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Mika on ‘Morning Joe’: If Obama Can Run a Beer Summit, He Can Work to Unite Two Sides of Mosque Debate

Picking up where she left off last week, MSNBC “Morning Joe” co-host Mika Brzezinski on Tuesday and Wednesday cast opponents of the Ground Zero mosque as a “destructive” force, “demonizing” Muslims and “promoting ignorance.” Yet Brzezinski advocated Wednesday for a compromise between the two sides to be spearheaded by President Obama. When Joe Scarborough opined that President Obama, along with former presidents, needs to get involved in a compromise, Mika blurted out that “if [Obama] can have a summit in Boston between a professor and a cop, I think he can do this.” MSNBC’s “Morning Joe” panels largely supported the proposed Ground Zero mosque on both Tuesday and Wednesday, although they did show sympathy toward families of 9/11 victims. But the talking heads still would not give full credence to opponents of the mosque. Perhaps the climax of the struggle came toward the end of Tuesday’s 7 a.m. hour, where Mika faced off against the vice president of America’s 9/11 Foundation, Nick Leischen. After Leischen, speaking for the families of 9/11 victims whom he represents , said that the mosque within sight of Ground Zero would be an affront to grieving persons returning to the site, Mika unleashed her tirade. “When you talk about, every year, on the anniversary of 9/11, people going down there and then perhaps having to look at this center, and be so reminded – what are you talking about?” Mika asked in shock.  “What are they being reminded of? Are you kidding me? It’s an Islamic cultural center.” “You’re now – what you’re doing, and very politely and respectfully, but what you’re doing is, I think, promulgating ignorance about who these people are and what their center is, and demonizing them,” Mika tersely admonished the guest. Not to be left out of the fray, Time magazine’s Mark Halperin also questioned Leischen’s arguments. When the guest brought up Islamic history as a support for his argument, Halperin asked him to leave history out of the debate and consider the people who are involved in the mosque’s planning. “When you say looking at the building would be some sort of horror for them, try to enunciate what that means,” Halperin told Leischen, “because again, as Mika suggested, the only way that that should trouble people is if they’re making a connection between the Islamic faith and what happened on 9/11. Otherwise I don’t see where the pain comes from.” A transcript of selected quotes from Wednesday’s”Morning Joe,” as well as Tuesday’s debate between Mika Brzezinski’s and Nick Leischen, is as follows: MORNING JOE 8/24/10 7:44 a.m. EDT MIKA BRZEZINSKI: And I guess what I see is potentially so different than what you see, and that is for the good of our society and for the good of our relationships between communities, I can’t imagine it being moved now. Why would you think it actually does need to be moved? NICK LEISCHEN: Well it hasn’t been too good for our country and our relationship so far, in fact, quite to the contrary. I’ve got to tell you, I’m not a vociferous opponent by any means, and I’m here representing America’s 9/11 foundation. We have an opinion, and that opinion is just that the location of the proposed mosque is extremely inappropriate. We’re well-based in our opinion, because we’re in contact with so many of the survivors of the World Trade Center, and with other 9/11 sites, and with their family members, the survivors, and with the first responders, especially. And I can tell you that the amount of anguish and pain, and the agonizing difficulty that this has created for them – it hasn’t been a good thing. And I don’t believe that it will continue to be a good thing. And we could have, you know, we could have taken the low road. We could have gone politically correct, and said, you know, “No comment.” Because we are not a political organization, and I am not here to join America’s 9/11 Foundation into the fray. We exist primarily to honor the memory and the sacrifices of the victims, and their families, and the survivors of 9/11, and not just the World Trade Center, but the Pentagon and in Shanksville, Pa. BRZEZINSKI: And with due respect and sympathy to the families and family members of victims and survivors, I just, I do – LEISCHEN: But beyond that, our mission has gotten to be, to a great deal of support to first responders. BRZEZINSKI: And first responders, for sure. And I completely – look, my first reaction when I first heard the headline to the story was “Ooh, wow, is this the right thing?” But with further looking at it, knowing that there is a mosque at the Pentagon, knowing that there is another Islamic center 12 blocks away, knowing what else is around Ground Zero, hearing the conversation, and then listening to it being ratcheted up politically, and on the streets of New York – I just wonder now, though, if it would actually be detrimental to turn back. LEISCHEN: Well, the thing is is that, you know, life is full of compromises, and certainly corporations, religious foundations, charitable foundations – we make compromises all the time to, you know, reach our ultimate goals. So I guess the question is, what really is the goal of the mosque people? I mean, is the goal to create a tribute there to , you know, what happened? I hope not. Or is the goal to create a place of