As you probably know, in the 24 hours since the world learned that Ben Affleck and Jennifer garner are getting divorced , there’s been no shortage of rumors regarding what exactly tore the couple apart. We’ll probably never know exactly why Ben and Jen split , but all fingers seem to be pointing to Ben as the party responsible. One source claims Ben neglected Jen to focus on his career , but all other insiders who have spoken out say that the problem was basically that Ben was a 42-year-old frat boy. He was a married father of three, yet by all accounts he lived his life like a really depressing episode of Entourage. We don’t know for sure if Ben cheated with Emily Ratajkowski or if his drinking and gambling were as out of hand as several sources have claimed, but apparently whatever bad behavior he was engaging became too much of a strain for Jen to bear. “Ben was essentially her fourth child, and she resented it,” an anonymous source claims. “There was constant pressure on Jen, that she admittedly put on herself, to make sure Ben was on track, not partying or drinking too much. “There were always constant reminders Jen had to give Ben about their kids’ school activities, sports, and their social obligations. “Jen was always taking care of Ben’s needs, and she was the strong one in the relationship. Along the way, Jen realized this, and her needs weren’t being met…Jen is looking forward to the future, and having some much-needed time to herself without worrying about Ben.” Hopefully, for the sake of the celebrity gossip world, this means that Ben being unleashed will result in a binge of boozing, black jacking, and banging the entire cast of the “Blurred Lines” video. Run along now, Ben. The grownups are counting on you.
Last week, Bobbi Kristina Brown was moved to a hospice facility to live out her final days free from the machines and medications that have kept her alive for the past five months. Police are still unsure of how she ended up unconscious in her bathtub back in January, but several sources report that foul play is suspected as a result of bruises that were found on Bobbi Kristina’s body. Krissy’s boyfriend/adopted brother Nick Gordon has been a person of interest in the investigation from day one, and with the 22-year-old daughter of Whitney Houston expected to pass away any day, Gordon may soon be investigated for murder . Last week, Bobbi Kristina’s family gathered to say their final goodbyes in preparation for the inevitable. Suspiciously, Gordon was nowhere to be found. Now, Radar Online is reporting that Gordon is in Florida , apparently visiting family. Gordon was released from rehab back in April and he reportedly returned to his home in Georgia, not far from Bobbi Kristina’s hospice facility. There’s no word as to why Gordon chose now to temporarily relocate, but insiders say the trip has raised suspicions in the Brown and Houston families. We have no way of knowing whether Gordon is somehow hoping to avoid prosecution or has simply fled his home state in search of emotional respite, but in either case, his actions will likely wind up working against him in court. View Slideshow: Bobbi Kristina Brown: Through Good Times and Bad
As you’ve probably heard, the Supreme Court ruled in favor of nationwide gay marriage yesterday in a landmark decision that’s being celebrated in all 50 states. Countless celebrities have spoken out in favor of the SCOTUS decision , and president Obama hailed the ruling as a ” victory for America .” But not all public figures are pleased with yesterday’s developments. Just moments after the decision was announced, members of the famously conservative Duggar family made their feelings known with a Bible quote posted on their official Facebook page: “If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways,” the message reads. “Then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” While the family has not addressed the court’s ruling directly, the timing and content of the above message leaves little doubt that this is the Duggars’ way of admonishing the justices who voted in favor of gay marriage and chastising the nation for its “wicked” ways. Many of the commenters on the Duggars’ post expressed support for the family and its views, while others accused the 19 Kids and Counting clan of hypocrisy for commenting on the sexual preferences so soon after news of the Josh Duggar molestation scandal went public. View Slideshow: Gay Marriage Gets Legalized; Celebrities React!
