I’m still not sure what I’ve been doing wrong here, but no matter how many posts I write declaring my love for Cailin Russo , I can’t seem to make her my next ex-wife, or even just my latest Internet girlfriend. I think maybe it’s time to try playing hard to get. So here’s Cailin’s latest crazy-hot just OK photoshoot and it totally does doesn’t turn my entire pants region to mush and make me want to propose to her via Twitter once a day. How’s that for reverse psychology? » view all 27 photos
Dear Bossip , I am writing to you because I’d like a male’s prospective on this situation. There’s a guy who has been in my life for about a year now, but of course we are just friends. My issue is we fight and bicker like we are a couple and when I put my foot down to let him know that I will not waste my time and energy on someone who is just a friend he gets mad. For awhile, I’d ignore his calls, texts, and everything just because he was becoming so overbearing and demanding. He’s always asking me for rides, to feed him, etc. I got to the point where I was so fed up by him and his constant needs/demands that I stopped altogether. Then, I was being called all kinds of “B” words, and he called fake on numerous occasions. So, I completely stopped talking to him. But he wouldn’t go away, at all. He’d call a few weeks later unmoved like nothing ever happened. Yet, I’m still upset and want my apology. I know I should just leave him alone completely, but it’s hard when he won’t leave me alone. I ask him what he wants from me, and he states I just need a friend, but I feel if you want me in your life as a friend or anyone for that matter he needs to quit blaming the world for his problems and thinking everyone owes him something. Fast forward to now, in this year I’ve seen how much he’s grown as a person. He still lacks affection and has anger issues (I think a serious mental instability at times), but that stems from most likely not receiving that as a youngster. I guess my point is does he have feelings for me deep down, or am I completely wasting my time hoping that they are there? After all, on several occasions he has told me how much I mean to him and that I give him motivation, and that when he’s drunk he sometimes professes his feelings for me as well. I don’t press him about a relationship. I simply try to hold him accountable for his actions. I know the worst part for me is that I’ve grown to care for him and just want to see him succeed and tell him all the time. He’ll call me up and ask if we can go get coffee, or if he can come over, but I feel like if you just want to see me then say that then. I’m sorry my thoughts are all over the place, but that’s how I feel. It’s hot and cold. I just want to know what it means, since I can’t get an answer out of him and my life is by no means on hold for him. I am dating, but like I said he’s that thorn in my side that won’t go away and it’s kind of hard to explain to a guy why some other guy is blowing your phone up like crazy when you’re just friends. I’d really appreciate your feedback. – Confused Lady Dear Ms. Confused Lady , How much does he pay you for your services? (Sips tea) How much money do you collect after his phone calls, rants, and the motivational talks you give him? (Sips tea) How much time and energy are you exerting in diagnosing him and his problems, and what he needs to do to fix his life? (Sips tea) Oh, my bad, you don’t collect any money for your services from him? You’re not licensed to treat him or to sit and listen to him while he bishes, moan, and rant about his life. I thought you were a paid therapist. A psychotherapist. His psychiatrist. I thought you were his counselor. Girl, please stop this charade talking about he’s your friend. He is not your friend. I will repeat in big bold letters: HE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND . SMDH! I don’t understand how some of you women will fool and even lie to yourself about these babies, grown men boys whom you let in your life and you’re trying to fix them, console them, nurture them, and be their mother, therapist, friend, and girlfriend. Yeah, I know you’re not his girlfriend so stop acting like one. He is an emotional and mental vampire sucking the life of out of you and taking your kindness as a weakness. He plays on your vulnerability with him, and he knows he is manipulating you. STOP PLAYING THIS GAME WITH HIM AND GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP. HE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. Notice that he only calls when he wants something. He only needs you when it’s convenient for him, or something happens in his life. He uses you to dump all his problems on. He dumps and dumps and dumps on you and your dumba** is sitting there taking it. And, do you notice that after he finishes taking his dumps on you that you are the one who is left depleted? You are the one who is left feeling angry, sad, upset, and mad. HE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. By the way, this is another way of saying, “He’-ishing on you.” And, why would you want to consider being in a relationship with someone who is A.) Verbally abusive. He curses you out and calls you all types of Bishes, and tells you how fake you are, however, you really think deep down that he is harboring some intimate feelings for you. Hmmm, okay. So, a man can call you out of your name, treat you like some random stranger and berate and demean you and you interpret that as he must likes you and wants to be with you. SMDH! Girl, you are glutton for punishment. B.) He is a drunk, and he is immature. He can only express him