Source: Prince Williams / Getty 50 Cent has taken his trolling to elite levels, ask Teairra Mari . On this Wednesday, April 24, Young Buck has threatened to “Ja Rule” the Queens rapper after he caught wind of a social media post that mocked his new forthcoming album. Buck is dropping a new project, and Fif decided to bring attention to the release by also mentioning that Buck allegedly had relations with a trans person. “Young buck is almost ready to drop his album. He worked hard on this project, I told him his personal choice to date a tran sexual will confuse some of his core audience but with the support of the LGBT he should be fine. New heat coming soon,” wrote Fif on Instagram. You may recall that 50 Cent previously brought up the claim about Buck’s relations in an audio post that he since deleted . Not that there’s anything wrong with that. While the promo certainly can’t hurt, Buck retorted by using Ja Rule’s name as a verb—while also admitting he was still under contract with Fif. “I thought you was 50 Cent, I thought you had some real n***a tendencies…” said Buck on Instagram Live. “If you such a real n*gga, why don’t you let me go? You understand what I’m saying? And we’ll fight the battle like that… Line me up like Ja Rule. Go bar-for-bar with me, n***a. Play that game, you scared?” After saying he had no time for Fif’s “gay games” and noting the G-Unit rapper/actor was allegedly hindering his career thanks to cease and desists, he eventually added, “We gon see who Ja Rule who bitch.” Looks like they both had time because…petty rappers are going to petty. View this post on Instagram #PressPlay: #YoungBuck hopped on IG Live with some words for #50Cent (See previous tea) A post shared by The Shade Room (@theshaderoom) on Apr 24, 2019 at 1:17pm PDT — Photo:
Spring cleaning isn’t just meant for tidying up our closets and scrubbing our shower floors. Just like we get rid of the toxins in our home, there are some toxic people we could really do without bringing into the next season of our lives. Unfortunately, we don’t always recognize who those people are and why. In light of the Marie Kondo moment the organizing expert sparked with her Netflix series, we’re exploring whether you need to reorganize your personal life and throw out a few relationships that no longer serve a purpose. Get into the conversation and, perhaps, learn a few hard truths yourself with this episode of Listen to Black Women. About Listen To Black Women Listen To Black Women is a show from HelloBeautiful and MadameNoire that discusses the issues that affect us most while incorporating the voices of our audience and experts. Each week, the show will gather insights from of our readers by asking them a series of questions related to the show topic. We’ll also be sharing thoughts from social media and the Internet at large as hosts Shamika Sanders, Africa Miranda, Keyaira Kelly weigh in with their opinions. This show doesn’t work without you so be sure to take our weekly polls, share the videos with your network, and leave feedback everywhere you can. We’re listening to you. RELATED STORIES: Listen To Black Women | Stealthing Is Sexual Assault. Period. Listen To Black Women | How Much Do You Need To Tell Your Man Before You Get Married?
Spring cleaning isn’t just meant for tidying up our closets and scrubbing our shower floors. Just like we get rid of the toxins in our home, there are some toxic people we could really do without bringing into the next season of our lives. Unfortunately, we don’t always recognize who those people are and why. In light of the Marie Kondo moment the organizing expert sparked with her Netflix series, we’re exploring whether you need to reorganize your personal life and throw out a few relationships that no longer serve a purpose. Get into the conversation and, perhaps, learn a few hard truths yourself with this episode of Listen to Black Women. About Listen To Black Women Listen To Black Women is a show from HelloBeautiful and MadameNoire that discusses the issues that affect us most while incorporating the voices of our audience and experts. Each week, the show will gather insights from of our readers by asking them a series of questions related to the show topic. We’ll also be sharing thoughts from social media and the Internet at large as hosts Shamika Sanders, Africa Miranda, Keyaira Kelly weigh in with their opinions. This show doesn’t work without you so be sure to take our weekly polls, share the videos with your network, and leave feedback everywhere you can. We’re listening to you. RELATED STORIES: Listen To Black Women | Stealthing Is Sexual Assault. Period. Listen To Black Women | How Much Do You Need To Tell Your Man Before You Get Married?