Kim Kardashian is scheduled to give a lecture on June 30 in Oakland, Calif., about the sexual objectification of women in the entertainment industry. Wait. What? What the f—k??? Yes, this is the same woman who gives us countless Kim Kardashian nude stories. Who shares Kim Kardashian lingerie pics on Instagram. For f–ks sake, her ass broke the internet! The event, with all of its contradictions, will include topics such as “the business of the millennial culture” and how Kim and her family “monetize everything in their lives.” In other words, the event, titled Kim Kardashian West Live! , will teach women how to sell their bodies and their souls to earn money so they can live a passionless, moral-less life that contradicts everything remotely related to women’s empowerment. Most likely, this will be a platform for Kim to promote Selfish , her newly published book of selfies (which has weirdly positive reviews). The best-selling book of selfies is simply a vanity project that validates popular criticism that the Millennial generation is narcissistic. The book’s “never-before-seen personal images” offers readers “some of Kim’s favorite selfies in one volume – from her favorite throwback images to current ultra-sexy glam shots.” View Slideshow: 29 Kim Kardashian Selfies That Nearly Broke the Internet It also promises to provide readers “with a behind-the-scenes look into this larger-than-life star.” There isn’t anything inherently wrong with a book of selfies. But Kim Kardashian has made a career off of objectifying her own body – exploiting it on her own accord. Sure, if Kim wants to exploit her own body, that’s her business (literally, the Kim Kardashian sex tape made millions). And it is her body. But what could she possibly have to say in a lecture about the media’s objectification of the female body? What message could she give to women aspiring to succeed?! Nothing that will promote autonomy, education, empowerment, or choice for women who choose to value their bodies as something more than a marketable good. Tickets for Kim’s lecture range from $40.00 to $300.00. Most likely, she will pocket the ticket money and use it for her next cosmetic surgery … because she values her body enough to surgically alter it to appeal to the male gaze. Good job, world. View Slideshow: 29 Really Dumb Kardashian Quotes
Well, that was fast. After a whirlwind courtship that led to talk of marriage, Britney Spears and Charlie Ebersol unexpectedly have called it quits. Charlie and Britney started dating back in November, and from the start they made it clear that this was no casual fling, and both parties were in it for the long haul. In fact, it was rumored that the couple was introduced by Britney’s dad who had been searching for suitable husband material for his daughter for quite some time. Old-money Charlie (the son of NBC Sports exec Dick Ebersol and actress Susan Saint James) fit the bill according to Mr. Spears, but apparently, he just didn’t pass muster with Britney. TMZ is reporting that Britney and Charlie called it quits amicably , and there’s no bad blood between them. Charlie signed a non-disclosure agreement before he and Britney started dating, so he’s legally obligated to keep his side of the story to himself. As recently as last week, rumors that Britney and Charlie were planning a wedding in Vegas were all over the tabloids. Now we know that either that report was bogus, or someone had a very abrupt change of heart. Whatever the case, Britney is officially back on the market. Here’s hoping her next guy is better than some of her exes: View Slideshow: 19 Boyfriends of Britney Spears
Dear Bossip , I’m in a relationship right now that is completely struggling. I lived with my partner’s mother over a few years now. Recently, my mom got hurt and she had to go through a surgery. I packed all my things and went home. Me and my partner were having a lot of issues, probably more so because of the stress – I lost my job, my mom got hurt, and etc. I packed all my things and moved to live with my mom, however, he wants me to move back with him, but I’m considering staying at home. I love living with my family. All those years we were together I saw my mother less times than I can count on one hand, let alone my brother with whom I was extremely close to. Now that I am close to them all again I feel at home. At his mother’s house his brothers, sisters and even his mother would disrespect me and make me feel like I was worthless. He never demanded respect. I always had to defend myself even from him sometimes. Now that I have moved he cries and begs me to come back. This is the first time I actually left him. I’m debating on whether or not if I should go back. I need to be happy and I want to think he will change. He seems to understand where I’m coming from now, I would help. I can’t help that I really love this man, but I need to chase my happiness. I want the freedom and I want to be with him. If I return how should I set my boundaries? Should I believe him? Should I even consider returning? I’m at a loss right now. – To Return Or Not To Return Dear Ms. To Return Or Not To Return , Change? Really, he’s changed? Well, change is moving forward, out of, away from, or doing something different. Change is not doing the same thing again. Therefore, please explain how he has changed, yet, he is still living at home with his momma, and he wants you to come back to the same situation. How is that change? Change would have been him growing up, getting out of his momma’s house, getting a place for you and him, and being a man instead of a boy. Now, sweetie, that is change. Therefore, nope. You shouldn’t return. There is no need to set boundaries because you should not return. And, no, you should not believe anything he is telling you. Does he miss you? Sure, but, just know that he doesn’t respect