under the influence of alcohol. Now, explain to me what is so attractive about this behavior, and why you find it enticing and stimulating. (I’ll wait). C.) He only calls you when he wants something, or to complain about his life. I’m sorry, but what part of friendship is this? What part of this relationship, which is one way by the way, and he continues to use you, take advantage of you, and he wants you to cook for him, drive him places, or he comes to your house and sit up and utilize your –ish while he dumps his entire life in your lap and he wants you to put the pieces together. Again, what type of friendship is this? Ohhh, but I get it. You like the attention. You like the drama. You like this type of stress in your life because if you didn’t have any of it in your life then what would you do? If you didn’t have him hounding you, acting out like a baby, and you drop everything and run to him trying to save him then you wouldn’t feel complete. You wouldn’t feel adequate, or needed. So, while you claim you’re dating other guys, and he is blowing up your phone, and you have to explain to your male companion how this guy won’t leave you alone, and how he needs you, but you can’t seem to shake him, you think it makes you look like this amazing and strong got-it-together woman who is truly a friend, a supporter, and a great catch. UHM, NOT!!! It makes you look like a dumpster, and someone who doesn’t know boundaries, and a woman who is desperate for attention. He is a child. A baby. A little boy. Stop trying to nurture him, care for him, and fix him. He is not your project. He is not your son. He is not your child. He is not your boyfriend. HE IS NOT YOUR MAN. If you want him out of your life, then completely end it and stop this damn game and bull-ish talking about he won’t stop harassing you. Delete and block. Delete and block. You have those features on your phone. And, you can delete and block him from all of your social media. He can’t access you unless you let him. If you wouldn’t take his calls or texts, or return his messages, pleas, and cries, then he wouldn’t have access to you. If you wouldn’t be so available, then he wouldn’t have access to you. He doesn’t need you. He doesn’t want you. He doesn’t desire you. He is using you as a soundboard to complain and bish about his life, and you allow him. Honey, if you stop and you truly dismiss him out of your life, trust me, he will find someone else to do this to. But, you won’t because you like the attention, drama, stress, and aggravation. You enjoy this game, and this false sense of reality that he desires you and wants you. So, if you want a drunk, a grown man/boy who is childish, who doesn’t have his life together, is a user, a moocher, a complainer, a whiner, and doesn’t value you, your time, your space, your life, and who you are, then, yes express your desire to be with him and have a relationship. Stress yourself the hell out and watch him continue to use, take, and abuse you, and once he’s had enough of you, and you’re dried up, looking old, overweight, stressed, hair falling out, and your money is deplete, he will move on and find another victim. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean: loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter: @ terrancedean and “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook, click HERE! Make sure to order my books Mogul: A Novel (Atria Books – June 2011; $15); Hiding In Hip Hop (Atria Books – June 2008); and Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Love, And Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – November 2010; $15). They are available in bookstores everywhere, and on Amazon, click HERE!
Zac Efron was ugly … but now he’s not. It’s hard to know what troubled star Amanda Bynes is thinking, regarding this key issue, but she’s clarified her view. The actress, who was released from a psychiatric facility on Thursday after a three-week involuntary hold, is back to one of her infamous old tricks: Being the Twitter authority on who is or is not ugly. Zac Efron appears to be on the fence somewhat. “By the way I just want to tweet that Zac Efron is not ugly,” Bynes posted on her feed Friday night, perhaps as an apology to labeling him as such before. In 2013, a distressed Bynes tweeted, “@zacefron has an ugly face” and then deleted it. She also tweeted that she wanted Drake to murder her vagina . Amanda was hospitalized for schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, and placed under a legal conservatorship, with her parents in charge for a year. That lapsed this fall, and she quickly went off the rails. Bynes was arrested for DUI and spiraled out of control before being placed under a 5150 hold in L.A. in October. She was surprisingly let out last week. Very much in a fragile state of mind once again these days, she proclaimed Friday, “I’m going to USC,” as part of an epic Amanda Bynes Twitter tirade . She previously attended fashion school at FIDM and has tweeted about transferring to NYU, though she also claimed to be engaged to a guy named Caleb. That’s not true, and it’s unclear if anything she says is. 45 Seriously OMG WTF Amanda Bynes Photos 1. Amanda Bynes is Dope Amanda Bynes thinks she is dope. The actress has posted this photo to Twitter. Bynes, 28, said she was going to court “to fight my mother and father over control of my personal life and control of my finances” upon her release. However, the former child star didn’t show and the judge overseeing the new conservatorship ruled that her mother, Lynn Bynes, will remain in control. How much control she actually has is an open question.
