Hey Bossip, do I have a problem? I’ve been with my man for 7 years now and he’s been cheating since day one. He’s a professional athlete and makes a lot of money as you could imagine and in the beginning I used to really get upset whenever I found out he was cheating lol. But now I just don’t care because every time I find out he’s messing around with other women I get lavish gifts. They range any where from Louis luggage, to Range Rovers, diamonds, vacations pretty much all the things that women love lol! I don’t love him anymore and his whoring behavior continues and I’m just to a point where I don’t care anymore. As long as I’m being taken care of and get what I want I just don’t care. I don’t want to remain in a loveless relationship but I’m so used to this lifestyle I have I don’t want to give that up. Is there something wrong with me? Good day to you, sis! Thank you for writing in and sharing your story. Trying to find the parts of what you’ve expressed that make you “lol?” So, you’ve got the gift that keeps on giving and you continue to receive. In fact, you enjoy receiving despite the premise off which your are being gifted! He cheats, you find out, fuss about it, probably threaten to leave and you get “lavish gifts” that every woman wants. On the other hand, you’re willingly accepting the treatment that a lot of women do not. For some, an honest, caring, compassionate man who can resist his sexual urges with random women would fit the bill regardless of lifestyle and income. His whoring behavior continues because you allow it and he knows what to do to keep you where he wants you. So, in essence, the choice is yours, lovely! And you are seemingly content. It’s completely understood that you’ve grown accustomed to the “finer things” that life has to offer, but at the end of this life that we live you can’t take any of those THINGS with you! What do you want to do other than live this “lavish” life of luxury? How do you want to be remembered? Do you have any long term goals and aspirations? Can you get some schooling sponsored by this man? A rec center for underprivileged children? Non-profit organization? A business? If you’re going to stay with this man for convenience alone, do something to give back from time to time and since you’re into gifts, why not request one that he can’t take away from you – a degree or two … maybe even a PhD, just a thought. You say you don’t care but that’s hard to believe. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t be writing in wanting to know if something is wrong with you. Sounds like with all the THINGS that you have, thanks to your baller athlete, you still feel empty otherwise you would need no validation. Seriously, ma, really try and figure out what you want out of life and go after it! There’s nothing more rewarding that being able to provide that lifestlye for yourself! Hard work and dedication is what it’s going to take, but you must, first, believe you can do it. Good luck to you, sis! Good luck! What do you think Bossip Fam? Please share your thoughts below! Please remember to e-mail all topic suggestions, feedback and questions to loveandrelationships@bossip.com !
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Dear Bossip: He’s Rich, He’s Cheating and I Don’t Care