you, and neither does his mother, brother and sisters. Oh, and by the way, why are you living with his momma in his momma’s house? You sound like a damn fool. You’re a grown ass woman living in another grown woman’s house with your grown ass man. The hell!?!?! Girl, stop. Look at your life. Look at his life. You’re two grown ass people living in his momma’s house, and none of his family members respects you or your relationship. And, he didn’t stand up for you or even come to your defense when his family was attacking you, yet, you’re considering moving back to the same ole bull-ish! Do you even hear you damn self? Though your mother got sick and needed surgery, and I’m sorry to hear about it and wish her well, but you should consider this a blessing in disguise. It is truly a blessing your mother’s surgery had to get you out of that situation, and back into an environment where people who genuinely love you, support you, and make you feel worthy, and they were at home waiting on you. They say the Lord works in mysterious ways, and when the Lord moves you and makes things happen in your life, especially to relieve you from a bad situation, baby, you should count it as a blessing. Since you’ve moved on from your boyfriend you state that you’re happy. You enjoy being with your family and you have rekindled your relationships with your mother and brother. You even stated that you need to continue to chase your freedom and happiness. So, were you happy living with your man and his momma, and his siblings? Did they make you feel wanted? Did they make you feel needed? Were you loved, nurtured, and supported? Did you have peace and joy? Look, you can hope, and wish all you want that he has changed, and that the situation at his momma’s house has changed, but it hasn’t. Things are still the same, and you will return to the same. Don’t go backward, move forward. Go after your happiness and freedom and leave them in their misery. Leave them in their hatred, and sadness. You don’t need that, and it will be very foolish of you to go back and relive that life once again. If you decide to stay with him, then, I do recommend that you don’t move back to his momma’s house. You and he need your own place, your own residence, and your own privacy. Just you and him. His mom and siblings should not have keys to your place. They cannot just show up and come over when they want. And, when they come into your home they have to show you respect and respect your relationship. Finally, don’t move with him unless he has half of the security deposit, and can afford to pay half the rent. If he can’t, then there is no need to live together or even consider moving in with one another. If you’re paying all the rent, and holding him down, and allowing him to stay with you, then you haven’t learned anything. He is still the same young, immature, little boy who wants a woman to take care of him like his momma. If he can’t handle his responsibilities, or live within these boundaries you set, then it’s time to move on and let him go. Love yourself. Love your life. And, continue to enjoy the happiness, love, and respect you are getting from those who have no problem showering you with the affection you deserve. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean: loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter: @ terrancedean and “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook, click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15); Hiding In Hip Hop (Atria Books – June 2008); and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
Taylor Swift is said to be head over heels in love with new boyfriend Calvin Harris, but his ex, Rita Ora, may have some cautionary words in that regard. In the new issue of Marie Claire, Ora opens up a bit about Harris. The British producer/DJ reportedly cheated on her (although she cheated on Rob Kardashian, so there’s that), if you believe what the tabloids say. She doesn’t discuss that subject, but does hint at strife in her career that he caused when the lines between personal and professional blurred. Allegedly, he held the rights to a song they created together hostage and forced her to cancel an appearance at the Teen Choice Awards last minute. “There was a reason why I split up with him,” she said, “and there’s a reason why I’m at a point in my life where I feel like I have so much musical freedom.” ” I don’t have to explain myself to anybody. It was more of a thing where I was in awe. I was at a point in my relationship where I felt he could do no wrong.” “I thought he had my back and that he’d never steer me wrong.” “But then ‘I Will Never Let You Down’ came out, and everything [got] weird. I don’t know if it was because business was mixed with personal or what.” View Slideshow: Taylor Swift “Bad Blood” Video GIFs Cryptic, yes, but reading between the lines reveals no love lost. As for Calvin’s new conquest, he’s riding Taylor Swift’s swan , if you know what we mean … we mean he’s been seen with her on an inflatable swan. The two are slowly going public with their new romance – via Instagram, obviously – but rumors about as to how serious things are between them. Taylor is rumored to be a virgin saving herself for Calvin Harris , already planning their wedding, working on a prenup, and other crazy stuff. We’re suspicious of reports like these, but her friends are equally suspicious about him and worried he’ll soon be cheating on Taylor Swift . Not only is he a prolific player, but clearly he burned Rita Ora. Taylor may want to pick up the new Marie Claire before she she proposes to Calvin (another recent rumor) … maybe it’ll be good song inspiration? Some of these other guys sure were … View Slideshow: 12 Famous Dudes Who Have Dated Taylor Swift