worship, and a community center, and to honor and respect people – BRZEZINSKI: Well that’s the goal. I mean, that’s – from everything we’ve heard, sir, with all due respect, that – that is the goal. The goal is not – LEISCHEN: Why is it so critical to place it virtually right on top of the World Trade Center site? BRZEZINSKI: I honestly, from talking and listening to the people who planning this, and knowing the Imam and having interviewed him – I truly believe, and I could be wrong – but I believe that they were blindsided by the response, because they have another center 12 blocks away, the Pentagon has a – LEISCHEN: I think 12 blocks away would make all the difference in the world. I think that having it within the site of the World Trade Center – imagine every year, on the anniversary, when the family members and the survivors who narrowly escaped with their lives come back to the World Trade Center for the annual memorial, and they’re looking at this 13-story grand monument. How would that feel, how painful would that be? How painful is it now? The people who were at the protest – many of them were family members of the victims. The pain that they were suffering was so great, so extreme, it was very difficult to witness or to speak with them. And by the way, I want to to set the record straight about something. I am not a protester. Certainly, America’s 9/11 Foundation is not protesting. We were down there, but we were down there for an event that is an annual event for us that had been planned more than a year in advance, and we had, oh, I don’t know, 5-600 American patriot motorcyclists that came down there and we did put on an event over by the Pass station, and we very carefully and skillfully, using these wonderful motorcycle police escorts from around the country, and we moved our people around the protest so that we would not draw any media attention, or draw attention to ourselves, or that we would be misconstrued to be protesters. But then I heard media outlets that were building us up to be protesters. We polled our riders, and they are definitely opposed to the location. BRZEZINSKI: Nick, though, the question I have, and I’ll let Mark Halperin in in just a second. When you talk about, every year, on the anniversary of 9/11, people going down there and then perhaps having to look at this center, and be so reminded – what are you talking about? What are they being reminded of? Are you kidding me? It’s an Islamic cultural center. You’re now – what you’re doing, and very politely and respectfully, but what you’re doing is, I think, promulgating ignorance about who these people are and what their center is, and demonizing them. LEISCHEN: Well, it sounds like you’re trying to draw me into the controversy. The only thing I can say in response is this. Let’s look to Cordoba, Spain. When people look at the mosque there, what does it symbolize? BRZEZINSKI: It’s not what we’re looking at down near the site of 9/11, not even close. LEISCHEN: It very clearly symbolizes, you know, an Islamic victory that was held in great esteem for a very long time, and that was marked and monumented by the building of a large mosque on the site that used to be a church, where a massacre occurred. I think there’s a very unhealthy parallel there, and it frightens me. BRZEZINSKI: Whoa. LEISCHEN: I think that if they really wanted to be moderate, and if they were considerate about what’s most important here, it is the respect for the people that are most directly impacted by 9/11. I think that’s what’s important. I’m not talking about a Constitutional right. (…) MARK HALPERIN: When you say looking at the building would be some sort of horror for them, try to enunciate what that means, because again, as Mika suggested, the only way that that should trouble people is if they’re making a connection between the Islamic faith and what happened on 9/11. Otherwise I don’t see where the pain comes from.   MORNING JOE 7/25/10 6:49 a.m.-6:52 a.m. EDT JOE SCARBOROUGH: This is why the President needs to get involved. And I do believe that with the President involved, George W. Bush involved, George H. W. Bush involved – BRZEZINSKI: If he can have a summit in Boston between a professor and a cop, I think he can do this. JOE SCARBOROUGH: This can be resolved. I’m going to say also – and Pat, a week ago – I would have said that compromise needs to include the possibility of moving the mosque north. I’ve got to say at this point, I don’t see how that can happen when you’ve got African-Americans being threatened down at a protest because they quote, “look Muslim.” When you have the nation listening to Newt Gingrich, comparing a house of worship to a swastika. We’ll be seen around the globe as the United States bowing to the pressure of an extreme fringe element. (…) BUCHANAN: In the Islamic world, there are Islamic leaders who are saying “What are these guys thinking of putting it there? There are people over there who are saying “America is anti-Islam,” at the same time (unintelligible). Joe, you won’t find Saudis, in my judgment, or anybody of the Gulf Arabs funding this thing when they realize the sensitivity it has for Americans, and the division that’s associated with it, they’re going to back off. I don’t think it’s ever going to be built. SCARBOROUGH: Okay. We shall see. I am always – I am Pollyanna, I believe there’s a way to bring people together and make this thing happen in a way that makes –

