beats look — mixed dude look. By this time we stopped having any sexual contact for weeks. From early to end June she sent about 4-6 pictures of herself. In July, days before the wedding, a huge arguments breaks out. Her dad, a real hot-head, and her storm out of my parent’s house. Wedding almost breaks up, but somehow we talked it out and went through with it. It went well. We were happy – I was and she appeared to be. We went on a honeymoon – it was fantastic (to me, and she made it seem so). And, then, we recently both started new stressful jobs. After our honeymoon, she says there is no spark in our marriage, and we talked about solutions – days after starting new and stressful jobs. A few days after she contacts her ex-boyfriends, two of them one after another, and start chatting, after almost 6-7 years after they broke up, and talked about the old days, etc. She does this on FB throughout the day, laying in bed, pretending to be sleeping. I found all this on her computer and confronted her. She tried to hide it, and even in front of me she deletes the emails and tells me there is nothing. I already saw those emails during the day, so I knew there was stuff in the trash box. She said she feels horrible for doing it, and finally admitted to it. She said she is really remorseful. She is a big time attention whore on FB, and loves drama. I am truly and deeply hurt that days before the wedding, and days after the wedding she is doing this. – Please advise. – Trouble In The Marriage Dear Mr. Trouble In The Marriage , Uhm, sir, what are you perplexed about? Your wife, whom you just married and it ain’t even been a good month yet, has already sent nude photos to another man on FB, and she is communicating with two of her ex-boyfriends. And, when you confronted her about it she denied it, deleted the messages in front of you, and tried to hide them and attempted to make you look stupid. But, hold up, right after your honeymoon she tells you that your marriage has no spark. So, uhm, sir, again I ask, what are you confused and perplexed about? Now, I don’t know if you read your letter before you sent it in, but I can clearly see what’s going on, and you should have notice the pattern from the beginning. First off, she isn’t happy. And, I’m not sure she wants to be married. But, that’s just my guess, and I could be wrong. However, a woman who is just married doesn’t send naked pictures of herself to some random man online, and she is not going to be reaching out to two of her ex-boyfriends to reminisce and catch up on old times. Oh, no sir! NOT IN MY HOUSE! But, also in reading your letter I noticed that your families are too involved in your lives, which added to the stress before and after the marriage. If you notice, most of the arguments happened when your families were involved, particularly, it happened with your wife and your family. (Sips tea, slowly) Not once did you mention that you and your wife did any pre-marital counseling before you got married. All of this could have been worked out before you got married, and any problems, issues, or challenges would have been brought to the forefront and addressed with a counselor. But, unfortunately, you both were pointing the finger at each other, blaming the other, and drifting apart. Then, you both had stressful jobs, she’s in school, and you live in another country where you have no support systems, and no friends. Your wife is lonely. She feels alone. She didn’t feel you supported her, or listened to her while you were planning your wedding, and because she likes attention she felt you were not giving her any. So, she reached out online for attention. She connected with her ex-boyfriends because she wanted someone to hear her, to see, to make her feel wanted. Now, I don’t condone what she did because she is wrong, and it was trifling of her to send nude pictures of herself to a man on FB, and she’s a married woman. And, she shouldn’t have reached out to her boyfriends and started up any type of conversations. Whatever issues or problems she had she should have come to you and talked about them. But, again, I’m not sure she wants to be married, or if she doesn’t know how to tell you that you’re not the man she wants. (Just an observation based on the information you provided regarding the types of guys she’s interested in, or have dated. I gather you don’t look like Chris Brown or Swizz Beats). But, I digress. The problem is you don’t communicate with each other. You don’t talk to one another. You don’t listen to each other. All the signs of what’s going on in your relationship continued to grow and fester, yet, neither of you did anything to address any of it head on. Instead, you drifted apart, silently blaming the other, and she finally got tired and reached outside of the marriage to get what she was missing from you. ATTENTION! You did say she likes attention, and that she is demanding. Read your letter again. The wedding planning and the marriage, it’s all about her. The arguments with your family, it’s all about her. Your household, she wants it to be all about her. She wants you to focus all your attention on her, yet, she is doing nothing to make you feel wanted, needed, or a part of this relationship. And, let’s address the fact that your wife stated to you, after your honeymoon, that there is no spark in your marriage. WOW! No spark in the marriage, and you just got married. Yup, it’s all about her and what she wants. So, ask her. Ask her what does she want from you. What does she expect. What is she looking for. What does she need. What sparks is she looking for, and what did she think marriage would be like. Because obviously you are not giving her the full undivided attention that she feels