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Dear Bossip , I live in Nashville TN and I have a question for you. The answer may be what I already know but I need some help. I met a man on a dating website. He pursued me pretty hard and then eventually we started texting off the site, DAY and NIGHT. He was very receptive to me, asking me what I was looking for (we agreed we wanted to find a companion not necessarily marriage overnight or anything, but a commitment) and he was very talkative and sweet and funny. He even said he thought he was having some feelings for me even though we hadn’t yet met. We had exchanged pictures over the course of the 2 weeks. Well, after 2 weeks of this texting and calling each other we met. He revealed to me that he has only been in town for 5 months and he is working on securing a good job and a secure living situation. None of which I care about. I am not a gold digger at all. I care more that he is a good person. During the date he was GREAT, talkative, affectionate, polite, but after a good night we went back to my place, grabbed some beer and made a night of it (probably my 1st mistake). Well, we ended up being intimate and I feel like that was mistake # 2. We went to sleep around 4 am and woke up around 11 am, and I took him home. Now my question is: Are my chances of making this serious, DOOMED? I made it clear that I wasn’t going to be intimate, but I gave in after his very tempting advances. We have a lot in common and the conversation is great, but now that we met he isn’t sending any texts messages like he did up until we met. We had such a good time! This was Saturday and now its Monday, no word yet from him. Should I chuck it up as a loss and move on or am I judging it and him too soon? Will he call me on day 3? If not, what do I do: send him a text asking if he is done? I am lost. I need some help on what I need to do now. – Confused in Nashville Dear Ms. Confused in Nashville , Chile, I can’t believe we are starting the New Year off with this mess. SMDH! The hell! You folks and this online dating will learn one way or the other. Meeting folks online, then texting, calling, and sexting, which leads to sexing on the first night. Then, he disappears and you’re upset and wondering what happened and why he disappeared. Why is he not texting and calling like he used to. What happened to all the promises he made, and all the gooshy talk we did about being in a relationship and finding that special someone. It’s all a damn lie! Here’s the problem: You take a huge risk and chance when you meet an unknown person online. The chances are 1.) They are liar. 2.) They are not who they say they are. 3.) They lack social graces and are not good in public spaces. 4.) They are just out for a quick “hit it and quit it.” Ma’am, it’s only been two days since you haven’t heard from him. Slow your damn roll and pump your brakes. But, I get it. You’re having buyer’s remorse. You regret sleeping with him, and now that he hasn’t hit you up in two days you’re getting the suspicion that he is not going to call. LMBAO! Well, you’ll learn the next time won’t you. If you say you’re not going to be intimate, then don’t be intimate. If you want a man to call you the next day, then don’t sleep with him on the first night. When he revealed to you on your first date that he had just moved to your city within the past 5 months and had no job, and was trying to secure a living situation, then your red flags should have gone up. I don’t care if you’re not a gold digger. But, a man with no job and no permanent resident does not deserve any permanent p***y. The hell you giving up the goods to a bum for? That’s what he is. Would you go out in the streets and pick up a homeless man and take him home? Would you go on a date with a man you met on the street and he had no job or residence? Hell no! You would walk right past him. So, I don’t understand why you would lay down with a man you met on the internet, revealed to you that he has no job or permanent residence, then bought you a beer and you took him to your house and had sex with him, and then had to drop him off the next morning! You tricks have got the game all the way f****d up! Yes, you do deserve a no return call. You don’t deserve to be in a relationship with any real man who has his own –ish, and is about his business. You belong with the bums and tricks who ain’t about nothing because you ain’t about nothing. If your minimum requirement is that a man is good to you, yet, he doesn’t have a job or residence, then find yourself a trailer and park your car and live your life, boo! Next, you said to him that you would not be intimate on your first date, yet, you spread your legs wide and let him climb on top of you. And, you over there talkin’ ‘bout, “I gave in to his very tempting advances.” Girl, what advances? A can of beer and him saying, “You look pretty gal! Come over here and give me some sugar!” LMBAO! Then, you say that you have a lot in common and great conversation. What do you have in common? He doesn’t have a permanent home. He doesn’t have a job. Do you have a permanent residence? Do you have a job? He’s broke. You have money. You have car. He doesn’t. Again, what do you have in common? And, what great conversation? What did he say to blow your mind? Was he talking about politics, spirituality, philosophy, the state of world, bringing world peace, discussing poverty and hunger? Chile, that man was telling you what you wanted to hear. He knew you are weak, vulnerable, and desperate. He knew he could play on your low self-esteem, and that you hadn’t had any good d**k in a while, and he knew the right words to say to get what he wanted from you in two weeks. So, let’s wrap this up so others can get 2013 right and proper. He is not going to call or text, expect when he wants to hook up again. It will be in a few weeks. He’s going to have an excuse that he was busy looking for a job, or he was in the process of moving. Some lame excuse, but he will get horny again and hit you. Trust me. By the way, he is not into you. He is not feeling you, or being in a relationship. Especially not with a chick he met online, and he smashed on the first night. He thinks that’s how you get down. Even if you don’t, the fact that he smashed on the first night, he thinks you’re easy. He doesn’t want you for long-term relationship. You’re a jump-off. With that, I want you to stop meeting men off dating websites, chat lines, Facebook, Twitter, or any other social media outlet. It will not end well. If you do, then SKYPE with these men. It’s free. It’s doesn’t cost a thing. SKYPE with someone and you get to see them in real time before you meet. And, have some real and serious conversations. Ask about his employment. Ask for pay stubs from a job. Ask about his residence. Ask for a copy of his lease. Ask if he has a car. Ask to see the registration for the car in his name. Ask if he’s married. Does he have any children. How many. Is in presently in a relationship. Does he have many girlfriends. What is his take on monogamy. Hell, when was the last time he was checked for STDs, or had an HIV test. And, you want to see the results. In 2013 it’s time to do this right and do it your way. Don’t let anyone dictate to you how the relationship is going to go. You have a say in it. You’re just as much a part of what is going to happen as the other person. Have some standards and dignity about yourself. Have some respect. Have some integrity. And, please up your standards beyond those basic minimums. You looking real cheap and easy right about now. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: He Is New In Town, No Job, No Home & We Slept Together But I Haven’t Heard From Him