Source: DjelicS / Getty Growing up, we’re made to believe that perfectionism is something positive. We’re unconsciously taught that being first, never making a mistake, appearing flawless and constantly winning in every facet of life is what’ll get us the best job, the highest salary, a successful friend group, thousands of likes and followers on Instagram, the envy of our peers and the most perfect life ever. Sure, our teachers, parents and coaches probably told us “winning isn’t everything” to make us feel better after some devastating defeat we experienced in adolescence, but since then, literally everything in society seems to contradict their words, assuring us that there’s no way that statement can actually be true. Whether it’s in sports, politics or the work place; whoever the perfect team, candidate or employee is will be rewarded while the rest are left to sulk in their self-identified imperfections. It’s no surprise that seeing this happen repeatedly would lead us to believe that winning is everything, and being perfect is the only thing that opens the door to the success we so desperately seek. So, what exactly is perfectionism? Psychologists define this mindset as “an irrational desire to achieve along with being overly critical of oneself and others” and in our socially connected society, perfectionism has become more than just a mindset, it’s now a way of life. We’ve somehow allowed ourselves to believe that we are defined by what we are, or rather how “perfect” we are when in actuality, that dangerous thought process is holding us back more than it is propelling us forward. The problem with a mindset fixated on perfectionism is that… it simply doesn’t exist. Instead, perfectionism is the ultimate self-sabotage. It’s based on moving through life attempting to avoid mistakes, even when those mistakes are necessary to help us grow, learn, develop confidence and actually achieve the level of success we desire. If you struggle with perfectionism, you’re not alone. A 2017 study found that there has been a 33% rise in socially prescribed perfectionism since 1989, with this generation in particular struggling to keep up with a culture that makes us feel depressed if we’re not on track to becoming the next Kylie Jenner. However, with this rise of perfectionism comes a rise in productive ways to combat this mindset as the conversation around mental health has shifted from one that’s taboo to one that’s open, accepting and understanding. Yes, having ambition and determination to succeed is healthy. But the idea of perfectionism, the fear of making mistakes and listening to the inner voice that leads you to believe that you’re nothing unless you’re winning is what can lead to depression, anxiety and other mental health problems that take us down a path of constant self-criticism, fear and worry that we’re not measuring up to whatever society’s idea of perfect is. Psychologists suggest reversing this unhealthy idea of perfectionism with mental health exercises that’ll help you develop a more realistic view of yourself and your successes. Understand that being perfect isn’t what leads to social acceptance, but rather being your true, authentic and relatable self does. Mistakes are inevitable. They will happen. And the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept them, learn from them and move on to become the person you’re meant to be. To be clear, letting go of the idea of perfectionism doesn’t mean that you give up on your desire to do well. Instead, this means giving up on the inner voice that tells you that you cannot make a mistake, and if you do, you’ll lose everything. Learning to let go of the idea of perfectionism and replacing it with the mantra of “your best is good enough” might sound intimidating at first, but doing so will free your mind from bondage. Rather than letting social expectations tell you what perfection is, strive for a life defined by learning experiences, deep personal connections, and self-assurance that you are enough. RELATED STORIES: Listen To Black Women | Should You Marie Kondo Your Personal Life? 8 Spring Cleaning Tips to Get Your Home Ready For Warmer Weather
Source: DjelicS / Getty Growing up, we’re made to believe that perfectionism is something positive. We’re unconsciously taught that being first, never making a mistake, appearing flawless and constantly winning in every facet of life is what’ll get us the best job, the highest salary, a successful friend group, thousands of likes and followers on Instagram, the envy of our peers and the most perfect life ever. Sure, our teachers, parents and coaches probably told us “winning isn’t everything” to make us feel better after some devastating defeat we experienced in adolescence, but since then, literally everything in society seems to contradict their words, assuring us that there’s no way that statement can actually be true. Whether it’s in sports, politics or the work place; whoever the perfect team, candidate or employee is will be rewarded while the rest are left to sulk in their self-identified imperfections. It’s no surprise that seeing this happen repeatedly would lead us to believe that winning is everything, and being perfect is the only thing that opens the door to the success we so