Ashley Williams has opened up about something as personal as it gets for women: A miscarriage. In a detailed and emotional essay for The Human Development Project, The Jim Gaffigan Show star talks with fans about how she found out she miscarried during a trip at Whole Foods with her son Gus, who was nearly two years old at the time. Williams also delves into what transpired after this tragic incident. She says she realized a great deal about herself as a result of the miscarriage and has a message for others who have suffered the same experience but felt they couldn’t discuss it. “My (still bloated) gut feeling is that something even more painful silences us – the fear that we, as women, are failures,” writes Williams, who miscarried eight weeks into her second pregnancy. “Procreation, the driving purpose in our constructed notion of womanhood, is broken by this sudden trauma.” What would the 37-year old like to tell other women in her situation? “You are not broken. You did nothing wrong. You are strong, you are brave, and there is hope.” That feels worth repeating, in old: You are not broken. You did nothing wrong. You are strong, you are brave, and there is hope. In her moving essay, the actress – who played one of Ted Mosby’s major love interests on How I Met Your Mother – explains that she was shocked to learn she isn’t alone. Not by a long shot. Most of her friends have also suffered a miscarriage. “Medical confirmations of the lost pregnancy from OBs, chiropractors, and my acupuncturist use jargon that feeds more self-sabotaging thoughts that I am deficient,” Williams writes. The words tossed about in her presence included: Abnormality … Defect … Incapable … Incomplete … Not viable. You can imagine how painful those are for someone who just miscarried to hear. So Williams wants to change the conversation. “I stand here in front of you, [needing] to normalize my miscarriage,” she concludes. “And I’d love to hear about yours. “I believe it will allow me – and us – to gather hope and strength. As we talk, let’s add some of these words into our lexicon: Survivor … Strong … Abundant … Mother … Hope . About one in four women have miscarried at some point in their lives. Williams want them all to form a movement. “I invite you to start, with me, a vocal army of the 25 percenters who can normalize miscarriage in the social sphere. I was right there next to you at Whole Foods, bleeding out of my shorts. “Now I’m well. I’m a survivor. Healed, I will try again.” View Slideshow: 26 Stars Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage Amen, Ashley Williams. Her essay is titled “I Need to Talk About My Miscarriage” and we’re so glad she has decided to do so.
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Ashley Williams Reveals Miscarriage, Sends Message to Women Everywhere