Happy early Halloween, everyone! FX celebrated this holiday by wrapping up the Edward Mordrake storyline on American Horror Story Season 4 Episode 4 . Did this resurrected soul take anyone with him to the “coterie of companions?” Watch American Horror Story Season 4 Episode 4 Online One by one, Mordrake visited the freaks. He asked for their sob stories in order to determine their fate. Elsa, of course, initially believed him to to be Svengali that Esmeralda forecasted wouldd return her to prominence. When it finally dawned on her that he was actually the infamous bogeyman, she argued that “I’m not one of them”… even as Mordrake’s minions yanked off her fake legs. We learned that Elsa was sadistic dominatrix in Germany in 1932. After filming a snuff movie for her some of her clients, she was drugged and had her legs cut off. With a chainsaw. Mordrake was about to take Elsa after hearing this tale, but then he heard music… Jimmy and Esmeralda, meanwhile, were biking back to camp when they witnessed Twist tackling Bonnie after she tried to escape again. They followed him back to the Bus from Hell, but ended up being captured by Dandy. But Jimmy awoke, saw Dandy trying to saw the (phony) psychic in half (while playing the circus music Mordrake heard) and saved Esmeralda. He yelled at her (and Bonnie, Corey and Mike) to run. Twisty was about to stab Jimmy when Edward appeared, forcing him to take off his mask and tell his tragic tale. Turns out, Twisty was driven away by freaks in a different carnival who accused him of molestation. He came back to Jupiter and attempted to make a life at turning junk into toys. But he failed and at one point tried to kill himself via a rifle in the mouth. However, he couldn’t even do that properly! Twisty told Edward that he took the children to save them from their “mean” freaks and parents. His intentions were noble. “You have caused the demon to weep,” said Mordrake, who then stabbed him and added him to the collection of souls. But when Dandy came back to the bus and saw Twisty’s corpse, he put on the dead clown’s mask. GULP. Jimmy told everyone at camp about Twisty’s death and Edward claiming his victim. A mob of regular people then arrived and Mike’s dad shook Jimmy’s hand and a potluck actually broke out, which made Elsa very happy: now she could sell out that night’s show! At the show, Elsa banished the Tattlers from performing and Elsa made an exception for Stanley to attend he introduced himself as Richard Spencer from Hollywood. Finally, in a frightening event you can relive when you watch American Horror Story online , Dandy returned him and was once again mocked by Dora. But, inspired by the new mask, he finally made good on last week’s promise: he slit her throat and laughed.
This stuff sounds like a new-age “Wolf of Wall Street” Investor’s Wife Reveals Sex Trades, Drug Use On Wall Street Via PageSix : Christina Kelly says her investment-banker husband made her go the extra mile to help him land a client — pushing her into a partner-swap with the business honcho and his wild girlfriend. The mom of two revealed details of the kinky alleged hookup — and every drug binge, extramarital pool fling and sex encounter in between — in salacious Manhattan court papers targeting her husband, Jefferies & Co. wunderkind Sage Kelly. Christina Kelly alleges in nearly every page that her $7-million-a-year hubby is nothing but a coke- and Ecstasy-loving, booze-swilling, abusive spouse and dad who lives for seamy sex romps. Christina, 39, said her husband, 42, was trying to woo Aegerion Pharmaceuticals honcho Marc Beer the night she wound up having sex with Beer — and “sexual contact’’ with his prancing, big-breasted girlfriend, according to the papers. The former Ralph Lauren event planner said the sex jaunt occurred in a hotel room at the Ritz-Carlton in Boston in 2012 after a booze- and cocaine-fueled evening. “Soon, Sage and I were having sex with each other on one bed, and Marc and his girlfriend were having sex on the other bed,’’ Christina says in her affidavit. “Then, Marc said, ‘Let’s switch,’ ” she claims in the papers. “Marc suggested that his girlfriend and I have sex with each other. “Mindful of [Sage’s] goal of securing business from Marc, I felt responsible not to disappoint Marc. So, his girlfriend and I had sexual contact for a few minutes, while Marc and Sage watched. “Then, Marc’s girlfriend joined Sage on our bed, and Sage and she started to have sexual relations. “Then, I joined Marc on his bed, and he and I engaged in sexual relations,’’ Christina said in the sworn affidavit. “Following that evening, Marc Beer has been an important client of Sage and, presumably, a substantial reason for Sage’s enormously successful career at his current investment bank, Jefferies and Company Inc.,’’ she said. On top of all that, Kelly says her husband puts their kids in danger by being constantly high and bringing drug-use into their home around their two daughters: She said he once slapped one of the little girls across the face for saying she was afraid she might pee herself — and routinely calls the kids “f–king retard’’ and “f–king idiot.’’ “Mommy, can you please tell Daddy to stop calling me a f–king retard?’’ one of the little girls asked her, the filing says. And Christina said one of her husband’s pals also “inadvertently left a bag of cocaine on a pool table’’ at the family’s Sag Harbor home — and one of the kids stuck her finger in it. Christina says she stopped the child before she could ingest it. Christina said Sage was so into drugs that he once hosted “Mushroom Day” in the Hamptons where “he continually ingested [psychedelic] mushrooms throughout the day . . . while the children were present.” He also urinated and defecated on himself in bed, she said in the papers. Wild stuff, right? Wonder what else goes on in these circles that wives and girlfriends keep quiet about…
WTF ?! Ex-NBA Baller Jeremy Tyler Gets Restraining Order Against Baby Mama For Punching Infant Son According to TMZ reports : Ex-NBA player Jeremy Tyler — who was just released by the Lakers — claims his baby mama went berserk and punched their 10-month-old child last week … and now he’s obtained a restraining order against her. TMZ Sports has learned … the 23-year-old — who’s expected to sign a deal to play in China — filed court docs in L.A. asking for protection from Sukey Rowan … a British national who Tyler’s been with for years. In the docs, Tyler says Rowan got violent during an altercation at his mother’s house on October 18th — when she showed up to the home before she was expected to be there and demanded to see their child. “I brought [the child] outside and she swung at me and tried to hit me while I was holding our son,” Tyler says … “At one point she missed me and hit our son.” Tyler continues, “My sister tried to get between us, and she kicked my sister, who is nine months pregnant, in the stomach.” Tyler says he’s not only concerned for his safety — but worries that Rowan will take the child to the U.K. and that “I will never see him again.” Despite the allegations, Tyler says “I still love Sukey, but I cannot let my son and I live in danger because of her mental issues and violent temper.” A judge granted a temporary restraining order against Rowan — which also bars her from leaving the country with their kid. Damn, this broad ain’t isht. Flip the page to see more of Sukey, Jeremy, and their son in happier times before she starting assaulting infants and pregnant women. Images via Instagram
The Duggars of TLC’s 19 Kids & Counting fame seems like the picture perfect family in many respects, but what goes on behind closed doors? A lot of things you might not expect, according to a surprising new expose. 9 Things BANNED in the Duggar Family 1. Dates Without Chaperones The Duggar parents often accompany their children on dates in order to maintain their “accountability” and “keep things from going in the wrong direction,” per Jim Bob. The girls are fine with this, as being alone with men puts them in grave “moral danger.” When the parents aren’t available, their older siblings will often tag along, making every date a group date and a family affair. With 19 children to raise (or at least 15 now that a handful have reached adulthood), one would think Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar would be exhausted, 24/7. Not necessarily, though. Their maligned ace in the hole: Jana Duggar ! It’s the put-upon eldest daughter who’s exhausted from a lifetime of raising the kids , and some of the other older siblings, who do most of the babysitting. “Jim Bob and Michelle have what they call the ‘buddy system,’” an insider says of the household’s inner workings, and that system works as follows: “Each of the older kids gets paired with a younger kid that they have to watch over and help out. It’s great for them, because it’s like they have a set of free nannies. The kids, however, “don’t really have a choice” in the matter. Jana Duggar, as a 23-year-old, often gets saddled with even more responsibility, as she’s managing the managers as well as her own little buddy. “Jim Bob and Michelle have been known to go out on date night and leave all the kids at home with Jana in charge of the house,” the source says. “They’ll be gone for hours, during which she has to watch over everyone. She does it with a smile, but it’s