desperately seek. So, what exactly is perfectionism? Psychologists define this mindset as “an irrational desire to achieve along with being overly critical of oneself and others” and in our socially connected society, perfectionism has become more than just a mindset, it’s now a way of life. We’ve somehow allowed ourselves to believe that we are defined by what we are, or rather how “perfect” we are when in actuality, that dangerous thought process is holding us back more than it is propelling us forward. The problem with a mindset fixated on perfectionism is that… it simply doesn’t exist. Instead, perfectionism is the ultimate self-sabotage. It’s based on moving through life attempting to avoid mistakes, even when those mistakes are necessary to help us grow, learn, develop confidence and actually achieve the level of success we desire. If you struggle with perfectionism, you’re not alone. A 2017 study found that there has been a 33% rise in socially prescribed perfectionism since 1989, with this generation in particular struggling to keep up with a culture that makes us feel depressed if we’re not on track to becoming the next Kylie Jenner. However, with this rise of perfectionism comes a rise in productive ways to combat this mindset as the conversation around mental health has shifted from one that’s taboo to one that’s open, accepting and understanding. Yes, having ambition and determination to succeed is healthy. But the idea of perfectionism, the fear of making mistakes and listening to the inner voice that leads you to believe that you’re nothing unless you’re winning is what can lead to depression, anxiety and other mental health problems that take us down a path of constant self-criticism, fear and worry that we’re not measuring up to whatever society’s idea of perfect is. Psychologists suggest reversing this unhealthy idea of perfectionism with mental health exercises that’ll help you develop a more realistic view of yourself and your successes. Understand that being perfect isn’t what leads to social acceptance, but rather being your true, authentic and relatable self does. Mistakes are inevitable. They will happen. And the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept them, learn from them and move on to become the person you’re meant to be. To be clear, letting go of the idea of perfectionism doesn’t mean that you give up on your desire to do well. Instead, this means giving up on the inner voice that tells you that you cannot make a mistake, and if you do, you’ll lose everything. Learning to let go of the idea of perfectionism and replacing it with the mantra of “your best is good enough” might sound intimidating at first, but doing so will free your mind from bondage. Rather than letting social expectations tell you what perfection is, strive for a life defined by learning experiences, deep personal connections, and self-assurance that you are enough. RELATED STORIES: Listen To Black Women | Should You Marie Kondo Your Personal Life? 8 Spring Cleaning Tips to Get Your Home Ready For Warmer Weather
Anna Duggar might not be the first person to spring to mind when you think of fashionable reality stars. And while it's true that she may never achieve Kardashian-levels of trendiness, Anna's look has come a long way over the years. Gone are the floor-length skirts and deep-fried Michelle hair of yesteryear. These days, Anna is sporting — skirts that stop just above the ankle, and …well, at least she's not putting her hair through such torment anymore! Join us as we take a look at how Anna's appearance has evolved over the years: 1. Happier Times This pic was taken before the world learned of Josh Duggar’s various sex scandals. We’re sure in most ways, it was a happier time for Anna — but she had yet to figure out her personal sense of style, which is a tragedy in its own right. 2. The Supercuts Savior The Duggar women pride themselves on emulating Jesus in every way, which apparently includes very rarely getting haircuts. 3. Anti-Choice Chic We call this look “your body, my choice.” Hold onto your coathangers. If Anna has her way, you’re gonna need ’em! 4. Hardcore Evangelical Hair In the early years of her marriage, Anna favored an even more traditional look than the OG fundie breeding queen, Michelle Duggar. 5. Modern Amish Slowly but surely, Anna’s look began to evolve. In this pic, she’s basically gone from Civil War widow to 1890s factory seamstress. 6. The DC Years It seems like ancient history these days, but it was just a few years ago that Josh and Anna left Arkansas so that he could pursue a career as a lobbyist in Washington, D.C. View Slideshow