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Lady Gaga Inspired ‘To Write Music’ After Hearing Prop 8 Ruling

‘FULL EQUALITY! THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING!’ Gaga tweeted in response to the overturning of California’s Proposition 8. By James Dinh Lady Gaga Photo: Jon Furniss/ WireImage Lady Gaga is joining the chorus of famous gay-rights supporters applauding Wednesday’s overturning in California of controversial Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriage. The pop star, who always been a vocal supporter of the gay community, has revealed she’s so happy about the ruling that it inspired her to write new music. “At the moments notice of PROP 8 DEATH I instantly began to write music. BUBBLE DREAMS FOREVER! FULL EQUALITY! THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING! REJOICE and CELEBRATE gay communities and straight all over the world. Our voices are being heard! Loud! SCREAM LOUD AMERICANOS!” she told fans on her Facebook and Twitter . Several other celebrities publicly cheered on the news that U.S. District Chief Judge Vaughn R. Walker ruled that the voter-approved ban was unconstitutional . Gaga, who has always taken a stand against discrimination towards the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community, most recently paid homage to them in her music video for “Alejandro.” “It is a celebration of my love and appreciation for the gay community, my admiration of their bravery, their love for one another and their courage in their relationships,” she told Larry King about the clip that features male dancers in a few homoerotic sequences. Earlier this year, the singer took a bold stand for high school student Cole Goforth, who was sent home from Greenbrier High School in Tennessee for wearing a T-shirt that read “I Heart Lady Gay Gay.” “Thank u for wearing your T-shirt proud at school, you make me so proud, at the monsterball, you are an inspiration to us all. I love you,” Gaga tweeted . “I love you Cole, you just be yourself,” she added while on tour in Australia. “You’re perfect the way God made you.” What do you think of Lady Gaga’s comments on the Prop 8 ruling? Share your thoughts below! Related Photos The Evolution Of: Lady Gaga Related Artists Lady Gaga

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‘The Hills’ Was ‘Not Scripted,’ Kelly Cutrone Says

‘It’s a whole piss-take on everybody going, ‘Is the show scripted?’ ‘ the PR vet and ‘The City’ star insists of finale. By Jocelyn Vena, with reporting by Garth Bardsley and Matt Harper Kelly Cutrone Photo: MTV News Was it real or fake? That’s the question many fans seem to be considering since credits rolled on “The Hills” for the last time on Tuesday night. The show’s creator, Adam DiVello revealed on Thursday (July 15) that the final moment between Brody and Kristin was staged . But a onetime castmember of the hit reality series, PR maven Kelly Cutrone — now on MTV’s “The City” — insists that everything else on the show is for real. “Well, not really, because the show’s not scripted,” Cutrone told MTV News when asked whether fans should now re-think the show given the finale episode. “It’s just not. I’ve been on the show, it’s not scripted. I think it’s a whole piss-take on everybody going, ‘Is the show scripted? Is it not scripted?’ ” Plus, Cutrone said, it was the best possible way to end a show that is, in fact, a reality show. “I mean the show’s got to end somehow, and if the show’s based in reality, how do you end something that’s real? I mean, what do you do? So the whole [thing] was a flip,” she concluded. “I thought it was funny that it ended with Brody!” “Hills” star Lo Bosworth also reacted to the finale (and its implications) on her blog on Thursday. “Don’t worry. It wasn’t fake,” she promised fans on her new site, the Lo Down. “I have never shot any ‘Hills’ scenes on a stage of any kind. Rest assured, we were simply poking fun in the way that our viewers have done since the show began to air. Our show’s undeniable production value sometimes made the validity of it all questionable, but in truth (and this really is the truth), the relationships with those on the show are real.” Meanwhile, show creator DiVello said he felt the ending paid homage to the city that served as its backdrop for six seasons. “We had come up with a bunch of ideas, and then I had this idea to focus it on the Hollywood sign and really just kind of incorporate Hollywood into the ending of it,” he told us. “Our show’s one that’s based in Hollywood and these kids live, work and play here and never, never really kind of acknowledged in the series that Hollywood is where shows are made.” What’s your take on the “Hills” finale? Tell us in the comments! Related Videos The Hills (Season 6) | Ep. 12 | ‘All Good Things…’ The Hills Live: A Hollywood Ending Related Photos The Hills Finale: Behind The Scenes At The Roosevelt The Boys Of ‘The Hills’

