Dear Bossip , I am fan of reading your articles. Here is my dilemma. I am in love with a married man. Although I know he loves his wife because they been together for 20 plus years, he feels he is obligated to be with her. I can’t help but to feel like I have been dealt a bad hand. I had gotten pregnant by him but decided to abort it. There isn’t anything in the world that he won’t do for me. He doesn’t work, and his wife works not 1 but 2 full-time jobs and takes care of us. When I need something he calls me and say, “Don’t worry about it because “Mariah” gets paid today.” I love him like there is no tomorrow. I have met all of his family and even some of hers. What am I to do? – In Love With A Married Man Dear Ms. In Love With A Married Man , There is a special place in hell for you and him. Y’all are some ole trifling low-down worthless pieces of –ish!!!! He’s ain’t –ish because he doesn’t have a job, and his wife is working 2 full-time jobs to take care of the home, and then he takes her money and spends it on your home-wrecking sleazy a**. You ain’t –ish because you’re running your goofy whore-ish self into a married man’s arms, and then brag about meeting his family and some of hers. I hope when you both get to hell that the devil and his minions spit nothing but fire on you both! Then you have the nerve to say that life dealt you a bad hand. Well, boo-freaking-hoo! That doesn’t make it okay for you to sleep with someone else’s husband! All of you folks running around here with this woe-is-me attitude and how life is so damn hard, well, guess what? It’s ain’t easy for everybody else either! But, guess what, sweetie, there are those who rise above and stick it out, and learn to play the hand they were dealt and they don’t complain, or make other people’s lives miserable. They do something about their situation, and turn it around. Life ain’t no crystal stair. It’s got some nails and splinters in it. Don’t play victim, and then use that as some sympathy card to go and f**k up another woman’s marriage by sleeping with her husband. That doesn’t do anything but let all of us know that you a low-life, spineless, wreckless bish, and now that we know who are you we will keep a watchful eye on you! And, for the record, this man does not love his wife, and he doesn’t love you. I don’t care what he is telling you, and what lies he’s filling your head with, but if he hasn’t left his wife by now, then guess what, Missy, then he isn’t going to leave her! And, you don’t love him. It’s just lust. And, your vaginal walls need to collapse. You’re asking me what to do? Girl, don’t play with me today with that asinine question. How about his wife punches you in the back of your damn head!?! And, she clips his damn nuts off! How about leave him alone and go find yourself a man who is single and eligible. Stop dating married men, and destroying a home regardless if he wants to have an affair or not. You don’t have to stoop to that level and play yourself, and play second fiddle. How does it feel when he’s with her and their family during the holidays and your a** is sitting at home hoping he will call you or come and spend some time with you? How does it feel waiting for him to come by and then leave and go home to his wife each night? You’re nothing but a side piece, with no biscuit, and no syrup and no jam. Just a piece of dry a** chicken. Why do you women do this to yourselves time and time again by sleeping with someone else’s husband? Why do you fool yourselves into thinking he will leave his wife and come spend the rest of his life with you? That –ish is not going to happen. No matter what he is telling you. Those empty broken promises are nothing more than a ruse to keep you around as his jump-off, and mistress while he gets to have his cake and eat it too. Don’t you think you’re more than that? Don’t you think you deserve better? Don’t you want a man who will fully commit to you, and only you? If this man doesn’t have a job, then how the hell can he take care of you? You and his wife are taking care of him. He can’t bring anything to the table, and has nothing to offer you but his penis, and your simple dumba** thinks you’ve hit the jackpot. Yeah, you are riding the slow bus and deserve to be in special education classes. Just a simple a** trick. And, he’s a pimp. He’s pimping his wife, and pimping you. And, if he’s your pimp, then guess what that makes you? (Jeopardy’s theme music begins to play) Look, it’s time you take inventory to find out what you’re missing, and why your self-esteem is so low. Why are you allowing yourself to be in this situation and ruin another woman’s life and marriage? Your spiritual house is out of order, and until you cleanse your spirit, and readjust some things in your life, then nothing good will ever happen for you. You’ll always wonder why you don’t have a good relationship with other people. You’ll always wonder why your finances are consistently low, and you’re not blessed with more. You’ll always wonder why health is deteriorating and you can’t seem to get well. And, all you have to do is look at your relationship with this married man and you’ll get all your answers. – Terrance Dean Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think? Share your opinions and thoughts below! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean : loveandrelationships@bossip.com Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter : @terrancedean “LIKE” Terrance Dean on Facebook , click HERE! 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Dear Bossip: I’m Dating A Married Man Who Doesn’t Work & He Takes His Wife’s Money To Spend On Us