Source: Prince Williams / Getty Tonight’s episode of Love and Hip-Hop Atlanta might be one of the silliest ever. EVER . Colorism was the main topic of discussion, but it’s a topic that just can’t be tackled in a one-hour vapid ratchet show, and that is why it was silly. You can’t squeeze a discussion as deep as colorism, which people are still in denial about, in a short amount of time on a TV show. Hold that thought because the other annoying topic is Tokyo Vanity’’s weight. Her ridiculous meet up with Sierra got her thinking about exploring her options with a personal trainer. She still gets defensive though, slightly less defensive, but she still pushes back when the personal trainer explains that just because she doesn’t have any issues now doesn’t mean they won’t sneak up on her by the time she’s middle age. Then they go over her awful eating habits and she seems frustrated by all the crappy things she can’t eat. This all seems forced. Tokyo Vanity will lose weight when and if she wants to. Now let’s get back to the colorism situation. As we all know, Spice pulled this stunt where she fake lightened her skin to go along with her song “Black Hypocrisy.” Mimi and Rasheeda had a hissy fit because they couldn’t believe that Spice would want to lighten her skin. Spice got irritated with them because they’re light-skinned and didn’t seem to understand how badly dark skinned women are treated (and yes, we know that light-skinned people experience colorism too). Later on, Spice reveals her plan to Joc and he encourages her to move forward. Then Joc links with Kirk and Scrappy for a ki ki and this turns into a terrible attempt to address colorism. Basically, Joc mentions what Spice is trying to do. Then Kirk says that as a dark-skinned man he can attest to people of lighter complexions being treated better and that colorism is very real. Then Joc asks if they would “smash” Spice. Scrappy and Kirk don’t answer the question, which could just be editing. Joc says he’d smash Spice whether she was light or dark. But like, Joc isn’t very picky so, oookay. That was not a shot at Spice because she’s gorgeous. But like, come on, we know how Joc loves the ladies—any ladies. Then we take a quick detour into Kirk’s new fake storyline. Basically, Kirk and Rahseeda are so concerned about Jasmine not being a “proper” mother to Kannon that Kirk pays her grandmother and mother a visit. He complains to them that Kannon spends too much time with them and that Jasmine parties all the time. Jasmine’s mom and grandmother tell her that Kirk planned to visit so she joins the discussion and shuts him down. Basically, she said Kirk is fake and doing this for TV and doesn’t spend enough time around her or Kannon to know what she does. Also, she feels like Rahseeda is the one who put the bug in his ear to even do this. She is correct. This is fake but Kirk and Rasheeda claim they want Kirk to work on being around Kannon more. Next, Mimi takes Spice on a Black History tour with the goal of showing her that “black people fought to be proud of the skin they’re in.” They end up in a Madame CJ Walker museum where they learn about Madame CJ Walker’s innovations, but they also looked at tools and products that were invented to help Black people get straighter hair. You know, to assimilate. Also, let’s not act like some of the very Black leaders who are revered in history weren’t colorist themselves. Look at the wives of a lot of the prominent figures in the Civil Rights Movement and even the Black Panther party. It ain’t no coincidence that many of them were light-skinned. *Coughs* Colorism. But going back to the museum. Spice calls out the hypocrisy in even the tour guide trying to skate over the assimilation issue and mentions that hair texture hate is also a component of self-hate as well, which fits into her Black hypocrisy theme. Mimi and the tour guide basically keep trying to convince Spice that these people were really just trying to control how they were perceived and nothing deeper, which pisses Spice off even more, rightfully so, especially because her home country is a hotbed for skin bleaching. This session ends after Spice and Mimi get into a heated argument again. Dense Mimi just won’t let Spice live in the truth. However, in fairness, though, Mimi (and everyone else) thinks that Spice is going to bleach her skin for real, for real. So that’s part of where the concern is coming from, but it’s not helpful to try to act like Spice is being ridiculous about colorism when what she’s saying is true. And then, the episode winds down with everyone getting the social media notifications about Spice launching her stunt. We all remember that photo that she posted on her IG that had everyone shook. Basically, Spice’s message is anti-colorism and pro-Black people loving the complexions they were born with. You gotta listen to the words in her song. View this post on Instagram Only if they would take the time out to actually “listen” to the words #Blackhypocrisy A post shared by Grace Hamilton (@spiceofficial) on Apr 10, 2019 at 11:14am PDT Anyway, Love and Hip-Hop Atlanta returns next week, and seemingly back to the ratchet rivers and lakes that they’re used to. RELATED POSTS ‘LHHATLS8’ Recap: Spice Paints Herself White To Promote Colorism Awareness ‘LHHATLS8’ Recap: Tiarra Gets The Cold Shoulder From Scrapp