sad. It’s not like she ever gets a date night!” She’s not even allowed to date , according to some reports. There’s only so much one beautiful young woman can do, too, because of the sheer numbers involved. When the parents are away, the kids run wild. If Jana can’t whip something up for all of them to eat, which is a tall order, “they’ve been known to just have snacks like pretzel sticks and yogurt for dinner.” “They bounce off the walls!” the source claims. “They are allowed to ride their scooters in the house, and even put the youngest kids in a wagon. “They drag them around at high speeds. It seems like they pretty much do whatever they want. They even have an indoor slide and rock climbing wall.” “It’s amazing that no one’s ever gotten hurt.” Or that Jana gets no credit for it. Jana Duggar Photos: So Beautiful, So Maligned 1. Jana Marie Duggar Jana Marie Duggar is so beautiful … and put upon, supposedly, by a family that relies on her to help take care of the others but never have a life of her own. If that’s true, it’s sad. Is it time for her to break free? To their credit, there has been no sign of abuse , mental or physical, or rumors of any legitimate scandals with the family, despite its increasingly high profile. While to a point, you can’t expect a family that large to coexist without a level of chaos thrown into the mix, you have to wonder about the toll it takes on Jana. With Josh Duggar married with children, Jill Duggar marrying Derick Dillard and Jessa Duggar set to get married November 1, Jana’s plight seems even sadder. To see the family as they want to be portrayed on TLC, watch 19 Kids and Counting online to catch up on their comings and goings, then comment below: Should Jim Bob and Michelle cut her a break and bring in some hired help to keep the kids in line instead of their vaunted buddy system? Discuss!
For months now, Ariana Grande diva rumors have been circulating online and in the tabloids, detailing the singer’s mistreatment of fans and staff, as well as her borderline psychotic demands. Ari claims that she’s got nothing in common with the sharp-tongued egomaniac that’s portrayed by the press, and that she’s deeply hurt by the false reports of diva behavior. So hurt, in fact, that she did what so many of us would like to do in our darkest hour – she called up Miley Cyrus and was like, Girl, make it stop! “I was upset and I contacted Miley,” Ariana said in a recent interview with MTV. “She was like, ‘Girl don’t even look at it. Just be happy that you’re blessed. You have family and friends that love you. You have fans that love you who know what’s true and what’s not.” Wow. We would’ve thought Miley’s advice would be more along the lines of smoke a ton of weed and put some weird crap on Instagram , and you’ll feel better instantly! Instead, she offered some genuinely thoughtful input. It’s like these days, she’s twerkin’ with her head…or something. Anyway, for whatever reason, rumors of Ari’s diva behavior have seemed to subside in recent weeks. Grande is officially dating Big Sean now, so maybe the relationship has calmed her down, or perhaps it’s just given the media something else to focus on. Hopefully Miley will be able to offer some advice when the inevitable reports of “drama” between Ari and Sean begin to surface online. 23 Facts About Ariana Grande 1. Her Name Was Inspired By a Cartoon Ariana’s name was inspired by Princess Oriana from Felix the Cat!
Earlier this week, Miley Cyrus admitted that she often drinks prior to taking the stage. A lot. “I got so drunk at other shows, puking at the side of the stage,” Miley told a crowd in Australia , adding: “You can’t be under the influence at shows when you’re gyrating on f–king cars, so I’m sober. Well, sober-ish. I’m trying to create some memories for you motherf–kers here!” Cyrus then went ahead and fell on her giant fake butt: Miley Cyrus Falls on Butt in Concert Miley posted a video of the mishap on Instagram and wrote as a caption that it “never gets old.” But it sort of does, doesn’t it? Some believe Cyrus is trying way too hard to be edgy, while even crossing the line now toward being dangerous. Look at Miley photoshopping her face here in scary fashion. Or Miley photoshopping her baby photo on to other, adult, far more lewd photos. These stunts are mostly harmless, but they’re mostly stupid as well. What do you think of Miley’s antics? Have they grown tiresome by now? Or is the provocative singer, you know, just being Miley? Miley Cyrus’ Weirdest Instagram Photos 1. Miley Cyrus in a Food Bikini Miley Cyrus isn’t just wearing any old bikini in this photo. She’s wearing a bikini that is covered in chicken and waffles. We don’t know why.