Yesterday, was Kanye West’s 38th birthday, and dozens gathered to lavish him with expensive crap and tell him how awesome he is. In other words, it was a pretty typical Monday for Yeezy. Kim Kardashian rented out the Staples Center for the occasion; Justin Bieber infuriated the world by proving that he can actually ball; and Kris Jenner came out to show her love and support for her son-in-law. There would be absolutely nothing wrong with that last part, were it not for the fact that Kris skipped her own freakin’ son’s birthday party back in March. Yes, when Rob Kardashian turned 28 , his mom was off partying in Mexico. That’s not a huge deal on its own but Rob is suffering from depression and cripplingly low self-esteem. Kanye is suffering from the exact opposite of depression and low self-esteem and probably didn’t give a diamond-encrusted Yeezy crap that Kris was at his party. Now, Radar Online is reporting that Rob is pissed that his mom gave him the cold shoulder but went all out for the Kanye bash. “The fact that Kris was at Kanye’s birthday party says it all,” says one insider. “She was also super involved in planning the party with Kim. “But for her own son Rob’s birthday, she ditched him to go on vacation with her friends! Rob thinks it is just disgusting and tactless and he was crushed by that.” Many feel the snub was Kris’ way of saying she’s done trying to snap Rob out of his funk. In any event, Rob is rumored to be seriously hurt. Yeah, we can see how that must’ve stung. It doesn’t get much worse than knowing that your mom skipped your birthday to go get bombed in Cabo, but she made time to celebrate your brother-in-law’s big day by watching Bieber do between-the-legs layups . Don’t worry; that’ll almost certainly never happen to you. View Slideshow: 28 Handsome Photos of Rob Kardashian
Dear Bossip , I am 26 years old and I have been in a serious relationship with my now fiancé for almost 3 years. He is 40 years old, and has two kids (11 & 16) from a previous marriage. When we first met he was very upfront about not wanting anymore kids or to even be married again. I was fresh out of a long-term relationship so marriage and kids were the last things on my mind, and I wasn’t even sure at that point if I ever wanted kids. Well, fast forward a few years and we have since moved in together and he has done something he once said he’d never do – he proposed to me! He has proven to be a great man to me; he is faithful, God-fearing, hard-working and smart. The problem is that I have realized in the past few years that having at least one child is very important to me and that I can’t see living life without becoming a mom. Terrance, this has become a VERY touchy subject. He does not talk about it unless I initiate the conversation and he changes his mind like he changes underwear! One day he will say, “Yes,” when I ask him if we could possibly try for a baby. Then, the next day it’s “Hell, no!” This is the ONLY thing we fight about. We have had some really bad arguments where he’s cursed me out and told me to “Leave him the f**k alone!” about it. It has left me feeling hurt, upset, unwanted, and as if my wants/feelings don’t matter. He says that he wants us to “enjoy each other, travel, and spend money,” and he feels that living a financially comfortable life with him should be enough to make me happy. I was recently more upfront with him about my feelings and the fact that I want a child (with or without him). He made me feel stupid by saying, “What? Are you going to leave me and have a baby by the first man you meet?” Obviously this isn’t the case, but it had me second guessing myself, like, is what I want really possible? So, long story short, I can’t see myself marrying him if he is firm on not having any more children. I’m at the point where I am willing to walk away from this relationship so I can find a man who is willing to raise a family with me, but I am also terrified of the idea of leaving him. I know I will resent him in the future if I give up having a baby for him and he will probably resent me if he agrees to have one with me just to make me stay. So, it’s lose-lose. How do I initiate this breakup and do you think I’m crazy for wanting to leave? I’m so torn and it’s starting to take a toll. Any advice is appreciated. – Want To Have Children Dear Ms. Want To Have Children , Well, it appears you have already made up your mind and you want me to co-sign it for you. You stated in your letter “I can’t see myself marrying him if he is firm on not having any more children. I’m at the point where I am willing to walk away from this relationship so I can find a man who is willing to raise a family with me.” And, if he’s told you from the beginning that he doesn’t want to have children, and you keep asking him and he tells you no, and to leave him alone, then I’m sure he’s certain about not having any children. Therefore, you know what you should do, but as you stated you are afraid of leaving him because of the comforts he provides for you. Also, you’re uncertain because though he said he would never get married again, surprise, surprise, he proposed. Now, you’re confused because he proposed to you, so, you figure that if you wait then he will eventually change his mind about having a child. It’s obvious that you two are not on the same page. You want children. He wants to be financially secure to travel and do things. He wants money. He already has children, and is presently dealing with a pre-teen and a teenager. And, I’m sure he is paying child support. Thus, it leads me to believe that he is fearful of two things – 1.) Getting married again and what if it doesn’t work out. He’s been married before, and now he’s in 40s. He can be scared about the prospects that if this doesn’t work, and you have children, and he gets another divorce, then, he will be stuck paying alimony and child support for the rest of his life. So, he will never get the chance to save money, travel, and spend like he wants. Which also, and probably, explains why you two live together. It cuts down on the costs of living separately, and he is paying child support. Your combined incomes help tremendously. Besides, him being in his 40s, he is thinking of his future and retirement, which I’m sure he hasn’t been able to really save as he’d like. Thinking of his future, his children will be old enough where he doesn’t have to pay child support, and he can finally travel and spend like he wants. Having another child will severely affect his retirement, and he may not want to take that gamble. 