Scorned fellas better think twice before “exposing” their exes… Scorned Man Get 30 Days In Jail For Posting “Revenge Porn” A Miami was just sentenced to 30 days in jail for being petty online and posting his ex-girlfriend’s nudes. Via Miami Herald Months after dozens of explicit photos of her were posted online in a campaign of cyber-harassment, the 29-year-old Miami victim remains shaken. “I do not have words to describe how this has affected my life. I used to feel damaged beyond repair, and sometimes I still do, but I will overcome it,” the woman said in a letter read to the court. “The paranoia, fear and constant anxiety attacks made me feel like I did not deserve to live even one day in peace.” But Friday offered closure as her ex-boyfriend, a Miami Beach information technology consultant named Antonio Giansante, accepted responsibility for spreading the “revenge porn.” He agreed to spend 30 days in jail and complete five years of probation. According to prosecutors, Giansante tried 40 times to post the pornographic images to her employer’s Facebook page. Miami Beach police detectives traced the spreading of the images to Giansante’s computer at his Euclid Avenue apartment. Giansante, a former soccer coach in Puerto Rico, had begun dating the former player when she was 16. They were together for several years — and she consented to some nude photos, which were taken when she was underage. But many of the photos and some videos were recorded covertly without her consent. After moving to Miami, the two broke up in 2012 because of “his jealousy and possessiveness,” according to a search warrant. After the breakup, coworkers began getting Facebook and Instagram requests from profiles featuring the nude images. She found a website that featured 62 images. She told Miami Beach police that she almost quit her job and “has received panic attacks as a result of the tormenting conduct.” Giansante was also fined $5,000 which he must pay to two charities in exchange for not having a felony record. Hope he learned his lesson!
Paula Patton Talks Dating After Robin Thicke Split While on a promo run for her new film “The Perfect Match,” Paula Patton took to Facebook to talk hopping back on the horse after heartbreak. “You need to know that it’s worth it. At the end of the day, having a partner in crime for life is so amazing and special when it’s real and genuine, that it’s worth taking the risk. And you are going to get hurt, trust me, I know! I’ve been hurt a couple times—maybe more than a couple times. But you gotta pick yourself back up, and give it another chance. I know I’m going to!” Patton also disclosed exactly what she’s NOT looking for: “If you pout you’re out. I’m not dealing with a pouty man…I’m not doing that anymore.” Welp…Paula’s on the prowl, fellas! Do you agree with her views on dating?? Facebook
Dear Bossip , I am a 27 year old woman who went back to school over 3 years ago to start a second career as a registered nurse. My boyfriend and I, of almost 7 years, have a 2 year old son together. All of my life I have been extremely independent. I moved out of my mother’s house when I was 19 and have been taking care of my own since then. When we first got together, my boyfriend wasn’t very stable in life. I did all I could in my power to help build him into a man (working steadily, getting him to help his parents with bills, etc.). It was hard work, but I slowly started to see improvement. When I first started school, I had to cut down on my work hours so I could focus on my studies. My boyfriend ended up being the one paying for most of our bills. Not too long after I started school I became pregnant. Luckily, my family is an amazing support system and helps a ton with the baby. But, later in my pregnancy I began having complications and couldn’t work anymore. Also, I was approaching the last semester of school and was advised by my dean that I should not work if possible to focus on school and passing my licensing exam at the end of the semester. Well, during all of this, my boyfriend makes me feel like the biggest bum on the planet. We have a lot of stress over finances and he constantly tells me I do nothing and that it isn’t fair to him that he works ridiculous hours. Now, I feel terrible. I know he works like a dog and all, but I think it’s “F’d” up of him to belittle me when since the beginning of our relationship I’ve been the provider and the stable one. For the first time in a long time in my life I’m relying on someone else to hold me down while I try to better myself for the sake of my family. At times, I feel trapped and depressed because I feel like my son and I deserve better in life. He knew what the situation was when I started school and got pregnant. We both knew it wouldn’t be easy, but I felt like we had a partnership and it would be okay in the end. Now, I don’t even know if I want him to share in my success. Is that messed up? In the bottom of my heart I think I want things to work, but I feel like the disrespect has been too frequent and too far. I don’t want my son to witness that, but at the same time I don’t want him to grow up without a father present in his life. – Nurse My Soul Dear Ms. Nurse My Soul , One of the main reasons relationships end, and marriages end in divorce is because of money issues and finances. Money woes ends relationships. You and boyfriend have been together for 7 years with no marriage, and no progress forward other than playing house, and acting like a married couple. You spend years rebuilding him, and transforming him into the man you want him to be – Again, here we are with another woman changing a man into what she desires and what she wants, and in the end he turns the tables on you. You get him to change his ways, do everything you want him to do, and when they become that man, the better man, he soon forgets all the investment you did. And, because there is no obligation to you, he can simply walk away, with no thanks, and move on to another woman who will thank you for cleaning him up, building him up, and transforming him. But, I digress. You do all this work in changing him, and then decide to move in together, and have a child. All the while, you want to better yourself, and go back to school and improve your situation. And, while