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Dear Bossip , I met him last summer. In a matter of weeks I fell in deep love. He was my first everything. Before him I wasn’t interested in dating or relationships, but I knew I wanted love. Three months in and we’re still good, nice vibes, loving conversations, and walks. I couldn’t believe how much I was into this guy. We made promises to each other to stay faithful and honest. This was no problem for me because I loved him and I would do anything to make it work. Then one day he asked me to send an email from his account to a local council about his parking ticket. No problem of course he’s my baby. I decided to be a bit noisy and look at his inbox and I see a dozen emails from a woman called, “Tosin.” Browsing through his email it didn’t look too bad until I looked at further emails. It seems like my boyfriend had a girlfriend. Long story short he said it was his ex and they broke up very recently. I was very upset and anxious, but after weeks I brushed it off. Up until December he was still contacting her, and texting her. I was very frustrated and he could tell because my moods weren’t very friendly. Well, then it happened. I emailed her. I took the address from the emails they were sending to each other previously and asked her what was going on. She had no idea that I was a part of his life. She told me that they broke up only in November/December. I was heartbroken. I felt so hurt and used. I broke up with him, but we remained civil along the line. We kept getting together and it was always natural. I couldn’t be upset with him for too long or with anyone. I’m just an easy going person and just so forgiving. But, his ex wasn’t the only problem. He would message girls now and again about meeting up and would continuously get numbers. I would find out, then tell him I’m leaving him, and then he would promise to not do it again saying that they’re bad habits and he’s learning to be a better person. I gave him time to change continuously, but he continues to do the same thing and says he gets carried away and change is happening but it takes time, I love him so much and it’s hard because he’s such a good person, but these habits does weigh down the relationship. He does everything for me and he’s there whenever I need him. If he didn’t have these bad habits he would be the perfect boyfriend for me. But, I’m scared. I don’t want to be hurt again. I feel like my happiness is so attached to him that if we are on bad terms it ruins my day completely. And, I hate that, but I don’t want to feel like I’m missing out on genuine love because I didn’t accept him and didn’t give him time to be a better man. He always talks about how I’m a good girl and how I’m so much calmer and better than his exes. And, he shares his love for me, talks marriage and even kids, but then I get so confused when he messages other girls with flirty texts. And, on top of that the trust I once had for him has really been destroyed. I doubt I can ever rebuild that because I’ve just lost all faith because of the amount of times he’s let me down. I’m more guarded than I was in the beginning. My mother thinks he’s a nice guy, but she doesn’t trust him. She thinks he has other girls. I value her opinion because her doubts about someone or something always seem to be right. She even said that she thinks he had a girlfriend previously which turned out to be true. I don’t know what to do. I’m so confused because he’s a nice guy and I love him. I just don’t want to feel like an idiot. I don’t understand why he messages other women, but gets upset when I want to leave him for it. I don’t want to feel deeply attached if I know he’ll just continue with his bad habits because I don’t want to hurt again. But, I love him. He’s a nice and caring guy. I just don’t feel 100% about the relationship like I did before. Help please. – His Bad Habits Dear Ms. His Bad Habits , Okay, everyone gather your friends and co-workers around your computer, and in your most ratchet turned up hood rat voice I want you to say it with me, “I know he cheat on me, but I love him.” Bwahahahahahaha! You see ladies, this is exactly what happens to you when you lose yourself, and allow a man to consume you. You know longer have an identity. Your language becomes his language. Or, well, you start using his lies as truth because he lies so good to you that you eventually start to believe them. Prime example, he told you that his lying, cheating, and asking women for their numbers to hook up for dates are a “bad habit.” Bwahahahahaha! I can’t! I truly can’t believe he said to you that it’s a “bad habit,” and you believed him. He got a mofo “bad habit” of texting and emailing women to hook up even though he is in a