2.) He has children. As I stated previously, one is a pre-teen, 11, and another is a teenager, 16. They are growing. They have medical expenses, school costs, clothes, activities, and other expenses including child support which are probably eating up his costs/money. So, for him, having another baby is expensive, and he will have to go through those early baby years again. And, he may be freaked out about having another child. Also, he knows that if you want one, there is the possibility you will want another. Now, since you two are not on the same page, it is important that you discuss this together, and get to the real root of what is freaking him out about his definitive resistance on not having any more children. Otherwise, this will always be the underlying issue of your relationship, arguments, and eventually you will leave. But, I am concerned that you stated he makes you feel hurt, upset, unwanted, stupid, and as if your needs and feelings doesn’t matter when it comes to the issue of discussing having a child. If you’ve expressed this to him, and he continues to make you feel like this, then, why do you remain in this relationship? No one should hurt you, make you feel unwanted, and or to feel stupid and as if your needs and feelings do not matter. You’re human. You’re his fiancé. He should make sure you have and get what you want. Why berate you and curse at you because you are interested in having a child, and want to discuss it with him? Now, if he’s tired of discussing it, and, if he feels he’s made himself adamantly clear about it, but you keep bringing it up, then, perhaps it’s time to drop it, and start deciding on what you want to do, if even leaving the relationship. Also, the fact that he doesn’t want to have any more children, and he’s been married previously, yet, you’ve never been married and don’t have any children, but he proposed to you, however, he expects you to be a stepmother to his children. That is a double-edge sword and it’s unfair. He wants you to inherit his baggage, and take all that comes with him, including his children, but he is not willing to accommodate you. Notice that you’re a woman with no children, so, he is not inheriting any children, or extra mouths to feed and clothe, only your extended family. So, is and was that intentional by design? Did he purposely seek you out and date you because of this, and was that the first thing he asked you in the beginning of your relationship? Also, what would have happened if you did have children? Would he still be with you, or have asked you to marry him? Who knows! But, what if he meets another woman who has children, then, is he willing to take on her children? I strongly recommend pre-marital counseling. It will help you resolve this issue. I’m sure a counselor will tell you that you two are not on the same page, and if he continues and persists about not having any more children, and, he discloses his real reasons for not wanting any more, then, you have to do what is best for you. Money cannot buy happiness. Money cannot replace the feeling of motherhood. Money cannot compensate for having a child. If that is his goal, and it’s not a goal of yours, and a child is what you desire, and it is not what he wants, a marriage will not fix it, but only make it worse. You will be miserable, and unhappy, and eventually you will resent him, and ultimately end up in divorce. Think this through thoroughly. I know it’s scary to leave and start over, but it will not be the end of the world. You will meet a man who is single, never been married, nor has any children and he will want a family with you. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean: loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter: @ terrancedean and “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook, click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15); Hiding In Hip Hop (Atria Books – June 2008); and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
Currently, Leah Messer is in rehab undergoing treatment for a number of issues. Members of Leah’s family have insisted that the troubled Teen Mom star is not on drugs, and is instead suffering from severe emotional distress. Her mother has stated that Leah is in rehab for stress and depression , but others in her inner circle know otherwise, and Leah’s drug abuse was exposed in a recent preview for the new season of Teen Mom 2. Unfortunately, the timing couldn’t be worse for Leah, whose two baby daddies might begin an aggressive campaign to strip her of all her parental rights before she even leaves treatment. According to Radar Online, Jeremy Calvert has already hired a lawyer in hopes of winning sole custody of his daughter, and Corey Simms might follow suit. Jeremy’s plan was to swoop in once Leah went to rehab and get an emergency hearing,” says one insider. “Corey was considering it, too.” One insider says Calvert and Simms have been convinced by Leah’s family to put the custody battle on hold until after she’s completed rehab. Other sources say Calvert is going full-steam ahead. Either way, Leah might be heading back to a rather stressful environment after her treatment is through. View Slideshow: Leah Messer Photos: Through the Years