she needs or deserve. (I’m being facetious). I recommend that you and your wife get into marriage counseling now. Today. There is some underlying issues and bigger problems that neither of you are addressing. You need to get to the root and bottom of them because it has already escalated whereas she is seeking other men for attention. She’s already sent nude photos of herself, and she’s reached out to two of her ex-boyfriends. She’s thinking of cheating. She’s already planning it. Either, you attempt to work this out, attend the weekly counseling sessions, and start being honest with one another. Or, you get a divorce and find a woman who wants you for you, and someone who is not comparing you to other men. If you don’t nip this in the bud, well it’s too late for that, if you don’t prune these issues and eliminate them now, she will be in another man’s bed by next month. And, you will be trying to figure out why she is cheating on you and you haven’t even been married three months. Sit and talk with your wife. Let her know what you will and will not put up with, what your expectations in this marriage are, and what you need in order to be a team, a unit, and a family. The communicating with ex-boyfriends has to end today. The sending of naked photos will never happen again. Working on her marriage, giving you the attention you deserve, and being equally responsible for making it work depends on her. You can’t build a marriage and work on your relationship if she feels the best way to handle her needs is to seek out other men. If she can’t comply with this, then it’s time to get this marriage annulled, and you move on. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean and “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! 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Dear Bossip: We Just Got Married & I Caught My Wife Sending Nude Photos Online & She’s Been Talking With Her Exes
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Dear Bossip , I’ve been with my boyfriend, on and off, all through high school. We’re both under 20 years of age and have an apartment together. I guess everything is fading because every other week or month he’s been asking me would I like to go back home, like I just can. I moved away from my family, but me and my family aren’t that close anyway. And, I’ve been getting frustrated with him about that, but lately he told me he’s not physically nor sexually attracted to me anymore. Quiet honestly, I’m not attracted to myself; I’m not saying this because I feel bad or anything. I know I’m not looking my best, but how can I when I’m young and pay bills? I can’t even by myself a new hair bow. I need a makeover, or sweepstakes. But, it’s not that easy because the apartment and bills are in my name and we have a savings account together. He’s controlling, and I’m tired of that, too. It’s always he can say and do whatever, but I can’t and he’s overly insecure. If you seen him you wouldn’t think that because he’s very good looking. I don’t know. I really need some advice. It’s not easy not having anyone to talk to. I’ve also felt that I was pulling away from him because my interest has been on girls lately. But, also, because I feel like I’m too good to keep putting up with this after all I’ve done and continue to do. Is our high school romance over? Please let me know. – Ms. Trying To Get Me Good Dear Ms. Trying To Get Me Good , Yes, the high school romance is over. You are no longer lovebirds living under the protection and roofs of your parents, sneaking out with each other on the weekdays and week nights to meet up and talk about your dreams and fantasies. You are no longer in high school, meeting at your locker in between classes, kissing and feeling one another up, and making plans to skip school. Nope. Those days are long gone. You both decided you wanted to be adults, and play grown-ups, and move out on your own and live in your high school sweetheart bliss. Welp, you did and it’s not so pretty is it? Life is hard, and it’s tough. Life is full of paying bills, going to work, and being responsible adults. It’s not about laying up and laying around your loved one all day, and not having a worry in a world. It’s about taking care of yourselves, feeding yourselves, and struggling to keep the lights on, the water, paying car notes, your phones, and traveling back and forth to work. Welcome to adulthood. Welcome to being independent and living on your own. Now, because –ish has hit the fan, and the reality has set in for him, he is ready to bail out and call it quits. He’s ready to run home and go back to the safety net he once had. He’s figured out that life is not kind. It’s not hanging out in the streets and not worrying if food will be on the table and in the fridge when he comes home. He has to work. Be a man. And, take care of his responsibilities. And, you have become part of his responsibility. No longer is it just about him, or just about you. It’s the two of you in this together. So, now what do you do? Do you give up and run back home? Unfortunately, you say you can’t go home because you’re not close with your family. What will you do, or what can you do? Well, it will suck if he just up and leaves you and returns home. That is why he keeps asking you if you would like to go back home. The reality is that he wants to go back and home. And, because you can’t he is frustrated. He is angry. And, you are part of his frustration and anger. And, this puts a strain on your relationship and his feelings for you where he no longer finds you attractive physically or sexually. He wants out and feels obligated to stay. SMH! You have options. And, you need to strongly consider them. The first is let him go home. Let him