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‘Hills’ Star Lo Bosworth Says Surreal Finale Was Just ‘Poking Fun’

‘In truth (and this really is the truth), the relationships with those on the show are real,’ she writes on her website. By Jocelyn Vena Lo Bosworth Photo: Frank Micelotta/ Getty Images “The Hills” finale left everyone a little speechless Tuesday night when, during the final scene, the producers revealed that Kristin and Brody’s goodbye scene was shot on a backlot in Hollywood. It was, as Lo Bosworth previously said, a “spectacular” ending to a show that had fans wondering week after week if the drama on the show was real.

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Nick Jonas Denies Dating His ‘Les Miserables’ Co-Stars

‘The story about me dating both my costars Samantha Barks AND Lucie Jones is untrue,’ Jonas tweeted. By Jocelyn Vena Nick Jonas Photo: Jason Merritt/ Getty Images Photos of Nick Jonas and his “Les Mis

Male battering is perceived as a mental health issue, not a crime

For the most part, the media, authorities and average citizens see domestic violence as a crime that is committed by men and victimizes women. Consequently, funding to combat the problem has overwhelmingly been spent on programs that support women. Widely Ignored Problem And yet, more than 200 survey-based studies show that domestic violence is just as likely to strike men as women. In fact, the overwhelming mass of evidence indicates that half of all domestic violence cases involve an exchange of blows and the remaining 50% is evenly split between men and women who are brutalized by their partners. Part of the reason that this problem is widely ignored lies in the notion that battered males are weak or unmanly. A good example of this is the Barry Williams case: Recently, the former Brady Bunch star sought a restraining order against his live-in girlfriend, who had hit him, stolen $29,000 from his bank account, attempted to kick and stab him and had repeatedly threatened his life. Lack of Research Sometimes it is impossible to ignore the problem, but when domestic violence against men turns deadly — as in the case of actor Phil Hartman — the focus tends to shift to mental illness. The same can be said of the Andrea Yates case, which many pundits presented as the story of how an insensitive husband can drive a wife to murder. Much of the information on domestic violence against men is anecdotal, largely because of the lack of funding to study the problem. Although several organizations explore domestic violence, the biggest single resource is the Department of Justice, which administers grants through its Office on Violence Against Women. For years, the DOJ has explicitly refused to fund studies that investigate domestic violence against men. According to specialists in this field, the DOJ recently agreed to cover this problem — as long as researchers give equal time to addressing violence against women. First National Study Researchers Denise Hines and Emily Douglas recently completed the first national study to scientifically measure the mental and social impact of domestic violence on male victims. Interestingly, their research was funded by the National Institutes of Mental Health, not the DOJ. Not only does this demonstrate the lack of resources for researchers of this issue, but it also suggests that male battering is perceived as a mental health issue, not a crime. This decriminalization of domestic violence against men affects research conclusions. While survey-based studies have found that men and women commit domestic violence in equal numbers, crime-based studies show that women are far more likely to be victimized. This inconsistency begins to make sense when one considers that man-on-woman violence tends to be seen through a criminal lens, while woman-on-man violence is viewed more benignly. A recent 32-nation study revealed that more than 51% of men and 52% of women felt that there were times when it was appropriate for a wife to slap her husband. By comparison, only 26% of men and 21% of women felt that there were times when it was appropriate for a husband to slap his wife. Murray Straus, creator of the Conflict Tactics Scale and one of the authors of the study, explained this discrepancy: “We don't perceive men as victims. We see women as being more vulnerable than men.” Kneed In The Groin This trend becomes particularly striking when one considers the 1996 case of Minnesota Vikings quarterback Warren Moon, who tried to restrain his wife after she threw a candlestick at his head and kneed him in the groin. Subsequently charged with spousal abuse, he was only acquitted after his wife admitted that she attacked him — and that her wounds were self-inflicted. Ironically, her admission of fault did not result in charges being brought against her. While Moon's trial was particularly high profile, his situation is actually very common. In fact, studies have found that a man who calls the police to report domestic violence is three times more likely to be arrested than the woman who is abusing him. The mainstream perception of domestic violence also impacts the resources that are available to battered men. For example, the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women, the only national toll-free hot line that specializes in helping male victims of domestic violence, has faced numerous roadblocks in its search for funding. In Maine, where the helpline is based, the surest route to funding is through membership in the Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence. On A Shoestring But, according to Helpline director Jan Brown, the Coalition refused to even issue the program an application for membership, effectively denying it access to funding. Today, 45 Helpline volunteers field 550 calls per month, 80% of which are from men or people who are looking for help on behalf of a man. Operating with a yearly budget of less than $15,000, it provides intensive training to its workers and offers victims housing, food, bus tickets and a host of other services. The Helpline's sheltering services are informal and ad hoc, largely because its lack of access to funding makes a shelter financially impossible. In fact, of the estimated 1,200 to 1,800 shelters in the U.S., only one — the Valley Oasis shelter in Antelope Valley, Calif. — provides a full range of shelter services to men. And, on average, less than 10% of OVW funds allocated to fight domestic violence are used to help men. For male victims of domestic violence, the legal system can become another tool for abuse. As in the Moon case, battered men are often likely to find themselves arrested, even when they are the ones who call the police. And, even after the arrest, the process of incarceration, restraining orders, divorce court and child custody hearings continue to disadvantage men. A High Cost Restraining orders are a particularly difficult hurdle. Radar Services, a watchdog organization, estimates that approximately 85% of the roughly 2 million temporary restraining orders that are issued every year are made against men. In many states, the requirements for an order are exceedingly vague: In Oregon, for example, a “fear” of violence is sufficient for a restraining order, while Michigan issues them to protect family members against “fear of mental harm.” But there's nothing vague about the effect of restraining orders: They often turn men out of their homes, deny them access to children and result in further personal costs as millions of men have to find new places to live, hire lawyers and pay other expenses. For some men, as Hines and Brown point out, the legal system gives abusive wives and girlfriends tools to continue attacks even after their relationships end. As Straus notes, “The preponderance of [domestic violence] resources should be made available to women. They are injured more often, are more economically vulnerable, and are often responsible for the couple's children. That having been said, more resources need to be made available to men.” There is no doubt that domestic violence against men can be reduced; the domestic violence initiatives of the past 40 years have brought a hidden crime to light and provided protection for millions of women. The next step is to admit that domestic violence is not a male or female problem, but rather a human problem, and that a lasting solution must address the cruelty — and suffering — of both sexes. http://www.dailyfinance.com/story/a-hidden-crime-domestic-violence-against-men-i… added by: MotherForTruth