you’re doing all this for yourself and for him you are the one who is footing the bills, taking care of the finances, the house, the bills, and all the economics. SMDH! Now, because you are unable to work due to the pregnancy, then, have his baby, and now it’s his turn to take care of the finances and to support your dream, it is a problem. He can’t and doesn’t seem to be able to function and work the enormous hours to keep you afloat, and he doesn’t see why he should bear the burden of being the sole money-earner in the household. Well, this is what you created, and now you get to see a side of the same man you helped to build and transform turn on you. How does that feel? Well, I guess you are feeling it because you say that you are depressed, upset, hurt, angry, and reconsidering your relationship, as you should. You want to know why does he belittle you, make you feel bad, and isn’t supportive, or even consider the fact that you held him down in the beginning, and seems to have selective memory about all you’ve done for him. Well, it’s because he doesn’t care, he’s insensitive, inconsiderate, and a jerk. He can’t see the future or what’s ahead of him because he has limited insight, vision, and depth. Notice that it was you who helped him to transform into the man he is today. He couldn’t see that far ahead himself. So, if he can’t see the future for himself, then how can you expect him to see a future for you, him, and your son? He hasn’t had the foresight to even marry you after seven years of being together. Honey, wake up and see this for what it is – a failed relationship. Your investment has now reneged on you, and you can’t even get a return on it. It’s time you start thinking about you and your child. It’s time that you get back on your feet, get yourself a job, build yourself a nice savings, and find yourself an apartment for you and your child. This relationship has run its course. If your man can’t handle this, or support you now, then how can he support you in the future? He holds resentment toward you, and he resents that you are making him take on all the bills while he assumes you’re laying up at home only taking care of your child, and not contributing to the household finances. He feels you are taking his money out of his pocket, leaving him with little for himself, and he probably feels he is working all these hours only to get nothing in return. Therefore, he doesn’t see a future with you. He doesn’t see why he needs to invest in you and his child, and the future that you want to have. You and he are not on the same page. Therefore, get yourself together, and start rethinking how you can do for you and your son as a single parent. Get your career, and spend some time building yourself, loving yourself, and investing in yourself. It’s time to do for you. You’ve done for your man and poured into him, so, now it’s time to pour into yourself. Trust me, he will regret this down the road, especially when you are gone, out of his life, and you put him on child support. Yes, put him on child support, and let him continue to be responsible for his child. He can be part of his child’s life, and you can work out arrangements for joint custody, or visitation. You don’t have to be bitter about this situation, just smarter and wiser. Be better for yourself and your child. Be better because you deserve better. And, finally, you can have the peace of mind, happiness, and joy you deserve and need. Why be in a miserable relationship that causes you to be depressed, or with a man who makes you feel un-needed, unwanted, and a burden? – Terrance Dean ***(Attention all media/news outlets, if you use this story and letter, or any parts of this content for your outlets you must give credit to this site, the columnist, and his advice)*** Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? S hare your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean: loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter: @ terrancedean and “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook, click HERE! 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Mathias Döpfner: Mark, on Facebook we learned that you were jogging at the Brandenburg Gate this morning. How was it? Mark Zuckerberg: It was good. It was the first time I have gone running in snow in 20 years. Whenever I go to a new city, in order to help get on the right time zone and actually get a chance to see that city, I like running so today was awesome. Döpfner: It’s not your first time in Berlin. Zuckerberg: No, and I love it. Berlin is one of my favorite cities in the world. I fee
Racist Indiana High School Taunts Latino High School With “Build The Wall” Chant Donald Trump has inspired a whole new nation of azzholes to mock and ridicule latin and hispanic people according to NYDailyNew Students at an Indiana high school held an oversized Donald Trump cutout and chanted “build the wall” during a basketball game against a rival school with many Latino students and players — outraging fans and drawing national attention on social media. The demonstrations occurred during a Friday game at Andrean High School in Merrillville against Bishop Noll Institute in Hammond. Students often wear costumes and shout chants during the games. A group of Andrean students wore patriotic clothing, including flag bandanas and Captain America T-shirts. One student brought a cutout showing Trump’s face. “Build the wall, build the wall,” the students chanted, according to the Times of Northwest Indiana — highlighting the presidential candidate’s pledge to build a wall along the U.S.-Mexico border. The latino rivals had a great response though… “We’re bilingual,” the rival fans responded. Bet those white folks wouldn’t have the huevos to try that s#!t with a black school. Image via Facebook