relationship. Bwahahahahaha! I know a lot of men with that “bad habit.” But, you believed him because throughout your letter you have used his language and have said his “bad habit” is basically destroying your relationship, and he needs some time to change (his language) from these so-called “bad habits.” I’m curious why when I read this letter, and observe his behavior that it doesn’t sound like a “bad habit,” it’s more of, hmmm, uhm, oh, I don’t know, HE’S A HOE! He’s a liar. He’s deceptive. He’s a manipulator. He’s a cheater. And, you keep falling for this bull-ish because you have bought into these lies as “bad habits.” A bad habit is leaving the toilet seat up. A bad habit is leaving the television and lights on when you’re not home. A bad habit is biting your nails. A bad habit is throwing your clothes on the floor instead of the laundry basket. How is it a bad habit if he purposely goes online and purposely sends emails to women asking them meet him for a hook up? How is it a bad habit if he purposely hooks up with these women while he’s in a relationship? How is it a bad habit if he purposely goes to meet them, purposely takes off his clothes, and purposely has sex with these women? Bad habit my a**. But, I’ll wait while you ponder this. (Files nails slowly, purses lips, and gives you the side eye). Then, you sit up here and justify his behavior by co-signing his bull-ish as “bad habits,” and that he would be the perfect boyfriend if it weren’t for these “bad habits.” Are you freaking serious? Ma’am, he is trifling. He is full of –ish, and hell naw he ain’t a good boyfriend, or a nice guy. He’s an a**hole. Talkin’ ‘bout he got a “bad habit.” Take your right leg and reach back as far as you can, and kick him in his nuts and tell him you got a bad habit of kicking men in their balls when they lie and cheat. Better yet, take your right hand and reach all the way up to the heavens and swing as hard as you can and smack the dog –ish out of him. Let him know you got a bad habit of smacking the –ish out of men who lie and use bull-ish lies like the ones he’s been feeding you. And, I want you to notice that you said that you would do anything to make it work. Sweetie, that is exactly what YOU’RE doing. You’re doing anything to make it work. You’re trying to make a failed relationship work, and it’s impossible when you’re doing all the damn work. How come he is not doing all that he can to make it work? What about the lie he told you about being committed, faithful, honest, and blah, blah, blah. I guess he got a bad habit of telling folks what they want to hear when he knows he’s lying. I want you to remember at the top of your letter when you said that you and he made promises to one another to be honest and faithful. Well, he isn’t. He isn’t honest. He isn’t faithful. He is not even remotely interested in making the relationship work. He is not committed to the relationship. HELLO! When people show you who they are believe them. Damn! I’ve said this time and time again. Believe it and them. He’s showing you that he’s not interested in being monogamous. He doesn’t want to be faithful. Walk away! He has a bad habit. So, leave him and his bad habits. LOL! And, please don’t forget that he was dating you and his ex at the same time. That is some low down dirty dog –ish righ there. And, all along he was lying to you and her, and leading you on into believing that he was being faithful to you. Let’s remember that he had a girlfriend the entire time, and that he’d only just recently broke up with her. I bet that was a bad habit of not telling you the truth, huh? But, hold on, if you had not emailed her then your boyfriend would not have told you the truth. (Look in the mirror and see if you have “boo boo the fool” on your forehead). Well, you did say that you are an easy going person, and you keep going back to him. I guess you have a bad habit of doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I think that’s what they call crazy. Look here, if you don’t respect yourself, and you’re too easy going to be mad at the man who lied to you, deceived you, used you, disrespected you and doesn’t value you, then how can I convince you to leave if you’re too easy going? But, the nail on the head is like what I said earlier that you have lost yourself in this relationship, and have allowed him to consume you. You have no identity. You said in your letter that your happiness is attached to him. Never ever attach your happiness, joy, and being to a man. He cannot make you happy. He can add to your happiness, but it’s not his job to make you happy. And, he cannot bring you joy. He can add to your joy, but it’s not his responsibility to bring you joy. Therefore, when you make another person responsible for your happiness, joy, and other feelings then just know that they will always let you down because no one can fulfill those things. Only you, and only you are responsible for your joy, happiness, and other feelings. You don’t trust him. Leave! He’s not going to change. You women and these hopeful, one day, some day he will be a better man and I want to be there for him to see him through. Uhm, ma’am he is not committed to you. He is committed to his “bad habits.” So, sweetie, while you’re sitting over there confused and stuck on stupid, I want you to pull out your calendar and show me “one day,” and “some day” on the calendar. When you can point them out, then he will one day, some day be the perfect man for you. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15); Hiding In Hip Hop (Atria Books – June 2008); and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
A 96-year-old man from Peoria, Illinois, who entered a song-writing contest with an ode to his late wife of 73 years has made the Top 10 on iTunes. Fred Stobaugh says the lyrics – written and submitted by hand – for “Oh Sweet Lorraine” just came to him one night about six weeks after his wife passed. He submitted them for a local radio station’s song-writing contest. Fred didn’t win, but producers were so moved that they decided to record it for him. They did, and the story went viral as the Internet collectively melted. 96-Year-Old Man Writes Love Song For Late Wife “Oh Sweet Lorraine” made it all the way to #7 on iTunes last Friday, and is still going strong at #39 as of this morning. It’s been downloaded more than 6,000 times. See the above video for more on Fred Stobaugh’s song and story.
As if returning home and being reunited weren’t exciting enough! This video of a U.S. Marine’s wife announcing that she’s pregnant after he came home from an at-sea period is one of the sweetest things you’ll see. As pregnancy reveals go, it’s as touching as they come. She decided to break the news by getting him a present – a onesie that says “Daddy’s Hero” on it – and his reaction is as wonderful as the gift idea. Watch below and smile right along with him: Marine’s Wife Reveals She’s Pregnant
Dear Bossip , Where do I start, I finally got the man I love to commit to a relationship. He gave me the code to the alarm and the keys to the door, so I have the ability to come and go as I please. Let me add, the man is 53-years old, retired military, and confesses to sleeping with well over 1,000 women (scary). But, the problem is the man is committed to social networks, seems he can’t get enough of contacting women on these sites. Before we started dating he had a friend whom he befriended on the web and they made arrangements for her to come to town. I understand that arrangements have been made, tickets have been bought, is it unreasonable for me to think this needs to be cancelled? According to her profile she is blatantly looking for love, she wants a man. Do you think it’s ok for this rendezvous to take place? Now when I question him, he says I am welcome to come along, I know that’s another ploy to throw me off. Deep down, I don’t trust the man. Some way to start a relationship. In addition, I also have the pin number to his debit card. (I know, you’re saying, wow) This man has so many web friends I don’t know what to do or think. He said that if I want him to cancel his account he would, but I don’t want him to cancel his account to make me happy. I want him to cancel or refrain from going to those sites because he has met the woman for him. This is where you come in. Do you think I can make a lasting relationship out of this? Now the other day I left his home to go ride my bike, and when I returned he had something propped against the bedroom door where the computer is located so I couldn’t just come right in. Does he have something to hide? So, he gives me the code and the keys to throw me off the scent. I’m not confused I just need reassurance. Please help; don’t worry, I’ve toughened my skin, so I won’t bleed. – Not Confused Just Need Reassurance Dear Ms. Not Confused Just Need Reassurance , I can’t. I won’t. I refuse. I sent a short yellow bus to your home. Please put on your pink helmet and get your small roller backpack. I’m taking you on a little trip. It’s so sad that you douse yourself in that desperation perfume to cover up your low self-esteem, and low self-worth. SMDH! Now, you clearly are not that bright, and definitely desperate for a man. You’re so desperate that you will jeopardize your health, life, and own sanity to have some man lay on top of you and do his business despite him confessing he has slept with over 1,000 women. You’re so desperate that you will knowingly commit to a man whom you know is addicted to dating/social networking