How To Blog About Your Messy Divorce [Relationships]

Justine Musk ‘s divorce from her high-profile-CEO husband could be much uglier: There’s a new younger woman, five kids and a big fight over money. But her blog, and even her blog comments, have been admirably graceful. Let’s look: More

The Prince and the ‘Paris Hilton of Indonesia’ [Crime]

She says he’s a psycho rapist who kidnapped her. He says she’s a lying bitch and he wants a refund, but he still loves her and maybe wants her back. Meet Manohara and Prince Fakhry — Southeast Asian media sensations. More

Watch Bones Season 5 Episode 16 The Parts in the Sum of the Whole Online Stream

Watch your favorite Action-Drama-Suspense TV series “ Bones ” with its new episode entitles “ The Parts in the Sum of the Whole ” that released April 08, 2010. It’s a best show that you gonna wish to watch all the time. Get it free through streaming online. Current show and replays are always available on the specified television online. Synopsis of the episode: In the 100th episode, Bones looks back at the first time Booth and Brennan worked on a case together. The formation and evolution of their relationship, as well as the relationships of the other Jeffersonian workers, is examined. (from TV viewer) To get access, visit and watch it here: Bones s05e16 The Parts in the Sum of the Whole Bones Season 5 Episode 16 The Parts in the Sum of the Whole Watch Bones Season 5 Episode 16 The Parts in the Sum of the Whole Online Stream is a post from: Daily World Buzz Continue reading

Some More Kelly Bensimon in a Bikini of the Day

You know my life is pretty fucking shitty when I do two posts on Kelly Bensimon in one day…She’s a ripped mom in a bikini who I really don’t know much about, or really care to know anything about, because she seems like a rich bitch trying to get attention cuz she’s bitter her ex husband left her fat ass, so she hit the gym and spends all his money with a fucking smile. The kind of girl who makes her relationships as public as she can so that it gets back to him as a “fuck you, I don’t need you, I just need your money”… I just can’t help but post pictures of anyone getting her titties sorted out by a helper, no matter how old, or how much she likes her ripped body to get fucked by young cock…and this post confirms yet again, that I suck at life… Pics via Bauer

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