Black Voter Turnout Is Imperative To Keeping Donald Trump From Being Elected President RawStory taken the liberty of breaking down exactly why it is SO important that each and everyone of us do our civic duty and cast our votes. All of us, but especially black women… As the Democratic nominating contest speeds up, African-American voters – especially women – have some tough, and influential, choices to make. South Carolina is the first primary where African Americans are the majority of Democratic voters, controlling 55 percent of the vote. That makes South Carolina a battleground for black votes, especially those of African-American women. We know that victories in early primaries are important. Later voters often pick their candidate based on early primary outcomes. The South Carolina primary is perhaps as important as the Iowa and New Hampshire primaries because it could create momentum in subsequent contests where black votes will help candidates win. The following statistics explains exactly how influential the black vote can be and how detrimental it can be for us if we don’t… African-American voters are the most loyal supporters of the Democratic Party. Their support for Democratic presidential candidate Al Gore was 90 percent in 2000. In 2004, they voted for John Kerry by 88 percent. Barack Obama won an all-time high of 95 percent in 2008. According to exit polls, black voters were 13 percent of the national electorate in 2008. They represented approximately one in every 4.25 Obama voters that same year. Sixty-five percent, or 15.9 million, of voting-age African Americans cast a ballot in the general election, compared to 66.1 percent of white citizens. But, the voter turnout rate among eligible black female voters was 68.8 percent – the highest of all racial, ethnic and gender groups in the 2008 American presidential election. Especially in southern states with large black voting-eligible populations – including South Carolina, Mississippi, Georgia, North Carolina and Louisiana – the black female voter outperformed in terms of registration and turnout. Since 1996, this gender gap has been consistently present. African-American women voted at higher rates than African-American men by a range of 7 or 8 percentage points in 2008. That rate was even higher – about 9 percentage points – in 2012, which is 6 percentage points higher than other racial groups. All this is to say that we, as people of color, HAVE to have the same level of enthsiasm about voting in November as we did in 2008 when Obama was running for his first term. Anything less than that will lead to all of us watching “President Trump” take the oath in 2017… Image via Shutterstock
Ciara Promises Best Album Of Her Career Every time we look up Ciara is running around in some new locale with her quarterback boo thang Russell Wilson , but now the singer says she has to push back her upcoming tour so she can focus because she’s making the BEST ALBUM OF HER CAREER. Hmmmmmm Is Future on it? Just asking! Do you think Ciara is really focused on her plans, or is this just the excuse to cover up poor concert sales or anticipated poor sales? Hit the flip to find out where Ciara’s at right now… This weekend she’s in Lagos, Nigeria You think Russell and Baby Future came too?
Alpha Phi Alpha Suspended After Death Of Allegedly Hazed Student A 21 year old Buffalo State student named Bradley Doyley died at Buffalo General Medical Center this week after vomiting blood and being sick for several weeks. According to the NYDailyNews , the college’s branch of the Alpha Phi Alpha fraternity may be responsible for his death. Witnesses say that the frat forced Doyley to “drink something toxic” as part of his hazing initiation. After Bradley’s illness persisted and intensified, he was said to have been taken into surgery to have his stomach examined. Buffalo police are investigating allegations that Doyley’s death may be linked to a hazing incident at an off-campus Alpha Phi Alpha fraternity house. The campus chapter of the organization has been suspended by both the college and the fraternity’s national governing body. College officials told WKBW-ABC that Doyley was not a member of the frat and was not pledging. “He had not completed the application process with the national fraternity,” a spokesperson for the SUNY school told the station. But students who knew Doyley told a different story. “I was in the weight room and heard he was pledging and was made to drink some type of toxic substance,” Dametrius Brown, a member of the college football team, told the Buffalo News. “I keep hearing different stories. First it was detergent, then some said sewer water.” We get that people like frats and sororities and whatnot, but how much pain and suffering are you really down to endure just to kick it with a couple of color-coordinated friends? SMH. Image via Facebook
Alpha Phi Alpha Suspended After Death Of Allegedly Hazed Student A 21 year old Buffalo State student named Bradley Doyley died at Buffalo General Medical Center this week after vomiting blood and being sick for several weeks. According to the NYDailyNews , the college’s branch of the Alpha Phi Alpha fraternity may be responsible for his death. Witnesses say that the frat forced Doyley to “drink something toxic” as part of his hazing initiation. After Bradley’s illness persisted and intensified, he was said to have been taken into surgery to have his stomach examined. Buffalo police are investigating allegations that Doyley’s death may be linked to a hazing incident at an off-campus Alpha Phi Alpha fraternity house. The campus chapter of the organization has been suspended by both the college and the fraternity’s national governing body. College officials told WKBW-ABC that Doyley was not a member of the frat and was not pledging. “He had not completed the application process with the national fraternity,” a spokesperson for the SUNY school told the station. But students who knew Doyley told a different story. “I was in the weight room and heard he was pledging and was made to drink some type of toxic substance,” Dametrius Brown, a member of the college football team, told the Buffalo News. “I keep hearing different stories. First it was detergent, then some said sewer water.” We get that people like frats and sororities and whatnot, but how much pain and suffering are you really down to endure just to kick it with a couple of color-coordinated friends? SMH. Image via Facebook
Put A Ring On It is back, and we’re bringing you more stories of Black love. This week, we caught up with a couple that has social media feeling the love. While scrolling down your news feed on Facebook, you might have come across video of a groom welcoming his wife down the aisle with […]