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Dear Bossip , I look forward to reading these letters everyday its usually the first thing I do before I even log into work! Well, I have a dilemma on my hands. I’m a 32-year old mother of 3 kids, and I’ve been dating this nice Southern man for about 1 year. I recently introduced him to my children and they really like him. He is a great guy, family oriented, gainfully employed, great sense of humor, basically all the things I’ve asked for, BUT he is dumb as a brick. I don’t mean to be mean but I’m serious. Even to the point where my 15-year old has given him the side eye at some of the things he says. Don’t get me wrong I’m no scholar myself. I do okay though, and when I need too I Google or right-click something I’m willing to take the time to learn. But, this man just decides to use my brain instead. He’s always asking, “What should I say?” Or, “How do you spell this?” It’s getting to be so annoying!!! I don’t know if you have ever argued with a special brained person, but let me just say I’d rather beat my head against a wall. It’s starting to affect the way I look at him as a possible mate for the future. But, as the old saying goes I don’t want to throw the baby out with the bath water. Am I being too picky? What do I do? – Brained Burned Out Dear Ms. Brained Burned Out , LMBAO! Well, when you asked for this great guy who is family oriented, gainfully employed, with a great sense of humor, did you think to ask for someone who is smart, intelligent, wise, and educated? LOL! I’m from the school that you get what you ask for. So, if you’re not specific in your request from the universe, then you will end up with what you got. If you just want a man, any man, then you will get any man. That is why so many people end up in the relationships they have. They are not specific in the requests for the type of man they need. If you don’t expand your own ideas of a mate, then you will get what you ask for. If you don’t ask for a single, eligible, spiritual, loving, successful, gainfully employed, smart man who believes in monogamy, and who is able to express his love, desires, wants, and needs, and who desires and willing to be in love, desires and willing to be committed, desires and willing to grow and become a better man, then you will not meet or get this type of man. Be specific in your request for the man, or woman, you need in your life. And, believe me when I tell you this, people show up in your life to teach you lessons, to help you grow, and to become a better you. And, this man may be the one to help you grow, teach you a lesson, and experience something you’ve never experienced before. LOOK FOR THE LESSON IN THIS, AND IN THIS RELATIONSHIP. He just may be the man of your dreams if you’re willing to invest in him. Now, I’m not saying you have to stay in the relationship with him. If you’re not compatible, and you feel you are not growing, and he’s not helping you to grow, then get out of the relationship. But, you can encourage him. Engage him. Invite him to sit at the computer with you and learn as you’re teaching him. Recommend books to him. Take him to the museum, and on other cultured events where couples can learn and do things together. Make your date nights educational, yet, exciting for you mentally, physically, and emotionally. Take up a cooking class together. Hell, you can even learn a foreign language together. The point I’m making is that your man appears to be willing to learn and to be shaped. The fact that he is asking questions says it all. He wants to know. And, I’m sure he knows he’s not smart as a whip. Besides, Ms. Honey, if he is everything you want and desire in a man, but lacks the brain smarts then shape that man into the man you want and need for him to be. Help him to see his potential. Help him to realize his greatness. This is just an investment in him, and in your relationship. And, think about it, he’s not cheating on you, misusing you, abusing you, got another woman pregnant, and he doesn’t make you feel inadequate or unworthy. You said he is a great guy. Then make him wonderful! Yes, it can become redundant, overwhelming, and a pain in the a** when you’re constantly helping him with something. You’ve been doing it for over a year. So, if you’re not willing to invest in him, and the relationship, and he’s really becoming annoying, then imagine if you stay another year, 5 years, or 10 years. It will only get worse and you will resent him, thus, his mere presence will be an annoyance for you. You will start to belittle him and embarrass him in public. You will get joy out of making him feel stupid. And, that is not healthy or smart. So, get out now if you don’t want this to be the rest of your life with him. But, just know that the next time you ask for a man, be more specific in your request: SMART, INTELLIGENT, WISE, and HUMBLE WITH HIS INTELLIGENCE. You don’t want to get a smart a** who knows every damn thang! LOL! – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: He’s Everything I Asked For, But Jeez, He’s Not The Smartest Or Brightest
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Dear Bossip , This is my first time ever coming to someone about this situation. By reading some of your other messages on Bossip, I feel that you aren’t biased and that is was I need because I’m soooo lost right now. Ok, me and my girl have been together for 4 years. This is an interracial relationship. She is white and I am black. She is 33-years old and I am 29-years old. This girl has stuck by my side through everything, and I mean everything; ranging from my crazy baby momma keying her car, to me cheating too many times to count, which is the stupidest thing I could have ever done. A little of my background: I have never been faithful to anybody, never in life. I have only had maybe like 3 or 4 girls that I could even say I have cared about. This is no excuse, but I simply don’t know how not to flirt. I had the mindset that I could be with any girl I wanted, which in all honestly has been mostly true, not saying that I’m God’s gift to women or anything, I just never had a problem getting the one I wanted or getting what I wanted. Back to the topic at hand, I have taken my girl for granted for tooo long. Actually, I am surprised she has stayed around this long. She has caught me numerous times. Once, she set up a fake Facebook account with fake pictures and everything. She acted like some girl trying to holla and I fell for it. I did claim her as my girl, but showed her absolutely no respect on the matter. She has caught me walking a girl upstairs to my apartment, and the cell phone is its own story in itself. Yet, through all this she has stuck by my side and never left. The cheating wasn’t the only problem though. I’m not a woman beater or anything, but we would get into fights sometimes, fist fights, but mostly just arguing about my “F” ups. Then, I would get mad, pull her by the hair, then leave her house or kick her out of mine. Like I said, honestly I don’t know why she has stayed around so long. We