leave, and end this relationship. He is not about this life, and you can’t afford to take care of him emotionally or mentally, nor be in this unhealthy relationship where he resents you. Why be with someone who doesn’t find you physically or sexually attractive? Why be with someone who resents you, and wants to control you? It’s not worth your sanity, health, and well-being. Let him go, wish him well, and figure out how you can either stay in this apartment by yourself, or you find a smaller studio apartment that you can afford. It’s time to look out for you! The next option is that you both return home to your parent’s homes. Yes, that means you will have to learn how to work on your relationship with your parent/s, and resolve the matter as an adult. No more arguing, no more talking back, and no more bucking their rules. I know it’s hard being a young adult living with your parent/s, and you think you know it all. Well, apparently that hasn’t worked out for you because look at your situation. At some point, you have to grow up, and start to take responsibility for your part and what you contribute to the dissention in the relationship. Sit down, talk, and work it out. Whatever is going on at home, you can talk about it. Learn to listen, and learn how to better communicate with one another. Being at home will allow you the opportunity to continue working, save some money, and you can give yourself 6 months to a year to earn enough money to move into another smaller and more affordable apartment alone. Yes, alone. The relationship with your boyfriend is over. It’s time to focus on you, building you, and taking care of yourself. And, also get back into school. Having an education, and empowering yourself will pay off in the long run so you won’t end up in this same rut. The final option is that you and your boyfriend can reassess your situation, get into couple’s counseling, and find an apartment that is more affordable to your income. There are some issues and challenges you both face and need to address. You have problems at home, and with your family that you bringing into this relationship. He resents you, and is unhappy in this situation, and has emotionally, mentally, and physically shut down from you. You see the layers that is being created simply because neither of you are not ready for the types of responsibilities you’re taking on, and you’re both under 20 years of age? You’re also complicating matters with your sexuality, and questioning whether you want to be with girls. You don’t find yourself pretty or attractive. You give all your power over to him, and you allow him to dictate to you what you can and cannot do. If you remain in this relationship, and in this situation it will only get worse. He will become verbally abusive, emotionally abusive, and then physically abusive. And, you will stay because you feel you have no place to go, nowhere to turn, and no one to talk to. You have the power to change this situation, and this circumstance. Think of you. Think of what you desire and what you want out of life. If it means ending it with him, then end it. If it means you struggle on your own without him, then it’s better to struggle alone than with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. The worst thing you can do is try to make someone stay with you who doesn’t want to be with you, or force something that is no longer working. If he wants to leave, then let him leave. Hell, help him pack, and wish him well. He is doing you a favor. And, I’m sure there are some programs, centers, and groups that can assist you in finding an apartment, a better job, and getting into college, either community college, or a trade school. Find a spiritual foundation, church, or center where you can go and talk to someone, and also a place where you can get motivated and inspired. Surround yourself with positive reinforcements. You can reclaim your life, and your power, but you have to be willing to do it. So, look at your options, and welcome to the real world. Welcome to life. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean and “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15); Hiding In Hip Hop (Atria Books – June 2008); and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: We’re Both Under 20 & Live Together, But It’s Difficult & I Feel Our High School Romance Is Over
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There are actually a number of famous lesbian and bisexual women who were married to men at one point and time.
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Oh the isht kids say! Boy Writes Letter From Camp Full Of Stories About Farts, Burps & Poop Our friends at Guyism posted this amazing letter from a kid who finally wrote his mom back after she started sending him daily letters. Liesl Testwuide took to ScaryMommy.com to reveal the gross but revealing letter-writing exchange between her and her son after he left home for camp for the first time. Here’s part of her blog, via MSN : Last year, my eight year-old son went to summer camp. It was the first time he had been away from home for more than a night. An hour after I dropped him off, I missed him. By the time I went to bed, I found myself wandering into his bedroom, just to feel close to him. As the days passed, I wrote to him daily. Each hour dragged as I’d wait for the mailman, hoping for just one letter from him. By that point I missed him so much, I began to imagine what he might write. As you’ve probably already guessed by our title the letter she received was nothing like what she imagined. YIKES! Think the push pops had anything to do with his runs??? Hit the flip for the rest Shutterstock
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