Source: Santiago Felipe / Getty Wendy Williams seemingly addressed her divorce on her show today. “Everybody has things in their life that they’re embarrassed to share,” the embattled host shared on Monday while discussing her stint in a sobriety house. Wendy even joked about being “on the loose” while discussing a Cardi B picture that showed the rapper’s handsome security guard behind her. Wendy revealed that she is nearing the end of her stint at a sobriety house. “I’m moving out of the sober house in just a few days, you know,” she said. “It’ll be Wendy on her own.” As for her personal life becoming public, the media veteran said it’s all “fair game.” “It’s crazy ’cause now my business is your business,” she said. “It’s kind of funny. Turnabouts a fair game, I get it.” Wendy says her battle with sobriety is the best thing to happen to her because it forced her to self-reflect. “I have to tell you, you know, I’ve been dealing with issues with addiction, alcoholism, and I have a whole new life that I planned for myself and my son,” she said. “Believe me you, when you lay in a room with no TV and four gray walls all day … this is my life in the sober house, it’s one of the best things, honestly, that could have ever happened to me.” She added, “It’s one of the best things, honestly, that could’ve ever happened to me because, when you think about your life, you think about how you’ve been delivering to the world,” she said. “Everybody has things in their life that they’re embarrassed to share with the world, or they’re frightened to share with the world, or they’re not ready to share with the world and addressing my sobriety, my addiction, head on has really helped me sort out every single compartment of my life.” Watch the clip below: View this post on Instagram “Everybody has things in their life that they’re embarrassed to share with the world, or they’re frightened to share with the world, or they’re not ready to share with the world and addressing my sobriety, my addiction, head on has really helped me sort out every single compartment of my life.” A post shared by Wendy Williams (@wendyshow) on Apr 15, 2019 at 11:07am PDT RELATED STORIES: Praise! Wendy Williams Finally Files For Divorce From Her Trifflin’ Husband Mo’Nique On Wendy Williams’ Drama: ‘You Know Everybody’s Business But Your Own’
Source: Santiago Felipe / Getty Wendy Williams seemingly addressed her divorce on her show today. “Everybody has things in their life that they’re embarrassed to share,” the embattled host shared on Monday while discussing her stint in a sobriety house. Wendy even joked about being “on the loose” while discussing a Cardi B picture that showed the rapper’s handsome security guard behind her. Wendy revealed that she is nearing the end of her stint at a sobriety house. “I’m moving out of the sober house in just a few days, you know,” she said. “It’ll be Wendy on her own.” As for her personal life becoming public, the media veteran said it’s all “fair game.” “It’s crazy ’cause now my business is your business,” she said. “It’s kind of funny. Turnabouts a fair game, I get it.” Wendy says her battle with sobriety is the best thing to happen to her because it forced her to self-reflect. “I have to tell you, you know, I’ve been dealing with issues with addiction, alcoholism, and I have a whole new life that I planned for myself and my son,” she said. “Believe me you, when you lay in a room with no TV and four gray walls all day … this is my life in the sober house, it’s one of the best things, honestly, that could have ever happened to me.” She added, “It’s one of the best things, honestly, that could’ve ever happened to me because, when you think about your life, you think about how you’ve been delivering to the world,” she said. “Everybody has things in their life that they’re embarrassed to share with the world, or they’re frightened to share with the world, or they’re not ready to share with the world and addressing my sobriety, my addiction, head on has really helped me sort out every single compartment of my life.” Watch the clip below: View this post on Instagram “Everybody has things in their life that they’re embarrassed to share with the world, or they’re frightened to share with the world, or they’re not ready to share with the world and addressing my sobriety, my addiction, head on has really helped me sort out every single compartment of my life.” A post shared by Wendy Williams (@wendyshow) on Apr 15, 2019 at 11:07am PDT RELATED STORIES: Praise! Wendy Williams Finally Files For Divorce From Her Trifflin’ Husband Mo’Nique On Wendy Williams’ Drama: ‘You Know Everybody’s Business But Your Own’
Source: Albert L. Ortega / Getty After literally waiting years for the final season of Game of Thrones , the hit HBO series’ cult following showed up and showed out by the millions last night — 17.4 million to be exact. What’s more…the premiere episode of season 8 didn’t disappoint. Where do we begin? Daenerys and Jon Snow are all coupled up and unaware that they’re blood relatives… that is until they make their way back to the North, where Jon reunites with his sisters Sansa and Arya, brother Bran, and best friend Sam Tarly. While there, Jon is criticized for bending the knee to Daenerys and Hand to the Queen, Tyrion, is warned the people of the North won’t accept her as queen unless she earns it. ALSO: 8 Shocking Truths We Learned From Emilia Clarke’s Personal Essay Sansa doesn’t seem to like her new queen much and questions the North’s ability to feed two fully grown dragons, as they’ve already had to ration out food. In an unexpected, but welcomed, rivalry of bad b*tch egos Sansa sarcastically asks “What do dragons eat anyway?” to which Daenerys responds “Whatever they want.” this shot is gold #gameofthrones pic.twitter.com/qG5KjUJEGC —