have had like week-long break ups and stuff like that, but most of that was me not wanting to be with her. I don’t know what my logic was. I know I have been stupid, selfish, and very immature, but I have never stopped loving her and actually her staying around has made me love her more, and even though it seems like it took forever I only want to be with her. So, like 10 months ago, which isn’t that long ago, I decided that I wouldn’t cheat on her anymore, which actually has been going very well for me. Our relationship seemed to be getting better. We have had maybe 1 or 2 big fights in the last 10 months, but nothing related to cheating, but that’s because we stopped disrespecting each other with our talks and actions. But, it has gotten better. We are madly in love. The problem is that she knows exactly what she wants but I still got some growing up to do. So, the relationship has been the best it has ever been for some time because I started communicating more, taking her out, and I stopped cheating. But, I still had a flirting problem and I still need to show her more respect in every aspect. Like three months ago, I came into a financial problem and after everything I was trying to do failed, I asked her if we could move in together. Now, before you start thinking I am a moocher or something, I have always had a job and have never batted an eye at doing whatever I could for her or her child whenever I could. I think that’s how she knows when I’m doing something wrong because that is like the only time that I get distant. But, anyway, she said I could move in. I didn’t really want to but it was the only choice I had to make ends meet. So, the weekend comes when I am moving in. She goes out of town with some of her friends. I get everything moved with no problem. But, I had spent just about all my spending money. I do odd jobs on the side to make extra money. I needed some money, so I had some computers that I had fixed for some people and I decided to return the computers to the people so I could have some money. The only problem was that I took this one female her computer real late that Friday night, which was an idiot move, but in all honestly all I wanted was the money. The girl that I took the merchandise to already knows about my girl and knows I love my girl. She even encourages me to be faithful and honest and tells me not to hurt my girl. Me and her are good friends, but my girlfriend doesn’t trust me around her because we used to have sex like 8 years ago. So, I go over there, my girlfriend was out of town. I should have told my girlfriend what I was doing, but I thought I would be in and out, no harm done. All we did was talk, nothing more, nothing less. I don’t even see this girl as someone I would have sex with anymore. She is just a friend, but my girlfriend is insecure with me around any girl and I don’t blame her. While I was over there my girl called. I didn’t answer the phone, which was another idiot move. But, I thought it was best because I didn’t want to upset her because I knew that nothing was going to happen, and it didn’t. So, that night my girlfriend had one of her friends ride by our house and I wasn’t there. I called my girl back a little while after I left and told her I was busy moving the last of my things. This wasn’t a lie, it just wasn’t the whole truth. When my girlfriend got back from out of town she went through my phone and found some texts and a call log that showed I had went to the other girl’s house. I tried lying to her about it, but that only pissed her off more. We stayed together after that, but this is where things got very sour. From that moment on it was like my girl just wants to fight with me. It’s like she wants to push me away. I have a temper and we got into one bad fight. I have kicked a whole in the wall, but I fixed it. And, one day, I was looking for a quick way to make some money, so I was looking to sell something that I wasn’t using. I was putting it in my car and she decides that she wants to start fussing. She closes the garage door, I forced it open and messed it up. But, me and one of her friends fixed it, and at the time I didn’t know dude was trying to get her, though. I almost forgot while all this was going on. We hadn’t had sex in like a week or two, and I still had not cheated, so I was very proud of myself. So, from then on out she would come home late or not come home at all, or just leave in the middle of the night or whatever. I still have been faithful through all this, but a time came when I was like, “Look, I know you don’t want me anymore, so let me stay in the guest room for a little while so I can save some money, then I will be out off your hair.” After that we had a talk, she said that she still loves me and wants to be with me, but that she has no trust in me and I understand this. So, we broke up. We still live together and sleep together most nights. She even gave me some the other day which was great!!!! I have been trying everything I can think of to get her trust back. Like I said, we still live together and sleep together some most nights. We still call each other pet names and tell each other I love you. I have been trying to do everything to make her happy. I want to be her husband. I want to be faithful. I truly love this girl and want to be with only her and I am willing to do whatever it takes to get her back. I just don’t know what to do because I have never felt like this before. She says if you love something you have to be able to let it go, but I don’t want to let her go. When I moved in with her I knew what I wanted, and I want our family. I just don’t know how to get it back. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your time. – Want Her Back Dear Mr. Want Her Back , I love these conversion stories where folks are in relationships doing dirt, dogging their mates, freaking everybody but them, cheating, and lying, and then you have this aha moment and think that they’re supposed to forget everything you did and be happy you turned your life around and act like nothing you ever did mattered. Get the freak out of here! And, Whoop-to-MF’ing-do! You feel bad for treating her horribly for four years, and now you want to be the man she’s been hoping you’d had been from day one. Whoop-toMF’ing-do! You want to be a family now after she’s bent over backwards, stood by your side, fought for the relationship after she’s caught you cheating time and time again, and now you don’t want to cheat anymore and be Mr. Faithful-Who-Loves-To-Flirt. Let’s get something straight right now. And, you need to start being honest with yourself. YOU ARE A LIAR. Say it to yourself. Admit it to yourself. YOU ARE A LIAR. That’s it. That’s the plain truth. You can’t be trusted. You went to another woman’s house on a Friday night because you wanted to get some money because of your bleak financial situation (That’s whole other issue right there). This is a woman you had sexual relations with in the past, and you claim you’re good friends. Chile, please miss me with that bull-ish. You are not good friends, as you experienced that night. She is old p***y that is on reserve. That is all she is. But, when your girl called you that night you ignored her call, and decided to call her back later. WHY? If you weren’t doing anything, and you were simply there to get some money, then why lie to your woman about the truth? Oh yeah, it’s