sites and meeting women. You also have the damn nerve to ask me if I think it’s okay for him to have a rendezvous with a woman he met on the internet, and she is coming to town to visit him, but her ulterior motive is love and finding a man. You are a damn fool! Please reach around and smack your own damn self in the face. First off, a man who confesses to sleeping with over 1,000 women is not scary. That is dangerous! Who wants to be with someone with that many bodies, and lawd knows how many infectious diseases he’s probably encountered. By the way, have you two gone to the health clinic and gotten complete physical and STD exams? (* * ) (Giving you the side eye) But, let me ask you this, do you think he would be with you, or any man would be with you if you confessed and said that you’ve slept with over 1,000 men? If you know that no man would want to be committed to you because he wouldn’t see you as someone as respectable, lady-like, and basically a hoe, then why would you want to be committed to a man who has slept with over 1,000 women? He’s not respectable, or a man, and basically he is a hoe. Secondly, you say that he has a lot of web friends, and that he has said he will cancel his account if you want him to, but you don’t want him to cancel them to make you happy. And, you want him to refrain from going to those sites because he has met the woman for him. Hmmm, do you honestly think that you are the woman for him? I’ll wait while you ponder that. Some of you women are truly retards with slow a** brains, and I see why men prey on women like you. No self-esteem. No self-love. No self-worth. You think just because he gave you the keys and security code to his home, and his pin number to his debit card that you have some sense of security. Do you have the pin number to his main account, or is it one of his accounts? Trust me, it’s not his main account. And, no, chicken head, and I didn’t say, “Wow!” I said, “She’s the perfect trick! He gives every woman he’s been with the same information.” And, all you birds fall for the same the game. IT’S GAME! GAME! GAME! He does the same thing with every woman he comes across. But, those women, and eventually you, one day, will wake up and know he is not going to change. You will realize that he is not going to stop going to those websites, and everything coming out of his mouth is nothing but bull-ish and games. You know what, sweetie, how about asking him for his screen names and passwords to all his social/dating websites? Bet he won’t give that to you! Ask him how many bank accounts he has, and which one do you have the debit card pin number to? You say you’re not confused and need reassurance. Uhm, well, I hate to break it to you, but you are confused, dumb, slow, and just another notch on this man’s bedpost. So, count yourself included in the over 1,000 women he’s bedded. SMDH! Go and get yourself checked out after laying with this man. Don’t you know that there is a sharing of spirits when you lay and receive a man into your womb? Don’t you know that every woman he’s been with he is carrying their spirit, and dumps his seed and their spirits in you when he releases? Yeah, over 1,000 women. How does that feel? I’m curious to know that since he’s 53-years old, retired military, then how many times has he been married? How many children does he have? Have you met any of his family members, personal friends, or anyone important in his life? And, if this man hasn’t settled down by now, and he’s 53-years old, and is addicted to dating/social websites, girl, he is not about to stop now. You have the all the information you need, so what do you want me to reassure you about? That he will continue to sleep with and meet women over the web? That he will cheat, lie, manipulate, and deceive you, and you’ll fall for each of his lies, deceptions, and manipulative ways trying to convince yourself that you can change him? You actually think and feel he’s met the woman for him, and that he is going to turn his life around? LMBAO!!!! Okay, sit over there and reassure your own damn self. Why do you think something was propped up against the door where the computer is located when you came home? I can’t with you, and I’m done. I hope you’ll truly open your eyes, take all the information you have, and say, “Self, why am I remaining in this situation with someone who clearly does not feel I’m the one. He is not going to stop visiting those websites and making friends. He is not going to stop having sex with various and random women. Why am I fooling myself? Am I really that naïve and desperate?” – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15); Hiding In Hip Hop (Atria Books – June 2008); and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). 