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Many men are reluctant to report abuse by their partners Source: AP • Women hit men psychologically • Victims reluctant to report abuse • Men fear stigma of “being a wimp” WOMEN beating up their men – physically, emotionally or financially – has become a hidden epidemic because men are too scared of being labelled wimps if they cry for help. A new study has found for male victims of “intimate partner abuse”, the cumulative effect of repeat “knees in the nuts” or being heaped with scorn is a damaging erosion of self-worth. But a typical response to men who do complain is, “C'mon, you're a bloke – get over it”. Similar to the pattern of abuse of women by men, it often starts with verbal, financial and psychological abuse, but over time escalates to physical and sometimes even sexual abuse. The issue is even more under-reported for men than women, because men fear either being seen as wimps or not being believed, the study says. Support services for abuse victims are skewed towards females, it adds. Alfred Allan, Professor at Edith Cowan University and co-author of Intimate Partner Abuse of Men, said: “Physical abuse isn't as big a problem for males as females, and when a male assaults a female, it's generally more severe, but there are male victims out there who are falling through the cracks.” The study is based on interviews with male victims and service providers working in the field of domestic abuse. “She would actually hit him with the pan . . . throw reasonably large objects at him . . . punch him to the point of bruising,” one service provider recalled of a client's interview. “I've lost count of how many times she's kneed me in the nuts,” a male victim said. The report notes the growth in abuse of men by their partner. Psychologist and author in men's mental health Elizabeth Celi describes the abuse of men by their spouse as a “silent phenomenon”. She says women perpetrators tend to combine verbal and emotional abuse of their partner with any physical violence. “Given women's verbal and emotional literacy, a viper tongue can really maim a man's sense of self-worth,” Dr Celi said. “Men also face the social stigma of being a victim. Not only is he questioning his own masculinity and identity, unfortunately he is more often than not disbelieved or disregarded.” http://www.news.com.au/national/hidden-epidemic-of-women-beating-up-men/story-e6… added by: MotherForTruth