because you’re a liar and you felt guilty. Why didn’t you think to call your woman in advance, or while you were in en route and explain to her what you were doing and where you were going? Why couldn’t you wait until Saturday morning or afternoon to go to her house? Why didn’t you arrange to meet her in a mutual location instead of going to her house? It’s because you don’t think. You just do, and think about the consequences later. And, as a result you keep lying on top of the lie you told. SMDH! You are definitely not the brightest. And, this is obvious. But, know this, your past is indicative of your present and future. For four years you took this woman through it all, and you expect her to forget everything because you’ve been on your best behavior for the past 10 months. Really? Really! You’s a do-do brain. Ole doofas a**! And, I don’t care what you’re arguing about and how intense it gets, YOU DO NOT PUT YOUR HANDS ON A WOMAN! Don’t grab her hair, shove her, mush her in the face, or pick her up to move her out of your way. YOU JUST WALK AWAY! LEAVE! GO AND SIMMER DOWN AND LET THINGS CALM DOWN. But, don’t put your hands on her. Now, let’s address the fact that you moved in with her to save money because you couldn’t live financially on your own. That is the only truth you have. You didn’t move in with her because you loved her, or because you wanted to be a family. You wanted to save money. And, the sad part is that you still have not saved any money because you’re still trying to hustle money. So, what’s the underlying issue you have? Oh, yes, you’re a liar and cheater. Thus, this issue will play out in all aspects of your life: financially, mentally, emotionally, physically. When you’re real and honest with yourself, all those things will fall into place. But, ask yourself, “Why do I lie? What am I getting out of lying? What will this lie accomplish and am I ready for the consequences behind the lie? And, how has lying served me over the years? Look what lying has gotten me.” By the way, this whole relationship is all about YOU. Re-read your letter and hopefully you will see this. YOU cheated on her for four years. YOU moved in with her because YOU wanted to save money. YOU lied to her. YOU did what you wanted to do, and now YOU want to act like nothing happened and that she should just get over it. Sorry, but if you want to get her back, and be a family, then start acting like a man. Start being proactive in the relationship, and give her everything she deserves. Make her feel loved. Make her feel desired, wanted, and needed. Buy her flowers. Take her out. Cook dinner. Treat her like a queen. And, instead of playing house, and you want to be a family, then get married. Be that man, and she will be that woman! But, you’ve got to make the necessary steps and strides to making her feel that she can trust you. And, it’s going to take some time, but you’ve got to earn that. You want her back, then grow the hell up, stop lying (be honest even if you feel a lie would be easier to tell, don’t do it. Tell the truth), and start working on earning her trust and love. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: I Messed Up & Treated Her Badly, But I’m Changing & Want Another Chance
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Dear Bossip , I have been with a man for over 9 years. I just recently found out that he was fooling around on me and impregnated another woman. We have 2 kids together and this child is the same age as our youngest child. When confronting the other woman it was obvious that she was nothing but a creep. She even admits to a night of drunk sex that resulted in a baby. When asked what the extent was of my man and the child’s relationship, she said he is not present and that she wants nothing to do with him, and she’s better off without him. When I asked my man he broke down and cried and admitted to sleeping with the girl. He tells me that the baby may or may not be his because come to find out she told him it was a possibility. He claims that he tried to tell me before, but was so afraid to tell me and he kept it a secret in fear that I may leave him. I again called the woman who now changes up her story and tells me a whole different account of the relationship, but it is in sync with his story. She has moved on, has other children, but my feelings are hurt because I love this man and until that point I thought we were happy. He has changed his ways. He is continuously apologizing and trying to stay on my good side. What do I do? I love this man and we have a home, cars, children, and life together. It happened a few years back, but it feels like it happened yesterday. Am I a fool for staying? – What To Do Dear Ms. What To Do , Yes, you are a fool for staying. The hell is wrong with your a**! Your man got another woman pregnant and he didn’t tell you until you confronted him. He gave that bull-ish line that he was afraid to tell you and kept it a secret in fear that you may leave him. Really? Really! He wasn’t afraid to stick his d**k inside her raw! He wasn’t scared of the potential diseases he could have received and brought home to you! He wasn’t scared during all those years he was in communication with her and seeing his child! So, yes, Ms. Thang, you are a damn fool! You want to sit up here and call her a creep, yet your man crept with her. So, what does that make him? Stop bashing her, and making her look bad when your man is just as guilty. Regardless if it was drunk sex and she spread her legs for him, it was your man who climbed on top of her and hit it raw, and then lied to you for years about his secret child. Stop defending him!!! Your argument against her is not going to win in any court of law, and definitely not on Bossip Court. And, on top of it all you have been with him for 9 years, not married, but you have two children with him, a home, cars, and built a life with him, but he hasn’t married you. SMDH! Y’all are some real silly a** tricks! He doesn’t owe you anything! He can walk out that door again and do what he did and still come back to you because you will let him. Why do you women think because you have invested time, energy, children, and built a life with a man who has not put a ring on your finger, pledged his love for you in front of God and your and his family, and made any vows to you that he owes you anything? He can leave you at any time and have no qualms about it because he has no ties to you other than your children. So, when he leaves what will you have? What will you say then? I gave him 9 years of my life and he does this to me. Yous a damn fool! You did it to yourself! The woman told you that she doesn’t want anything to do with him and she’s better off without him, but what about the child? If it is his child then why would he not want to be actively involved in his own child’s life? Your children are his brother or sister. So, he wants them to grow up and they not know anything about their other sibling? Yeah, that’s a brilliant idea. Your man continues to be another deadbeat, absentee father who allows his child to grow up fatherless. Then the child wonders who their father is, and grows up to be bitter, angry and mad at the world because he father wasn’t a part of his life. Is this what that child deserves? Did this child ask for any of this? NO!!! Hell no!!! But, because of your man and that woman’s reckless behavior they