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Clint said deuces. Clint Eastwood And Wife Separate 17 years is a long time to just throw in the towel…is it on to the next one for Clint? According to US Magazine Some things just aren’t meant to be. Clint Eastwood, 83, has separated from second wife Dina Eastwood (nee Ruiz) after 17 years of marriage, Dina confirms exclusively to Us Weekly. (Eastwood’s manager, when contacted about the split by Us, said only, “I know nothing about that.”) The former TV news reporter, 48, says that she and Eastwood remain close but have been living separately for some time. In fact, a source tells Us the two actually split more than a year ago, in June 2012. “Clint fell out of love with Dina a long time ago,” the insider says, noting that the separation was “amicable.” Married since March 31, 1996, Dina and the Million Dollar Baby director have one daughter together, 16-year-old Morgan. Eastwood is also dad to seven other kids, though he has only been married once before. (He and first wife Maggie Johnson had a daughter, Alison, and a son, Kyle; the rest of his kids are from other relationships.) Morgan and Dina appeared together — along with Eastwood’s daughter Francesca, from his relationship with Titanic actress Frances Fisher — on the E! reality series Mrs. Eastwood & Company. The show — which ran for one season in 2012 — followed their lives in Carmel-by-the-Sea, Calif., where Eastwood was mayor from 1986 to 1988. Clint got long money. He’ll hook him a tenderoni in no time. WENN
Look out, Kim Kardashian . Tuna the Dog is coming after your Instagram crown. The canine was abandoned by the side of the road in San Diego a few months ago and eventually adopted by Courtney Dasher. Through a series of photos and online postings, Courtney shared Tuna’s story with the online world and he has since caught on fire… to the tune of over 400,000 Instagram followers! Learn a lot more about Tuna in this video: Meet Tuna the Dog!
The Apple rumor mill is churning like crazy once again amid gossip and speculation that the brand’s new iPhone 5S may be released September 20. The next iPhone’s release date, gold and graphite phones, and a “revolutionary” patent that could replace hinges (seriously) are all unconfirmed. Still, why let that stop us from excitedly guessing? The latest Apple rumors: iPhone 5S Release Date: Coming Soon? The iPhone 5S will be released three weeks from Friday, September 20. The iPhone 5C, a new, cheaper and more colorful plastic-cased handset, will also be released, a report in Japan’s Nikkei indicates. Apple is to announce the devices September 10, according to speculation, and the products’ release 10 days later is standard iPhone procedure. Elsewhere in iPhone land… Apple will release a gold-colored iPhone. Supposedly. The iPhone 5S “may” also come in grey or “graphite” with white panels. Apple has been negotiating directly with networks “to provide content for a television set that would emphasize apps over cable TV.” Apple may be readying its own TV service. So, instead of writing a check to your cable provider, you may be paying Apple for TV online. Apple last week applied for a patent for “interlocking flexible segments” that could replace bulky hinges on its hardware, such as MacBooks. Will any or all of this come to fruition? We will soon find out …
A new source has come forward and disputed the allegation that embattled NBA star Lamar Odom is hooked on crack . HOWEVER, the basketball player and reality star most definitely does have a drug problem. A very serious one at that. “The problem is cocaine ,” an anonymous insider tells Us . “He would be high for three or four days at a time… The addiction had taken over [his] marriage.” Khloe and Lamar: On the Mend? In response to Odom sadly falling off the wagon, the athlete’s wife, Khloe Kardashian held an intervention for her husband last week. It did not go well, Lamar refused assistance and Khloe subsequently kicked him out of their home. He reportedly went off the grid after that. But he is reportedly back at home now and friends say he’s open to getting treatment of some kind, though his relationship with Khloe remains on the rocks. She “wants to save her marriage and him,” the celebrity gossip tabloid reports, while an acquaintance feels nothing but pity for Kardashian: “I feel so bad for her. She really loves Lamar.” And, along those lines, Khloe Kardashian is focusing her energy on the personal demons that have once again come to haunt her husband of four years. Let’s all hope Odom manages to overcome them. Khloe and Lamar: Will it last? Yes. With love and hard work, they will find a way. No. The damage has been done and is too great. View Poll »
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