produced a child, and now they are resentful of each other and the child has to pay for their stupidity. They are two damn donkeys! Yeah, you definitely have a winner on your hands. Yep, you have father of the year, and a champion dad. The same man who hasn’t married you, and the same man who cheated on you and lied for years to you. You think you know your man, but you don’t. And, you can sit your humpy dumpty a** up there and hope things will be different, and you can move forward, and he apologizes until the cows come home, but the fact remains that a child was created due to his night of wanting to be unfaithful and spread his seeds. RAW!!! Ma’am, he went up in this woman, RAW, and he didn’t know her. He’s trifling, sad, and harmful to you and your own life. He wasn’t thinking about you and your children at that moment, and beyond was he? He lied to you for years and kept the child a secret. Yes, he’s a liar, and he only revealed the truth when he was caught. So, therefore we can deduce that he’s a cheater, liar, manipulator, deceiver, and untrustworthy. Now, you’re asking me what you should do. You tell me what you think you should. I’ll tell you this, it is not the first time he’s cheated and lied to you, and it certainly won’t be the last. This I know for sure. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: We’ve Been Together 9 Years & Have A Family, Yet, I Just Learned He Had A Baby A Few Years Ago
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Tagged amazon, black celebrity news, Celebrity Gossip, child, children, girl, Hollywood, islamic-center, kkk, love and relationships, men, mosque, Relationships
Dear Bossip, I really need your advice on how to handle a family member. I know all families have their relatives that are a hot mess, but some of my family just really depresses me. This past week my family had the home going celebration for one of my uncles that passed recently from health problems. When I say a celebration that is exactly what it was. Family from all across the country and some even from overseas traveled to attend. The funeral was that Saturday and the family get-together that evening at my grandmother’s house. Like most family get-togethers we had food, fun, music and plenty of liquor. A relative from Mississippi brought two big gallon jugs of Moon Shine a.k.a. White Lightning. I didn’t partake in the drinking, it is not my thing. I prefer the herb, which there was plenty of. My wife and kids attended with me and spent much of their time in my grandmother’s house. Well, I have this one cousin that likes to drink and smoke, which I am sure we all have. The cousin that drinks and smokes, but can’t handle neither. My cousin is a straight clown, a little of “Smokey” from the movie, Friday, “JJ” from Good Times, and Old Dirty Bastard. He started celebrating Wednesday night when family started arriving, and had stayed drinking all weekend. I hate being around drunks that can’t control themselves and they don’t understand that there is a time and a place for everything. It really irks me to see a drunk break down crying, and they can’t stand up, slob everywhere, the ugly faces they make, and keep acting like they about to pass out. Here are three things that my cousin did that week that just make you shake your head and not want to claim him. 1. He drove a new four-wheeler into a pool. 2. Drinking and driving and hitting what he thought was either a deer or a zebra. 3. Just put on a show of straight drunken ignorance all week. But, what really pissed me off is what I learned happen that Saturday while inside my grandmother’s house. On our way home Sunday, my wife out the blue asks me, “What girl did you date that died from AIDS?” I didn’t have to ask who said it because I knew who it was and she confirmed it. My cousin, in one of his drunken rants, started talking about the girl to one of my aunts that knew her. But, it was around my wife and my aunt tried to change the subject, but my cousin just kept talking without any consideration that my wife was sitting in listening range. I had to explain to my wife, that I never talked to any female that had AIDS, and that when I did talk to this girl we were, ten years old. TEN! I don’t even consider that a relationship. But, this has been my last pass I am giving my cousin and I really want to whoop his a**. This is the type of crap he does all the time, just looking for attention. And, I know saying anything won’t get us anywhere but only arguing and cursing back and forth. But, I really want to say something or else it’s going happen again because this is not his first time. I feel it is disrespectful to my wife, me, and this girl that has passed. And he continues to show that he has no respect for his family or himself, and I am tired of it. I have been weighing on whether or not to say anything or let it go. So, I am asking your opinion. Signed – My Cousin Is Ignorant and Needs His A** Beat Dear Mr. My Cousin Is Ignorant and Needs His A** Beat , LMBAO!! I can’t! First, I’m sorry about your loss. My prayers are with you and your family. Second, your cousin is a straight fool! I wish I could have been there to witness all of his antics! Driving the four-wheeler into the pool, and him saying he hit a deer or zebra. LOL! I’m sure he is the life of the party. And, yes, we all have that one family member in our families that can’t handle their liquor, or herbals, and want to show their a**es, embarrassing everyone, including themselves, especially at family reunions, funerals, birthday parties, or holiday gatherings. Chile, it comes with the territory. LOL! Now, let’s get to what has your drawers in a bunch. Your cousin spilled some beans about a girl you dated as a child, but said girl died from AIDS as an adult. Your aunt tried to change the subject as your cousin was giving the Tea in his drunken stupor, but your wife overheard this conversation and on your drive home she asked you about this girl. It rattled your head, and you wanted to rattle your cousin. But, I don’t understand why you are upset. If you dated this girl when you were 10-years old, and as you’ve stated, “You were ten! I don’t even consider that a relationship.” Then why are you upset with your cousin? Is there some other closet secret about this girl and you that he revealed that you didn’t reveal in your letter? Or, are you afraid that there is something else hidden that he knows about you and will share in the presence of your wife? I don’t think the real beef, and your source of anger is about what he said about a 10-year old “like,” or crush you had with some girl, but it’s more so about him and your embarrassment and dislike for him and his drinking. You said it in your letter that some of your family members depress you. You are embarrassed by him, and you are internalizing his antics, and his drama, and his foolishness. As a matter of fact, all of your family members are embarrassed by him, and hates when he comes to any event because they know he is the one who is going to get high and drunk and show his a** and reveal some family secrets. So, everyone tries to stay far and clear from him because no one wants to end up on the opposite end of his truth serum revelations. You can confront him, whoop his a**, or whatever you want to do with him, but nothing is going to come between him and his liquor and herbals. If that is his way of dealing with his grief, pain, or whatever ailments he has nothing or no one can stop him from partaking. Yes, confronting him while he is sober and in his right state of mind will resolve YOUR issues, but just know that when you do say something he is not going to remember anything, or even remember saying what he said. He will apologize and say it will not happen again, but wait until the next family gathering, holiday, or funeral and he will back to his old antics. What I’ve learned to do is start loving and embracing my family members who love to partake of the spirits and get totally inebriated to the point that they need someone to carry them and put them to bed, or drive them home and put them in their house. I love watching them dance, falling all over the place, acting silly, and hugging on me with their slurred speech telling me how much they love me, and they are proud of me, and so on and so on. I find it comical now. I stopped the judgment and my opinions of them. If that is what they need to feel good, have a good time, and enjoy themselves then let them have at it. THEY ARE WHO THEY ARE! I cannot change them or make them be who I want them to be. I just know not to tell them anything that I don’t want revealed or disclosed. They are the ones I definitely would not share any secrets or intimate conversations with. Yes, they can talk about my youth and things of the past I did, but it doesn’t faze me any longer. They love recanting stories, and getting a kick out of the plots and the humor of what happened. But, that was years ago. I don’t hold on to the past, and I could really care less. And, my suggestion to you is if it happened many moons ago, and the only thing he can bring up is about some girl you dated when you were 10-years old then let him enjoy his story. He’s enjoying that moment, living in it, and it’s his fond memory of you. Brush it off, and keep it moving. Once you change your outlook on it, and let go of the anger, hate, and embarrassment of HIS actions, it will no longer affect YOU. So, let Jim Bo have his Moon Shine, and act a damn fool. HE IS WHO HE IS! If you embrace him and love him regardless of who he is and what he does then you will see a different person and his actions will no longer affect you. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: I’m Tired Of My Cousin Embarrassing The Family With His Drunken Stupors
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Tagged aids, Celebrity Gossip, Family, girl, Hollywood, House, life, men, outlook, party, Relationships
Dear Bossip , Let me start by saying that I love your honesty…. Now! I have been seeing someone for 6 years on and off. He tells me that he loves me, but because I had an abortion when we were 21 years old he states, “He cannot trust me.” I do everything for this man and provide him with the three F’S – (FEED, F**k, and help him financially when he needs it.) No! We do not live together, but when we did I took care of the rent since I make more money than him. He says he wants to settle back down and get married but I have to prove myself to him. Well, it has been 5 years since the abortion and I have shown so many signs that I am a good woman. I work, cook, and clean. When I am not around him I know in my heart he is with somebody else. His mother told me that he loves me and talks about me all the time. We also do everything with his family as if we are together. His fear is once I get another title with him that I will revert back to my old ways. But I was young back when we first started dating and I am not the only one that has messed up in the course of our relationship. My question is do you think he is just stringing me along until he finds something better? I’ve met great guys but I did not give them an opportunity because I’ve felt like I owe him because of the abortion. This is why I am confused I don’t understand why he is making everything so difficult. Yes!! I feel bad for the mistake I made 5 years ago and I’ve spoken to GOD for forgiveness. – Trying To Be His Wife Dear Ms. Trying To Be His Wife , Chile, you have truly fallen and bumped your big a** head! The hell is wrong with you trying to prove yourself to a man!?! And, you’re providing the three F’s and you’re not even married?? And, you make more money than him, and he needs help financially? Chile, I wish I might! You let him fix his mouth to say to you that you have to prove yourself to him before you get married because he doesn’t trust you. And, it’s been five years, and he’s still talking that bull-ish! Girl, please back all the way the hell up from me! Ladies, ladies, ladies you should not be trying to prove any damn thing to any damn body!!! If he can’t take you as you are, and love you for you, and you’re doing everything for him, but he wants to throw up in your face about something you did when you were younger, then kicked that a**hole to the curb and move on with your life. When a man tells you that you have to prove yourself to him then please note that he will never, and has no plans or intentions on marrying you or settling down with you. He will forever hold it against you what you did IN YOUR PAST! But, here’s the kicker, he wants you to forgive him and forget what he did in his past. All the abuse, cheating, lying, deceiving, and manipulating he wants you to just forget about it and let it go, and your simple a**es do it and let him come back only for him to do it again. SMDH! Girl, don’t ever make someone a priority in your life when you clearly are an option in theirs! And, your boyfriend does not love you. If he loved you he would forgive you and move on. If he loved you he wouldn’t be holding what you did in your past over your head. If he loved you he would be doing everything in his power to make sure that you felt his love, and he would marry you and he would be looking to start over and have a family with you. It shouldn’t have taken him five years to decide or figure if he wants to marry you. It does not take five years for him to come to some conclusion that you’re trustworthy and won’t revert back to your old ways. And, what the hell is this mofo talking about “revert back to your old ways.” Are you freaking kidding me??? What about him reverting back to his old ways?? Honey, you are so caught up in trying to prove yourself to him that you are overlooking your instincts which tell you that he is seeing someone else. Stop letting him cloud your judgment and second guess yourself. Stop letting him play on your self-esteem and emotions. He is taking advantage of you and the situation, and he’s got you sitting over their looking like a backwoods Opie with a special helmet on your head. Stop acting and being dumb! It’s not cute or attractive. Until you get a backbone, and put on your big girl panties and confront him like a woman he will keep playing you like the little girl you’re acting like who keeps trying to prove something to some adult. Tell his a** he needs to prove himself as a husband and get on his J-O-B! He needs to be out-earning you income. You shouldn’t be taking care of the finances of the home, and holding him down consistently. He needs to step up and be a damn man! And, until then, you remove yourself from him and the situation, and start dating other guys. Get yourself a make-over with all the money you’ve been doling out on him. Get a new wardrobe, and a new hair-do. It’s time to reclaim your life and power and stop giving it to someone else. It’s all about you, and you’ve to recognize this or he will wear you down and out and leave you. Besides, when he sees you doing your thing, and moving on from him, he will turn his behind around and come back pleading and begging you to take him back. He’ll realize you were a good woman, and that it was him who screwed you over. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: He Said I Had To Prove Myself To Him Before We Got Married & It’s Been 5 Years
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Tagged Abortion, Celebrity Gossip, dating, finances, God, Hollywood, kicker, love and relationships, men, power, situation, terrance dean
Dear Bossip , I need help. I met this guy on a dating site and I have fallen in love with him. I really don’t believe he feels the same way. I spend days at a time at his house cooking and cleaning up his apartment. He tells me he misses me, but I really think he misses me cooking and cleaning for him because his house is always a hot mess when I come back. And to make matters worst I recently went back on the dating site only to find he is still active on it. Also, he told me he wish he could date his female best friend. I’m at a cross roads with him. He frequently tells me he does not have a girl friend, which includes me, yet, he encourages me to spend time with his mother. I’m at the point of just walking away. – Feeling Like A Housemaid Dear Ms. Feeling Like A Housemaid , Ma’am…ma’am…. Could you lean into the computer screen. Closer. Closer. Closer. WHOMP! (That’s me knocking you upside your damn head!) I don’t understand some of you women sometimes. Like, really, where do you live? Have your brains suffered that much damage from wearing them too tight weaves that you can’t think or comprehend any longer? Have men really f’d up your sense of judgment? Is the d**k that potent that you forget who you are? If every time you go to this man’s home, and you are cleaning his apartment, and cooking for him, yet, he hasn’t made you his woman, or even acknowledges you as his girlfriend, then, yes, dumbass, you are a housemaid. You are a convenient piece of ass with nothing else to offer. The sad part is that you are a housemaid who is not even being compensated for your time, or work. But, I bet any amount of money that you are that one trick he knows he can call on whenever he needs something. I bet you pay some of his bills, too, don’t you? I bet you take your EBT card and hit up Piggly Wiggly and stock up on groceries to take to his home to fill up his fridge and cabinets. SMDH! You are truly simple. Simple. Simple. Simple. This man has said to you that he wished he could date his female best friend. He didn’t say he could or would date you. He didn’t say he could or would make you his woman. Yet, he has no problem with you coming to his home and cleaning and cooking for him. He has no problem banging your back out on the fresh linens you washed and put on his bed. And, what’s so sad about you is that you wait on his calls with baited breath because you have no life, no self-esteem, and no sense of worth. He calls you up casually and says he “misses” you and wants you to come over and take care of him. (Cocks head to the side). Yes, Ms. Get-A-Freaking-Clue, you’re right with your observation that when he says he misses you it’s because he only misses you cleaning his apartment and cooking for him. WOW! (Talking in baby talk to you – Did you come up with that conclusion all by yourself? You are a good girl. A real good girl. How do you think you should be rewarded?) But, here’s another clue – As he’s sitting in his dirty ass apartment, and his other woman, or women, are coming through, he doesn’t want to appear like he’s a dirty ass bum, so he calls you (the dumb chick who jets over to his crib like the Speedy Gonzales you are), and you provide your dutiful services of housemaid washing the dirty sex stained sheets he’s been screwing his other women on. Simple. Simple. Simple. Let’s move forward. When a man tells you that he is interested in another woman, i.e., best friend, baby momma, or some random chick he’s been screwing for a minute, then, uhm, sweetie, it’s time to start back stepping out his house and out of his life. His affection, heart, and attention are focused on whom? I’ll give you a clue – NOT YOU! He doesn’t see you. He has no vision for you. And, if you went back on the dating site where you met him, and he is still active on the site, then, in all your wisdom, in all your knowing, and in all your common sense, do you think he will ever, ever, ever make you his woman or settle down with you? (Starts filing my nails. I’ll wait while you ponder this.) Yet, you are up in his house, in his face for days at a time, cleaning his apartment, washing his clothes, scrubbing the floors, and have pots of food cooking on all eyes on the stove, and with something baking in the oven. And, on top of that, he frequently tells you that he does not have a girlfriend. When he is piping you down does he make you wear your maid outfit, too? Ms. Honey, that man is not, never, ever going to make you his woman. You’re the help. And, what do we say about the help – We don’t date the help, sweetie. Girl, please stop being a chamber maid for this man. You are not his maid, housewife, woman, girlfriend, momma, or grand momma. Tell that trifling bum to kick rocks and eat dirt. He’s a grown ass man calling you to clean up his house and cook for him, and your happy d**k thirsty dumbass is doing it for free? Please make it stop baby Jesus! The next time he calls you tell him that you have an invoice for him for your cleaning and cooking services. Let him know that you need payment in full. Not 30 days, not next week, and not tomorrow. But, today! It should tally up to about a couple of thousands of dollars. And, I’m being generous. Then, I want you to walk away. With all your courage, with all your might, and with all your strength, I want you to free yourself and stop allowing yourself to be used, and taken advantage of by this shiftless, tired, and lazy ass bum. Reclaim your life, your sanity, and your EBT card. Hold it up and yell from the mountaintops, “It’s my card and I own it now!” Then, I want you to claim victory and freedom. Claim and re-inherit your vagina from his clutches. Don’t be a victim any longer to the d**k. I know it’s going to be hard, but you can do it. You can let it go, and no longer be held hostage to the d**k. Run, Cora, Run! Be free! Free at last! – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: I Cook And Clean For Him, But He Tells Me That He Doesn’t Have A Girlfriend
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Dear Bossip , When I was 18-years old I met this 25 about to be 26-year old at a party. We started talking. He made me his girlfriend. Been around his kids and family. I used to ditch school to see him. I was in love with him and accepted the fact that he had kids. Three months in and for 3months I told him I wanted to marry him and have a life with him. He pushed it off. My mom wasn’t in approval and I kept seeing him behind her back. We had each others yahoo, Facebook, Twitter, AIM, home phone, address, cell, and OVOO. We always stayed in contact which made it harder to leave, but it would be the downfall to our relationship because I ended up seeing pictures and comments I wasn’t supposed to. I figured if he cheating then I might as well I do it too, but my naive mind figured if I tell him all I’m doing and with who, then I wouldn’t be cheating. I started talking to other guys with no intentions of sleeping with them, I just wanted the attention that I couldn’t get from my boyfriend because at the time my mom didn’t know I was still seeing him. So, it went from lying about going to hang out with so-and-so to be with my boyfriend, to actually meeting real life so-and-so and seeing less of my boyfriend. I asked many times for a break for me to figure out what I really wanted, but he rejected and refused. He secretly went thru my phone twice. He saw some texts he wasn’t supposed to see. Once, during the ups of our relationship I agreed to do a tape and naughty pics for him to let him know that I still loved him and he was the only one I was with sexually. Huge mistake because something I did out of love would be the thing that would hurt me the most. How you ask? Every time after when I would ask for a break to meet a new guy friend or in his eyes cheat, or he gets really mad, he would threaten to leak the video and post the pics around my apartment building. Now, 2 years later, I was assaulted and he was there for me. He says he loves me, but gets mad and threatens to post the video. I’ve tried leaving many times, but he used that to get me back. I don’t know what to do. I really don’t want the tapes or pics to leak and I’m tired of feeling trapped to him. Help me! – Trapped And Confined Dear Ms. Trapped And Confined , First of all, your fast ass was 18 years old dealing with a 26 year old. That is a problem. You have nothing in common. He is too old for your ass. And, you needed to stay in your lane, especially since you stated that you were ditching school to be with him. I wish I was your parent and I found out that you were ditching school, I would have ditched my foot right up your ass. But, hold up, Ms. Thang, after three months your hot in the pants fast ass was talking about marrying him and having a life with him? What the hell!?! What did you possibly know about him in three months to give you any idea that he was the man for you, especially considering he already had kids, which means he has more than one, possibly more than two kids? And, I’m certain he has more than one baby momma. So, therefore, your wretched ass didn’t even give any type of consideration or thought to the fact that if he is not with his kids mother’s, then why would he want to be with you? Your mother should have snatched a bone out of your neck and beat the hell out of you with it! That’s what your generation is missing – A strong family support system with Big Momma and ‘em, and using a switch on your narrow asses to beat the hell out of you. You better be glad you didn’t grow up like I did where my momma, daddy, uncles, aunts, and whoever else in the neighborhood had the authority to whoop that ass, and use extension cords to tear that ass up! But, let me address this damn madness your ass have gotten yourself into by making a naughty video and sending naked pictures to this trifling ass man. UGH! I wish I could just shake the –ish out of you and knock some damn sense in your head. Ole basic ass! As a matter of fact, ladies and gentlemen, let this be a lesson to all of you out there – Never, never, ever make a naughty video, and send explicit photos to anyone over the internet, or via cell phones because you will end up in a situation just like Ms. Basic Ass who wrote this letter. Please know that whomever you’re in a relationship with that one day it will end. One day it will be over. And, it may end horrible, nasty, and bitter. And, guess what? They have the videos and naked pics of you that they can leak over the internet or share with their friends. You don’t EVER want to give someone ammunition to hold over you and keep you hostage or at their will because your freaky nasty hoe-ish ass wants to act like a stripper or some amateur porn star. And, none of you are Heather Hunter, Tera Patrick, Jenaveve Jolie, Havana Ginger, or Roxy Reynolds. So, please, please, please stop posting those unattractive, explicit photos posing in your dirty panties and bras in your whack ass bathroom shots with spots on your mirrors, and your toiletries on the counter. It’s not cute! But, y’all are going to learn about taking nasty pics and videos and sending them to the ‘so-called’ love of your life. Dumbasses! Listen, I hate that you’re in this situation, but maybe this will teach your basic ass a lesson. Maybe this will be a teachable moment about dealing with gutter and street dudes who ain’t got –ish and won’t be –ish. And, just so that you’ll know this moving forward, IF YOU FEEL YOU HAVE TO PROVE YOUR LOVE TO ANYONE, THEN THEY DON’T LOVE YOU. LOVE IS NOT ABOUT PROVING ANYTHING. IT’S NOT ABOUT CONVINCING SOMEONE WHO IS INSECURE OR JEALOUS THAT YOU’RE WILLING TO DO SOMETHING DETRIMENTAL TO YOUR OWN SELF AND WELL-BEING TO MAKE THEM FEEL SECURE AND COMFORTABLE WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP. WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF AT THE POINT, STOP, TAKE A MOMENT, AND GATHER YOUR THINGS AND BOUNCE! Unfortunately, there is nothing you can about him having the video and pics. You sent them to him. You tried being nice, and thought you would walk away and that’ll be that. Uhm, WRONG! He has them in his possession, and just like the bish ass he is, he’s trying to manipulate you into staying with him, and use them as his negotiating power. SMDH! Young lady, I hope you’ll never do this again, and if you ever meet someone new and feel the urge to do some bull-ish like this again, please call me. Please, please, please let me know so I can personally snatch that auburn dyed lacefront off your head and smack you upside your bald ass skull! Now, if I were you, and you’re not me, and I’m not suggesting that you do this, but I’m just saying that if I WERE YOU AND IF I WAS IN YOUR SITUATION, THEN WHAT I WOULD DO, I would get his ass pissy drunk one night. Plan a special evening and make sure he drinks and drinks and drinks until he is totally inebriated. Then, when he passes out, pull off all his clothes, and get him buck naked. I would take videos, and pics of him laid and sprawled out with his nuts and penis in plain sight, along with is face. I would also get my “special toy” and place it strategically near his mouth and spread his legs and place it near his ass. Hell, I would even get him awake long enough to think he’s getting some and capture him getting excited and ready, and I would video tape it all. Trust me, he’ll be too drunk to know what’s going on. AND, THEN I WOULD MAKE MULTIPLE COPIES OF EVERYTHING! Then, the next day as I’m telling him that the relationship is over and he wants to get big and bad and say he will release the video and pics he has, I would double over in laughter and dare him to do it. Then, I’d pull up all the pics and video of him from the night before. BOOM! BAM! POW! You wanna rumble with the bee, huh? Throw a hex on the whole family! – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15), and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
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Dear Bossip: When I Try To Leave My Boyfriend He Threatens To Release The Explicit Video & Pics He Has Of Me
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